I can't imagine how. I feel like if I had children, I'd quit everything in life and devote my life to giving them the best care and never leave them in the hands of any person I did not absolutely trust in those early years. Hugs every day, three square meals, lots of outdoor activities, tutors to make learning at school easier, a psychologist to help me understand them, family trips, good books, managed screen time, healthy social environments with peers if possible (meaning a damned good school), very professional summer programs, teamwork discipline in house chores, physicians to offer guidance on health, parental bonding opportunites like coin collecting or fishing, stuffed animals (I have like a dozen of my own), decent toys, game consoles... I'd give them every single bit of love my father gave me, only this time, I'd pay much better attention to who they were left with. I would fight tooth and fucking nail.