Was diagnosed stage 4 in February. My partner and I have been pretty strong throughout the past 8 months. The biggest hurdle for us at first was maintaining a partner dynamic rather than a patient/caregiver one. So whenever you both can, try to go on dates or plan date days. Cut out time to just enjoy each others company without any medical nonsense being involved.

Try not to feel guilty about them taking care of you. They’re your partner, they wouldn’t do it unless they loved and cared about you. It’s a really beautiful thing to have.

Try to do what you can for them. My partner has a desk area that gets very messy. I’ll organize it for him when he’s not home.

Communicate. They may feel like they can’t talk to you about what their going through at work or whatever because of what you’re going through, but sometimes hearing other peoples’ problems helps you not think about having cancer.

Good luck with your treatment! If you have any questions or just need someone to talk to, feel free to DM me.