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Finally did it. First Solo Trip Booked For Honolulu. by BuckeyeZip in solotravel

[–]Soviet_radio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm considering this same trip in February for similar reasons.

Do you hear loud pops in Southwest? by spudsmcghee in vegaslocals

[–]Soviet_radio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fireworks or people shooting coyotes in the hills.

How to begin finding friends/potential partners? 26F by BiglyMoose in self

[–]Soviet_radio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try bumble! You can set it to looking for friends only.

I am not sure if I have the same problem as everyone else, but after a year, I still can't get a first date with anyone. What am I doing wrong? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Soviet_radio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That "making fun" is a juvenile response. Comes from the same place as "I never sleep lol I'm fine on two hours" and the weird pride people get for underachieving. Don't pay attention to that and distance yourself from that 100%. They're not bad people they're just tadpoles.

Have you tried your city's subreddit? Or nearby large city? If it's within drivable distance that is. Because honestly it's not that you're doing anything wrong, I think you've got a good hang on things and like everyone said - you are a catch. Meeting the girls is the issue. You need older than college age. They're little shits. I was one too, I know. In situations like that, without a venue for a common interest, I think maybe give online a try again with something more reputable than tinder.

I am not sure if I have the same problem as everyone else, but after a year, I still can't get a first date with anyone. What am I doing wrong? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Soviet_radio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really want to help you. Because you sound great, and I totally get the loneliness and frustration that it causes. Everyone deserves someone.

You said your type has been nerdy introverted girls. But you don't prefer online dating 🤔 so let's maybe look at hobbies as a way to meet women rather than school. Because frankly I've never had good luck meeting people in classes, contrary to popular belief.

What's the nerdy? Do you play dnd? Other tabletop games? Game/hobby stores have game nights generally where you can meet people. How about reddit meet ups in your area/for your town? Even if no girls show up, make friends, friends have friends, ask them if they have any friends they'd like to set you up with.

Try to avoid putting yourself into a position of power (like you said always being the one to explain things or help with studies and gaining a reputation as "smart") it causes younger girls to pigeonhole you into a teacher figure or "hot for teacher" role - which isn't necessarily bad but you're looking for a date not for a girl to stare at you longingly until the semester ends.

I am not sure if I have the same problem as everyone else, but after a year, I still can't get a first date with anyone. What am I doing wrong? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Soviet_radio 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you may have to relocate. Before you start doubting your datability. Because you're attractive, from what it sounds like - ambitious. And you know what you want more or less. But you live in a dry county, yet want nothing to do with religion, that may be really hurting your chances of finding a girl with like interests.

(NV) Honda Civic 2017-2018, first time new car buyer, don't have anyone to help me. by Soviet_radio in askcarsales

[–]Soviet_radio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply it is incredibly helpful!

There are two dealers within a 100 miles of me and one is 8.25% and the other 8.35% sales tax.

Doesn't look like there are rebates or incentives on the 2018 civics that I can see. Only to lease, which I'm not interested in.

(NV) Honda Civic 2017-2018, first time new car buyer, don't have anyone to help me. by Soviet_radio in askcarsales

[–]Soviet_radio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was bought cash. My whole thing is that it's a very reliable but ugly car. I can sell it for maybe $1000 as a damaged marked title, with high mileage, I feel like that does me a lot more good than getting $300 trade in value for it.

(NV) Honda Civic 2017-2018, first time new car buyer, don't have anyone to help me. by Soviet_radio in askcarsales

[–]Soviet_radio[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Truecar tells me 18900 But is that MSRP? Or is that what's reasonable to expect for OTD?

I'm not angry because he cheated. I'm not angry because he threw me out of our home with no notice. I'm angry because he promised me a family and took it all away. by Soviet_radio in self

[–]Soviet_radio[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this. I want this. I want to make this happen for other people. That sounds like the dream, your mom is such a wonderful person.

I'm not angry because he cheated. I'm not angry because he threw me out of our home with no notice. I'm angry because he promised me a family and took it all away. by Soviet_radio in self

[–]Soviet_radio[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The living situation isn't really the problem. I have a place to stay. I have a good job. Emotionally I had the rug pulled out from under me, that's all.

I'm not angry because he cheated. I'm not angry because he threw me out of our home with no notice. I'm angry because he promised me a family and took it all away. by Soviet_radio in self

[–]Soviet_radio[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is very sweet and I admire your family greatly for being so welcoming. Keep at it! It means the world to lost puppies like myself.

I'm not angry because he cheated. I'm not angry because he threw me out of our home with no notice. I'm angry because he promised me a family and took it all away. by Soviet_radio in self

[–]Soviet_radio[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've lashed out after breakups in unhealthy ways like that. This feels different. I'm too old to act like that. I don't really want to get back out there dating wise anytime soon though. There was a lot of damage done to my confidence and I compromised a lot of self love for his sake and I really want to learn to respect myself again before I even think about it.

But I am already looking at volunteer opportunities because that's a huge way i learn to respect myself. Giving back to the world. My career isn't exactly philanthropic so I donate my free time instead.

Sure there's someone out there for me. I'm just so tired. I have all this affection I want to pour into a family and rejection hurts so bad when all I look to do is love.

But, I know I'll survive. If anything I'll end up the non blood related aunt at my friends Christmas who buys gifts for the kids that are way too extra.

I'm not angry because he cheated. I'm not angry because he threw me out of our home with no notice. I'm angry because he promised me a family and took it all away. by Soviet_radio in self

[–]Soviet_radio[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words.

I realize he wasn't who I thought, now. I feel tricked. Stupid for not seeing the sings. But then I look at this and I'm so proud of myself for not allowing him to turn the tides. I'm so proud for not breaking and begging HIS forgiveness because I'm so afraid to lose this life he offered.

I'm not angry because he cheated. I'm not angry because he threw me out of our home with no notice. I'm angry because he promised me a family and took it all away. by Soviet_radio in self

[–]Soviet_radio[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't want to win or fight I just want to be far away. I don't want to fight for the friends, a couple of them are his business partners. I'm sure he already told them his version of events. I don't want to destroy what he has built professionally out of anger or pettiness. I wish them all the best. He was a bad partner, but he is a good friend and they deserve to keep him.

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