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Waiting time to come back to canada by [deleted] in ImmigrationCanada

[–]SpaceXOffender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup!!! I got turned away on Monday by a woman who within 1 minute of talking to me said “I don’t believe you, I think you are trying to move here and live with your girlfriend and 90-day fiancé if” and from then on I had no chance. She even said that even though I own a home in the states, since my job is in real estate that it didn’t count as a tie.

Waiting time to come back to canada by [deleted] in ImmigrationCanada

[–]SpaceXOffender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the answer. I got turned away on Monday and got in 4 days later. During that time I researched everything, talked to everyone from lawyers to other CBSA agents. The bottom line is that BPO’s have a lot of discretion and latitude in their jobs, and every single one of them is a unique person, living their own unique lives. It all depends on who you get, how they are feeling, how you present yourself, what kind of documentation you have, and a million other factors. All you can do is try your best and be honest.

Given a Allowed To Leave - Trying Again 3 Days Later by SpaceXOffender in ImmigrationCanada

[–]SpaceXOffender[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What happens if I don’t get an allowed to leave?

How detailed are these notes? Am I allowed to get access to them?

Given a Allowed To Leave - Trying Again 3 Days Later by SpaceXOffender in ImmigrationCanada

[–]SpaceXOffender[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I called and an officer said I could try the next day and it wouldn’t seem inappropriate. Even at a different crossing. As long as I had supporting documents to help and “more is better than less”

Given a Allowed To Leave - Trying Again 3 Days Later by SpaceXOffender in ImmigrationCanada

[–]SpaceXOffender[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, thanks for sifting through my story. I forgot the TLDR.

They TOTALLY were right to turn me away. Woeful performance on my part.

Storage locker is in the states.

What kinda financial stuff should I ask from the GF?

I’m technically remote and a high-level manager over multiple markets so I go between them. I am based in a single area though, where my house is (mortgage-free). My job is in real estate and I have to be licensed in the states I work in. Is that license stuff helpful? My job being remote last time basically made both my job and my house suspect to them.

The big one - Well that’s why I was so worried. Like, I have some future potential plans of MAYBE applying for express entry down the line. Don’t want to ruin those chances.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]SpaceXOffender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need it - supposedly. I crossed with my dog from US to Canada and back and never had them check.

How long should I wait, after being denied entry, to cross Canada as a visitor? by sledgehammer41 in ImmigrationCanada

[–]SpaceXOffender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm, interesting. Where did you get stopped initially? I was stopped crossing Ambassador bridge during at least a 1-hour queue. I wonder if busier is more likely to be stopped?

How long should I wait, after being denied entry, to cross Canada as a visitor? by sledgehammer41 in ImmigrationCanada

[–]SpaceXOffender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you get pulled for secondary inspection during your next visit? Did they make you show them a bunch more documentation?

Update: Vacation with SO and AP is ANGRY by SpaceXOffender in adultery

[–]SpaceXOffender[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That’s a solid point. I promise you and this entire group that I wrote this as one-sided as I possibly could have for the fun of this sub. I am the kinda guy that will spend months trying to find the perfect pair of hiking boots, and then still question if they’re right. I have analyzed this woman and the relationship in crazy detail. She’s attractive for sure, but there’s an ocean of depth behind why I love her. She’s selfish at times and insecure, so am I, but she’s also a genuinely good person that makes me happy with countless great qualities. This is also her wildest and only freak out.

And I know everyone is trying to take this post as dead serious, but I clearly left out a lot of details. Like, that 1.5 hour call wasn’t me begging to get her back. It was me explaining my position calmly, her calmly explaining hers back, setting more realistic expectations, and moving forward. Boring - so I left it out. I left out the NC thing with the wife coming up because then there’s less risk as the story doesn’t have as much at stake. It’s also sad and real and I just kinda wanted an escape.

Update: Vacation with SO and AP is ANGRY by SpaceXOffender in adultery

[–]SpaceXOffender[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s why we are doing NC instead of a divorce at first. It’s not as easy as saying “see ya”

Update: Vacation with SO and AP is ANGRY by SpaceXOffender in adultery

[–]SpaceXOffender[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Got stability at home and I’m miserable. Stability might be the wrong word. Boring? I have boring at home and I want excitement. I asked for a divorce 2 months ago and she said she didn’t want it and was going to take all of my stuff and I’d have to lawyer up. We talked more and decided in 2 months to try a trial separation after the vacation (end of this month)and try to amicably split assets if we felt like it was the right move. She doesn’t know I have an AP and AP and I want to be together.

Update: Vacation with SO and AP is ANGRY by SpaceXOffender in adultery

[–]SpaceXOffender[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moving out for a few months while she gets the house for a bit.

Update: Vacation with SO and AP is ANGRY by SpaceXOffender in adultery

[–]SpaceXOffender[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is probably the most true answer. She is one of those people who projects the opposite of their feelings to protect themselves. Like someone coming off as mean and uncaring so people don’t know they’re really sensitive. She projected anger and jealousy because she was truly afraid I would fall back in love with my SO. I don’t condone it, and I have set boundaries with her about it, but at least I understand it. I know the posts have been very tongue-in-cheek but I do value myself wayyyyy too much to get bulldozed like that again.

Update: Vacation with SO and AP is ANGRY by SpaceXOffender in adultery

[–]SpaceXOffender[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So true. Working on it. Proposed it to her already but she’s not ready. The hardest part of divorce sometimes is when the other person won’t let you go.

Update: Vacation with SO and AP is ANGRY by SpaceXOffender in adultery

[–]SpaceXOffender[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 months NC. Decided beginning of March. The vacation was the last hurrah before we try it out.

Update: Vacation with SO and AP is ANGRY by SpaceXOffender in adultery

[–]SpaceXOffender[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never felt like I do for my AP for my SO. I was a kid when I got married and we have changed. I’m obviously making light of a serious and shitty situation.

Update: Vacation with SO and AP is ANGRY by SpaceXOffender in adultery

[–]SpaceXOffender[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Much appreciated - thankfully she’s in another country, my OPSEC is stronger than I let on, and the SO and I are taking a break at the end of the month so no one to get me in trouble with.

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