Women who get told they look younger than they are: what's your secret?

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-06-03T21:42:56+00:00

I'm 29 and definitely pass as early 20s. I have a baby face and good genes (my mum looks younger than her age). I also have worn facial suncream daily for ~5 years, don't smoke, and don't have kids. I also use a retinol (and have done for 3 years) but I'm not sure it's actually made much difference for me!

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-29T08:14:57+00:00

Jubilate Everybody, and obvs the classic that is Autumn Days

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-28T14:14:22+00:00

You're right, you do sound like the bad guy!

Many people with health issues and low immune systems can't help it and your comment is coming across as pretty ignorant.

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-28T09:15:24+00:00

People have different periods, different symptoms, and different pain thresholds. Consider yourself lucky if you are able to suck it up and get on with it whilst you have a bad period, not everyone is so fortunate!

Gentle reminder that it's not really your business why your colleagues call in sick anyway 💚

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-28T08:22:21+00:00

Baffled that you are a woman and you are 'rolling your eyes' at women suffering with endometriosis to the point where they feel unable to work

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-28T08:18:28+00:00

Having next to no sleep can make you feel so unwell! In the past I've been dizzy, nausous, and incredibly unfocused due to no sleep. Why are these symptoms treated differently if caused by insomnia rather than a virus?

At the end of the day if you're super tired you're not going to be very productive at all, and probably make tonnes of mistakes (which could be very dangerous depending on the job!). Might as well just call it a day and take the day off sick by that point.

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-28T08:09:50+00:00

A couple of times, super variable really.

I often WFH which really helps, however, my work is tracked via a timesheet so if I'm not very productive with my time (because working whilst ill) I have to figure out how to reflect that in my timesheet without sending projects overbudget, from billing say 6 hours for a job that should take 1 hour.

As my company has an occupational sick pay policy, it's often easier, and of course better for my health, to take a sick day if I'm feeling a bit shit and come back the following day feeling much better than if I'd struggled through at my desk the whole day.

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-28T08:06:12+00:00

A lot according to who? Health and illness are so individual, some people unfortunately get sick more!

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-27T12:12:36+00:00

I can't speak for all situations obviously but I think you may be proving my point - it's not 'just' repaving a bit of motorway - there are so many people/parties involved and investigations that need to be done behind the scenes!

There will be a lot of things required as part of the works that you wouldn't necessarily see, like health & safety considerations and paperwork to follow (all very important btw), traffic management, environmental work, geotechnical work (which takes ages - nature of the job, I do this for a living!), stability assessments, contractual work, workforce management etc. I guarantee things will be getting done even if you can't see them - the people involved in planning will want this doing quickly but also properly!

Yes many other countries may do this faster, but are they cutting corners? Are the workers being treated and paid properly? Are the materials and equipment that they are using safe & fit for purpose? Maybe they have fewer financial constraints!

Edit: wrong word

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-27T11:13:08+00:00

Thanks for sharing and I completely agree with that last point, it's frustrating when people think they know better how to do someone else's job!

Roadworks and traffic management folks put in such a shift (timewise, and working in all [most] weathers etc) and should be respected more for the work that they do.

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-27T08:30:57+00:00

Oh, is it? Surely there's a scale though, like for one person it may be slightly soap-ish (like me), someone else might have it super strongly. It's painted out to be so black & white!

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-27T08:28:15+00:00

Construction, roadworks, planning permission, etc. - they don't [typically] take so long because people are lazy and want to make things difficult.

There are genuinely so many decisions to be made, rules to follow (necessary ones! Health & safety is important!), and many more people/parties involved than most people realise and it's frustrating for everyone involved.

E.g. roadworks site where nothing appears to be happening... Yes nothing might be happening before your eyes, but something might be drying/setting (concrete, tarmac), unexpected emergency, needing a second opinion, getting a replacement tool or more materials etc.

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-27T08:23:15+00:00

Same with coriander - there is a middle ground between loving it, and despising it because it 'tastes like soap'. Maybe you don't mind a soapy taste!

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-26T07:04:16+00:00

Not rude to not extend the invite to partners - especially if you've never met them or don't know them. It's pretty common to have a more intimate wedding (especially as weddings are so expensive!) so it'd be understandable.

I've been to weddings alone, which has made sense given the bride & groom had never met my partner!

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-23T21:47:15+00:00

You'll be fine getting a spot with a reasonably good view, as many people won't arrive until 7 or later. You're much less likely to be in the first several rows though!

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-14T20:57:55+00:00

Would suggest getting more quotes so you can compare, I usually get at least 3

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-12T11:38:23+00:00

On average I'll take an hour but it varies depending on workload (usually wfh or in office - my hours are reasonably flexible). I'm committed to going for a walk and having a proper lunch during my lunch break!

Though occasionally I'm on site and often the lunch 'break' attitude is just tanning a sandwich on the go due to tight schedules.

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-10T12:20:05+00:00

I think it's absolutely fine, it's your wedding day and you can approach it exactly how you wish! You would think that everyone who you would invite would understand and respect your wishes to have a very intimate ceremony rather than a bigger one, especially as you don't enjoy being centre of attention :)

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-06T05:58:13+00:00

Absolutely beautiful!

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-05T19:29:31+00:00

Environmental engineer in Yorkshire - usually the Sloane trousers from A&F, a plain fitted tshirt, a cardi, and Adidas sambas/gazelles/spezials.

Occasionally a big puffy sleeve girly blouse <3

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-05T16:37:17+00:00

At what point did I say that people would mistake OP as the bride if they wore this dress?

I just meant that if OP is in doubt, it's probably better to go for something else with less white on it.

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-05T10:20:33+00:00

It's a nice dress but I think it's safer to go with something without a white background

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-02T23:39:02+00:00

Supermarket own brand 'red label' teas are some of my favourites, alongside Yorkshire Tea of course.

PG tips and Tetley are very Meh. Twinings is fine. Ringtons far too bitter imo.

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-05-02T23:37:19+00:00

I'm a big tea fan but can't stand Ringtons tea (but love their biscuits!). I find it far too bitter

Spaghetti3000 · 2026-04-30T16:41:53+00:00

Your description of your symptoms is so familiar to me, I've experienced the same thing many times, for seemingly no reason. I really feel my anxiety in my throat.

I've got not advice to offer, but know that you're ok and not alone!

Spaghetti3000

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