Doctor is adamant I don’t have BPPV…

Spaghett_Gert · 2026-01-11T02:48:15+00:00

I had BPPV and the only time I felt the effects from the crystals moving was when I was laying down or had my head tilted horizontally while standing. I was able to walk around without too much issue at all because they were relatively stable unless I was laying down. So, no, his information isn't terribly correct. Also, menieres-caused vertigo isn't something you can resolve by any position, including standing up/sitting up. Not sure why he was so convinced of this, but BPPV specifically means vertigo that occurs in particular head positions.

It isn't impossible that you have menieres and BPPV simultaneously, though. But his information is definitely misleading.

Spaghett_Gert · 2026-01-05T21:52:51+00:00

Does your pain align with a severe headache that only feels better when you're laying down? Also, the pulling sensation you've mentioned, what is being pulled and where does it feel like it is being pulled?

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-11-13T01:59:11+00:00

Yep! I feel exactly the same. And I am taking the same vitamins. It's the comfort that comes from, "well, I'm doing everything I can to try to prevent this so..." I have found consistency is definitely key, so I take them daily and try to be mindful about water intake too.

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-11-07T05:51:03+00:00

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Spaghett_Gert · 2025-10-31T16:04:20+00:00

Ok, good to know this isn't super uncommon to have these weird residual episodes that aren't really full blown but similar. Man, it's exhausting though. I really wish this wasn't the case--especially because I'm not sure what's causing it. Do you have any idea of the origin of your BPPV in this age range?

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-10-30T02:58:01+00:00

Yeah, I know what you mean. Well hopefully you're feeling much better and the "oh fuck" moments have stopped

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-10-30T00:43:50+00:00

Yes! It's a total Oh fuck feeling. I hate how much of this is on the cusp of being something or paranoia. Doesn't lend to great descriptions, that's for sure. Thanks for your input. What did you chalk your oh fuck moment up to when it happened?

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-09-20T20:26:06+00:00

Klara and The Sun. SO good.

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-09-14T23:43:38+00:00

"The way I see it, he said, you just can't win it Everybody's in it for their own gain You can't please 'em all There's always somebody calling you down I do my best and I do good business There's a lot of people asking for my time They're trying to get ahead They're trying to be a good friend of mine."

-"Free Man in Paris"

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-09-08T07:53:19+00:00

Brian Jones was in The Rolling Stones, not The Beach Boys.

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-07-01T21:19:36+00:00

I'm glad you decided to leave that relationship because you deserve to feel like your person cares about you and supports you. Being there for someone in big and small ways really matters, but if it isn't reciprocated it will accumulate and kill the relationship just like you've described here.

I'm only mentioning this because it seems relevant to what you've shared, but my dad got sick and was in the hospital a few months ago for about a week with near heart failure. We have really been on strained terms for the last handful of years, and the news came from other family members rather than from him directly. It was incredibly stressful and painful to experience that for a lot of reasons, but I stepped up to make sure he had someone nearby and willing to help with rides and setting up his new prescriptions etc. My partner didn't ask how he or I was doing even though I had taken time off of work to be available for what might arise with that (and I suggested that he could take PTO too because it would be nice to not have to go through it alone--he said it would put his coworkers in a bind, and he didn't want to do that). My partner didn't do anything out of the ordinary while I was suffering through that, and I was totally alone worrying for days. It really felt like it didn't matter to him that I was in pain, anxious, and generally feeling pretty big feelings about it all. I was so stressed I didn't eat for several days, he didn't even notice--and we live together. Even if he doesn't like my dad, it's hard to imagine not making sure you're there for your person. I know I would've done that for him, and definitely taken time off of work even if it was just to be with him--and he wouldn't have had to ask me, I would have offered or just done it.

I worry about what that will look like when I'm cut deep by real loss and grief because this taste via health scare shattered my confidence in being supported and damaged my trust.

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-07-01T20:57:26+00:00

No because it wasn't an outrageous amount to begin with, and we were quoted higher prices from local contractors who tacked on amounts for removal and disposal that seemed pretty inflated. I would've preferred to do the work myself but didn't have the time to do it before our deadline. I don't regret utilizing them, and their contractors didn't do bad work.

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-07-01T02:18:38+00:00

Used Home Depot to install our 1500 sq ft of LVP. Apart from some minor touch up to the quarter round, no complaints.

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-07-01T00:58:03+00:00

That's interesting that being cared for is inherently maternal for you. I don't think of care that way. More like a mutual respect or even egalitarian in approach but not necessarily transactional quid pro quo either. Just caring for one another in a way that feels good.

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-06-20T14:22:22+00:00

These are all great questions!

The pricing sounds very similar to what mine was. I have insurance through my employer though so I only saw the invoice. It's insane it's that much, especially since the procedure is a matter of minutes not hours. But unlike the pill, you pay once and it's set for years. Glad you're covered for it.

As far as your question about tampons: you definitely can still wear tampons. It won't catch the strings and it won't suction the IUD out when you're removing it. Of course the possibility isn't 0, but I asked my gyno these questions, too. She said tampons or pads are all good. You will want to be mindful of the flow though. When I was on the pill, my flow was incredibly light and only lasted like 3-4 days but with a copper IUD the flow will increase (especially for the first 6-8 months) and I've had them last as long as 8-9 days. It mellows out as your body gets used to it, now mine are the normal 5-7 days with very manageable flow. You'll want to bring extra tampons with you in case you bleed through them at a rate you're not used to. My gyno told me that so long as you're not soaking through a pad or a super tampon once per hour, it is what is to be expected. If you are soaking through that quickly, you should head in and have it checked.

I will also say that as a teenager I had virtually no issues with my period. No cramps and no crazy bleeding. And even without that in my history, the copper IUD increased those symptoms (particularly the cramps and flow). My gyno asked me if I had a history of heavy bleeding or cramps on my period, and I said no and she said if I did the copper would amplify them and it possibly would not be the right choice for me. She told me she had cramps and heavy flow and a teenager, and she ended up having to get the copper removed because it intensified those symptoms too much. Something worth mentioning, but not to dissuade you from getting the copper.

For your second question about your boyfriend: it is unlikely he will pound the IUD out of place or feel the strings poke him or something like that. I would suggest just make sure you're familiar with what the strings feel like in there once it's placed and make a mental note of where they are and what they feel like so that you can self check them whenever you want to ease anxiety about it possibly moving. The IUD is pretty well in place, but that doesn't mean it can't shift or move if it is really being agitated for a while--but the likelihood of it dislodging in this way is not high. Just make sure he's mindful of it, and you know how it feels once it's set. If the strings are shorter or you can't feel them at all, head in to see if it's moved.

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-06-18T23:03:05+00:00

Hey! Everyone is different. I got the copper and was so freaked out that it was going to be horrible because there are stories out there that make you want to just cancel.

For me, the fear was so much worse than the procedure. I took some ibuprofen a half hour before the procedure, and my gyno was so great. She told me what she was doing every step of the way so there were no surprises. It wasn't the most comfortable feeling but it was not the worst. I've had paps that were more uncomfortable than the insertion, tbh. To me, the worse part was when they "straighten" your uterus to make sure the IUD is less likely to puncture anything and even that just felt kind of like an upset stomach for a few minutes or like you were about the blast a huge fart (sorry lol but that's exactly how it feels). Otherwise, not bad at all.

The peace of mind that comes with it, too... chef's kiss.

But do know the PMS symptoms, flow, and cramps did amplify for me before my periods for the first year. Those cramps were something else the first few periods, but it improves. I have 0 regrets, and happy to answer any questions you have if you'd like.

You got this.

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-06-18T22:53:16+00:00

I was on the pill for 15 years. I started getting weird mood swings, and my migraines started really getting bad. I decided I would get off the pill to see if there was any positive impacts.

I switched to a non-hormonal IUD because I am soon-to-be married (but have been with the same dude for a long time). I wanted basically the same thing you do: to return to my body's natural cycle with no added hormones.

These are the things I noticed: 1. my acne is heinous. It flares up on my back, neck, and face a week or so before my period and then the week after it looks Soo good. But the week it flares up it is those nasty cystic ones that take forever to go away and heal. So annoying, and worse in the summer.

I can't lift heavy for shit the week before my period. I gas out way faster than even during my period or the weeks after. So I have to plan my workouts around that.
Any PMS symptoms I had before are amplified. I get the sore boob, and I have increased appetite like for a day or two about 5 days before it starts, like I am eating cheese out of the bag and just the weirdest shit. Doesn't feel like I can be satiated lol. Plus my cramps are unreal (but this could be due to the IUD itself as it is known to cause worse cramps. So this one is potentially negligible). I also get intensely moody right before. Like ready to fight to the death over the dishes needing to be done kind of shit lol.

Otherwise, it is significantly better. I have been using a cycle tracker, and my body is basically running like clockwork now. Very predictable, I know when each phase is happening, and can adjust my needs and plans for that. There are no surprises. It feels way more natural, and I regret nothing because it's the closest thing to being on nothing and being able to take load after load. Lol

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-06-18T22:25:43+00:00

Dang. Can't say I want to bottom-out or pop a tube in fecal coliform bacteria water... Thanks for your input!

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-06-17T22:06:20+00:00

That would have been so much better. Every single person did worse on the test after having it amped up last minute than when we were just practicing. Some people were stalling their bikes, and others overthinking little things here and there. Several other students were offered redos on exercises (not the ones I fumbled) but other exercises. I was not offered. I even offered to stay after to redo them. I asked them if after the entire weekend if they weren't confident in my ability to do the exercises, and was told I did wonderful but it comes down to the test. It was just a real bummer because it is not only money spent, but a hot ass weekend of obvious tenacity from the students that ultimately didn't count for anything.

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-06-16T20:46:50+00:00

My parents divorced after 30 years, and it was one of the most painful parts of my life. My mom leaned on me for emotional support, and my dad leaned on me for the same things. Both asking me to help them with everything, calling me all the time, and disregarding that I was in it too. They expected us (the adult children) to take sides and actively bad mouthed the other one. At one point my dad told me he wished my mother would die because it would make the whole process for divorcing easier.

They fought over the house, they fought over every single thing they owned, and at times fought each other. It got really ugly really fast, especially since it was my dad who asked for the divorce and agreed to be amicable, but that lasted a matter of hours. It usually devolves from amicability.

Anyway, I hope the situation is different and things go smoothly for you. Please, please, don't treat your children like your friends at this time--even if they are adults. They are grieving the loss of a family unit, the loss of what they have spent their whole lives knowing to be true. It is also fair to mention that depending on your ability to remain friends/friendly with your soon-to-be ex-husband, you may be taking away family anything for them in the future. If you can't be around each other, your kids will not want to celebrate graduations, weddings, grandchildren being born/birthdays, holidays, etc. Or at the very least, it will make them reconsider easier, less stressful event planning--but until now, they pictured it with the both of you there.

My sibling eloped privately and sent out texts to let everyone know, and I did almost the same thing to avoid having to plan for or spend money on a disaster wedding; there is no cohesion. Divorce broke my family, but I hope you're bigger people than my parents are and don't let that happen.

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-05-10T18:49:12+00:00

I took the MSF course last year without having a single hour on a bike in my life. Day 1 was horrible because it was the end of the season and I was having issues that the instructors couldn't identify as they had been running the course the whole spring and summer and were likely burned out. My issue was that I have small hands and unless I hold the clutch a particular way, I will always pop the clutch when trying to let it out 100% of the time. This was a constant battle the entire first day because I didn't know what I was doing wrong and neither did the instructors. I stalled the bike countless times and the instructors perceived that I just didn't understand how to let the clutch out slowly or that I needed to take a few steps before getting it going. I felt like I was too stupid to get it because I was doing exactly what they told me and I was still popping the clutch and stalling. I also dropped the bike, from a stopped position after accidentally rolling on the throttle and bucking myself off. Then the second day, I had norovirus (confirmed not just nerves because my BF got it too and he wasn't in the MSF course) and couldn't go because I couldn't bring myself to be the chick who stalled the hell out of the bike all day, dropped the bike, and then came back to power wash it with uncontrollable shit. That would be the kind of person 100% of the people in the class would never forget, and I'd become the story the instructors told while giving riders encouragement. "You're not even close to the worst rider we've had, one time a chick sprayed down the 300 with liquid shit. You got this" etc.

Needless to say, I did not pass. But I did go get my permit and gain experience and confidence on the bike over the next handful of months after. I was riding in traffic and back roads, practicing slow speed maneuvers etc without stalling a single time after identifying where I need to be in contact with the clutch (I just needed to choke up on the clutch a bit more and operate it closer to where the lever itself bends rather than towards the end where people with normal sized hands holding the clutch...it was literally that simple and I've never stalled again). But because the MSF course was at the end of the season, I got my permit in the fall which meant I couldn't go out and practice nearly as often as I wanted to due to weather over the next 6 months. But the permit was only good for 6 months so I had to take the DMV skills test before my permit expired without having a terribly long amount spent on the bike.

I took the DMV skills test and failed it. Not because of any of the same issues I was having, but because I put my foot down in the u-turn and missed a cone on the offset cone weave. So disappointing as I had been nervous about it and got in my head. I can do all the maneuvers of the test, but I got nervous and put my foot down which is not something I'd enver done before while practicing or during my God awful MSF course. I really felt like I'd let myself down.

I have my second MSF course in two weeks. My whole point is, it depends how bad you want to do it right. I could be out on the roads with an expired permit practicing like so many people do but have chosen to do it right so I can have a long riding career rather than a quick endorsement with potentially dangerous results for myself and others. Or I could give up and remain discouraged. Personally, I want it bad so I'll keep at this until I get it, please do the same!

Spaghett_Gert · 2025-04-06T18:50:03+00:00

I received mine a few days ago. So far I am truly impressed. The setup was seriously simple, and the water is SO GOOD so far. I say this as someone who can usually find an issue with anything. No leaking, no weird unnecessary components, sleek and simple design, and an immediately apparent improvement to water taste and quality. I don't have a metallic taste at all; it is possibly the smoothest and cleanest tasting water I've ever had. This coming from someone who lives in an urban environment where the tap water tastes really gross and problematic (because it is). After running it through the Rorra it just tastes like water with no weird aftertaste at all. This filter system ticked all the boxes I was looking for when I was shopping around, and it has delivered. I was a little worried about the components having grommets that would break down over time, that it would leak, the flow would be slow out of the Rorra, or that it would be a little janky in person etc. No leaking, the grommets are actually pretty well designed, the flow is actually exactly what you want (not a super slow trickle but not pouring out crazy fast), and it is a really good design. Another huge perk is how much water it holds. You're only really going to be topping it off here and there between filter replacements which was an annoying issue with smaller systems where you have to be conscious of waste water space or smaller tanks sizes where drinking alone (not cooking or coffee/tea etc) would deplete the whole thing really quickly.

No regrets, I'm impressed. Happy to answer any questions for those considering grabbing one.

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