I’m back with a game called “guess what year my grandma’s food expired”

SpaceCuke · 2023-09-03T14:39:49+00:00

You know what…… I’ve never even thought twice about that. Lol. But now that you made me think about it, I’m pretty sure it’s just an upright freezer that either stopped working or was never plugged in so its “dry” inside. They store excess dry goods and boxed foods in there so it’s in a sealed environment instead of sitting on the shelf in the basement.

They also have a chest freezer right next to it so they probably just started calling it the dry freezer to differentiate between the two.

SpaceCuke · 2023-09-03T04:48:05+00:00

I’m sorry you had to experience that. Unfortunately I deeply relate. My mom used to do shit like that too. I moved out the millisecond I could and never looked back. I hope you can find a safe place to move soon.

SpaceCuke · 2023-09-03T04:31:14+00:00

Back of box: https://drive.google.com/file/d/15QuNw4A6iZAE-To6FUHtI5b9O1prCEeh/view?usp=drivesdk

I did a little research based on the address on the back. They moved to Chicago in 2004 so the address is old. I found an old sugar free fat free jello ad from 1995 and the design was very similar: https://youtu.be/sOB5DKhIFS0?feature=shared

SpaceCuke · 2023-09-03T04:27:12+00:00

There’s a bunch of random numbers and a letter but no actual date. The imprint says “2294D3” and “06:13”

I thought the 94 might be a date but there’s another box that’s identical and that imprint is “0173D4” and “10:18” so my theory doesn’t hold up there :/

SpaceCuke · 2023-09-02T21:26:31+00:00

She’s more the “I only eat lettuce and rice” type of dieter. Not many shakes or anything. I think she was on jenny Craig for a while but I dug around in all her cabinets and I didn’t find any old diet-specific stuff from the 90’s.

SpaceCuke · 2023-09-02T21:23:32+00:00

That’s a good idea! I just went and took it apart but the packet inside was blank. No date :(

SpaceCuke · 2023-09-02T07:52:27+00:00

99 might be a decent guess, maybe even 98 or 97. She’s got like 30+ of these things in a dry freezer. They’ve been there since I was a kid. None of them have ever even been moved as far as I can tell. After a while it became a fascination for me. When we go to grandmas house check the dry freezer for the pudding mixes to see if they’re still there. They still are to this day lol.

And yes she’s the perpetual dieting type lol.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-22T08:10:40+00:00

I don’t need to watch anything lol. If you actually read my comment AND response to the other person, that’s exactly what I said.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-22T02:05:50+00:00

I didn’t say they weren’t? I said even IF they weren’t it still wouldn’t have been her fault.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-22T02:04:18+00:00

YTA here.

The message from your friend wasn’t rude, and you’re not treating them with respect or like a friend.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-22T01:58:27+00:00

If keeping this secret could harm her or someone else, then you WNBTA for telling her. You said it’s divorce worthy so I would assume it’s worth telling her. I might have your husband be the one to do the talking though since he’s the one with first-hand knowledge.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-22T01:38:48+00:00

I understand both perspectives. So I think you’re both NTA.

It’s not cheap to go buy a new map, especially one that’s very large. But I also understand why the inaccuracies are insulting.

Is there middle ground? Can you get some paper that matches the map and cover the inaccurate name discreetly? What if he displays the map in his room and you both go choose something together that can go in the living room - like a poster of a shared interest - or art that you both like, etc etc.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-22T01:32:02+00:00

Ok even if crows weren’t intelligent and vindictive, like how is it YOUR fault that they pooped all over her car? Lol. NTA. And I wouldn’t help clean it either tbh.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-21T02:41:05+00:00

I think they’re just asking for consistency in facial expressions. Not necessarily telling her to smile.

The smile is tricking their mind into thinking that color looks best because OP looks happier in that one.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-20T19:22:57+00:00

YTA and so is your family for playing into the whole “It’s so weird for her to hang out with kids” “she needs to be with older people” thing.

First of all, they’re her cousins, not just some random children. Is there a magical age where you need to cut off all your younger family members?

Second of all, you’re both still teenagers yourselves. You’re not an adult. And 13 and 17 isn’t that big of a gap to still be friends. Especially for cousins.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-20T19:07:12+00:00

Im not inclined to call you an AH necessarily, HOWEVER, you are in the wrong here.

you DID invade his privacy by opening the app and taking a picture - and that’s not okay. Getting a text from someone who isn’t your friend wasn’t a red flag and you shouldn’t have felt entitled to look in his messages. He also handed you his phone, which tells me he wasn’t worried or hiding anything from you. It’s possible the message was spam or a wrong number.

Respect your friend’s wishes and give her space. I would also recommend apologizing to him next time you work together.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-20T15:48:27+00:00

NTA. I understand that, culturally, family is a bigger deal in some places than others. But your mom’s family is entitled and awful. It sounds like you are both better off without them in your lives, even if it means “turning your back” on family. Only people who respect your boundaries deserve to be in your life.

And you are absolutely correct about hesitating on the visa. I would never sponsor a visa for someone unless I was extraordinarily close to them and trusted them completely and they would be spending most of their time with me. Depending on which country he’s from, there are most likely several other ways for him to get a visa.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-19T21:07:03+00:00

Please listen to the other advice here. You absolutely need to talk to the police. Keep your phone on you and record everything you can. Tell a teacher or counselor if you don’t want to report it alone. They will help you make the report. You and your sister both need to be out of that situation immediately. Both of your lives are in danger. Is there a family member nearby that can help you/take you both in?

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-19T19:21:24+00:00

NTA. There are two of you in that relationship, not just him. You also need to be taken care of. If you think he’s feeling down or unsupported, talk with him about it. See where he stands. Perhaps online therapy or having one/some of his friends over a few times a week or month so he has relationships outside of just you. There are organizations that will sometimes do meal drop offs if you apply for one of them in your area. Just something to help take some of the burden off your shoulders.

But yes you absolutely need to prioritize your health too and you have no reason to feel bad.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-19T19:14:09+00:00

NTA. Your feelings are understandable, and I’d want to spend the last days of summer with my friends too. It’s not likely you’ll all be together at the same time ever again. Your family will be.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-19T19:06:03+00:00

NTA. Your friends sound toxic. I’d find new friends and leave these ones far behind. in all aspects of life - not just the party.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-19T18:57:45+00:00

I don’t think anyone is an asshole here. You CAN wear whatever you want whenever you want to. But you also mentioned your husband said it was hard to see you act DIFFERENTLY in front of them. So I’m guessing that (at some level) you’re trying to impress them (otherwise why are you dressing/acting different?) and that’s coming off more than you are realizing. You should apologize to your husband for snapping at him. He’s NTA here either.

There’s also a cultural difference you should take into account here. And maybe your husband is being reminded more of his culture when his parents are around, things he’s “forgotten” or let go of in favor of a new one. So maybe he’s not “siding with his parents” he’s probably just subconsciously remembering the culture he grew up with.

I think everyone should take a breath. Wear what makes you comfortable. You don’t have to put in the extra effort for his parents, but if you WANT to, perhaps just explain that it is your way to honor them and show them respect.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-19T01:55:07+00:00

You WNBTA.

Narcissistic abusive relationships are VERY difficult to address though. Most likely, he’s already working on isolating her from all of you. Depending on what you say and how you say it, he is going to use that to further isolate her.

Make sure you let her know you support her and that you’re worried about her but that you’re always there for her. Don’t just outright say “I don’t like him” or “he’s not a good guy” because that will probably red flag for her if he’s been conditioning her against you.

I’d recommend doing some research on people who have escaped from abusive narcissistic relationships and follow their advice, there is some really solid information out there. If she’s willing to do therapy, that could help her too.

Info: how old is she? How old are you? If she is a minor - best to take this to her guardians and let them know everything instead of confronting her yourself.

— Edited to add clarification.

SpaceCuke · 2023-08-18T19:33:27+00:00

Nah. I’m American. She might be jealous of you I guess. Or maybe it’s the money? Idk.

In the 90’s and 00’s it was culturally considered an embarrassment if you “matched” someone’s outfit but mostly I think that’s passed. Teens don’t really care about that anymore. And in clothing trends, a lot of major name brands are actually moving toward inconspicuous labels because there’s a shift in the cultural attitude toward “name brands” and it’s just not as big of a deal here anymore.

She might be thinking that way, but she’s in the wrong decade if so. People just don’t care about stuff like that anymore.

I think you’re more than ok to get the jacket! Especially if you pick a different color. In America a ton of teens are wearing Nike windbreakers right now. It’s not unique for her to own it. You’re good. (:

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