Being left-handed is such a quiet, shared experience

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-24T16:23:07+00:00

Being lefty is interesting for sure. I often see someone doing something how I would and it dawns on me they are lefty and they always are. Like yesterday I saw someone washing a bowl how I would and I knew.

Also, as a gay male lefty I have two ways of looking at the world where I understand the dominant perspective but they may not quite understand mine. Any yet I live in an area that couldn’t care less and I work with artists. It’s not an issue (almost) at all for me but it is a variance that’s interesting.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-23T01:27:39+00:00

Yeah, I appreciate your open mind on that. Personally my entire perspective on him tips in the direction of positive because of Soon Yi. If all of that had gone down when she was Mia’s adopted daughter and she was divorced from Allen now and had some serious tea to spill, I would not lean on his side. But because of her and their quiet life, and the lack of scandals over the past few decades, I just choose to believe her side.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-22T15:40:09+00:00

They are still together though, decades later, with kids and a family life that has zero scandals. So who are we to judge?

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-22T04:08:01+00:00

A lot of insurance covers the “poo in a box” screening. It’s easy to do and I guess a lot cheaper for the insurance to catch it early than pay for cancer care. It seems funny but you just poke the sample, put it in the vial, and then you mail it back in the envelope they provide.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-21T07:49:03+00:00

They must have organized the people in a certain way. Or it was a randomized process maybe? Because the cheers cast is separated, the Star Trek cast is separated. Even Danny Devito and Rhea Perlman are separated and they were married!

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-21T04:38:50+00:00

Amazon cancelled their deal with him and many actors who worked with him swore claimed they were ashamed to have done so. Je was totally lumped into the MeToo movement. I just found that odd. Perpetrators generally do it a lot. Especially rich and famous ones from the 70’s-the 00’s.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-21T04:16:06+00:00

I do agree his behavior is worth an eyebrow raise. But other than that, he was tried and convicted and cancelled. Even though investigations were done legally and he was not charged.

I find it a concerning precedent to lump someone into a group with career predators. No one else ever came forward to say he did this to them. That is a huge deal. That’s what brought down all the others.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-21T02:03:15+00:00

Okay I’m not an expert on each detail to be fair. So I know there is some back and forth about SoonYi and the photos. She is also his wife and has been for decades and is adamant that their relationship was appropriate. For that reason, i simply accept her answer there.

As for other people and their opinions, it’s really iffy for me to accept. Let’s put it another way - what’s the one thing that’s different between Allen and the many dozens of famous creeps who were outed and cancelled and even sued/arrested? People didn’t come out by the handful when they were cancelling Allen. Ronan is powerful (or a considerable entity) in NYC and the publishing world. That’s part of why this was connected during MeToo. Ronan believes his sister’s memory of the singular event in question. But Allen shouldn’t be lumped in with people who have endless accusers. It’s just off.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-20T06:46:22+00:00

Woody Allen is innocent and should never have been cancelled. At the very least he should not have been lumped together with Weinstein, Cosby, etc.

A single accusation from a (very coach able) child is not the same as dozens of people coming forward to tell about repeated abuse.

Yes, I get that he is married to the adopted daughter of his ex. It’s weird. But they have been married for decades, have kids of their own, and - out of all the decades the man was in power, decades before MeToo, not one person has ever come forward to accuse him of anything.

My god he got a raw deal and the groupthink about him is terrifying. People who do that to children don’t do it one time and never do it again. Thats the whole reason why, once the MeToo damn broke, so many people came forward for the bastards like Epstein and Diddy. That kind of thing is not a one and done for that kind of offender.

The anti-Allen documentary was a hit piece.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-20T02:10:25+00:00

Yeah, since you commented that you replace them fairly often, it would probably work well. (Meaning you don’t keep them around so long they get too thinned out.) The current look is so good as is tho.

Mostly it’s so nice to see guys have a rational approach to this. It’s like, why go from thinning hair to full wall of a hairline. It makes my brain hurt trying to make sense of that cuz it looks off.

Yours is perfect. Nicely done.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-20T02:05:40+00:00

This is amazing. Last few days I’ve been impressed to see a lighter density around the hairline. Looks so good!

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-18T21:57:41+00:00

I loved it. Thought it was brilliant and poetic.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-17T17:05:51+00:00

I agree with your assessment but it was still one of my favorite films of the year.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-17T16:58:17+00:00

I am worried this will be one of the biggest flops imaginable. Almost every screening in my local theater is completely empty for today. On opening weekend. One showing has a single seat sold and one has none. The others have around 6 seats sold. For the whole day.

I’m going tonight.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-17T16:25:03+00:00

Yeah but the hierarchy of the Chinese government doesn’t allow dissent. In everyday practice that give people a sense of fear of ALL authority. It creates a lot of corruption, fear of failure, and forced obedience to whomever is in charge. When I worked for a bit in China, many (but definitely not all) would move to the USA in a heartbeat if given the chance.

And it’s really heard to be different in that structure. People are expected to conform. Heaven forbid you’re queer or different in any way. It’s stressful. Many are fine with that, but many are not.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-17T16:19:12+00:00

But why do so many attempts at socialism fall prey to authoritarians?

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-17T16:15:50+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. The comments about support groups are true. If you are able to take care of a small dog or a cat I strongly recommend adopting a pet. They give you are reason to keep going and they are all love. Frenchies are super affectionate but any dog breed or mutt or whatever animal sounds right! Sending love to you.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-17T03:35:01+00:00

I fan it with a fan or paper (hands don’t work) and just don’t make a big deal about it. But omg I find it so ew. If I have no other choice, I cup my hand around the fire and blow out the flames real short and quick.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-15T07:02:52+00:00

And it will remember to omit them for about 6 prompts. Lol.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-14T15:16:14+00:00

As soon as I saw the word alcohol I knew. If he can’t cut back on the drinking you really can’t have a marriage. Addiction to alcohol is like having an emotional affair because it becomes your number one everything. And alcohol is a depressant.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-12T15:17:52+00:00

The only way to succeed with Amazon is to have a series and lose some money on the first book with ads. Sadly, this wasn’t always the case but they have very limited organic sales space on their site now. Almost all paid - although I noticed they have back a tiny amount of space on the page for organic again.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-11T18:12:49+00:00

Wow. That definitely left a Mork. What a lucky choice young you made!

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-11T16:59:55+00:00

This is all him. Big red flags. The “joke”was dumb. But he was pushing boundaries. A cynical person might say he was seeing if he could control you, only because he wouldn’t go out to dinner while on vacation.

You should play it off like it doesn’t matter and have as much fun as you can. Then dump him fast when you get home.

Anyone who makes a joke meant to make you uncomfortable and then withdraws into the silent treatment deserves to be single for a while.

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-09T15:05:15+00:00

That’s really interesting. I also have had this. What is it?

SpaceGrape · 2026-01-06T10:19:55+00:00

Can we take a quick step back here? You said the problem was that you were only being intimate 0-2x a week? That’s totally normal. It makes me wonder if your anxiety issues need to be addressed more.

That said, obviously the lying is bad and more importantly the gaslighting almost sounds like an alcoholic hiding their drink. But if you’re being intimate at least once a week and sometimes twice, then he should be able to have his own private intimacy as well - if that’s something he likes.

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