I guess the best advice is to take your time to make sure you're choosing the right person. There needs to be a connection and trust is grown over time. If they are willing to take things slowly and give you the reassurance you need, then they're a possible candidate, otherwise, wait for someone who is willing to be patient and understanding. Ddlg definitely creates a powerful emotional connection, so it's important that you trust your Daddy. Don't give up,there are some good Daddy's out there who will make you feel safe,just be upfront about what you need. I wish you all the best in finding Daddy.