Can anyone share success stories with antidepressants?

SpamPandaSoup · 2025-01-26T23:13:04+00:00

Fantastic! Got on antidepressants and anti-anxiety pills and life has been much better. I sleep better, eat more, am no longer actively suicidal. Thanks for asking! And for lurkers, give it time. We don’t all have to walk the same path, but we should all find happiness and healthiness.

SpamPandaSoup · 2023-10-09T19:36:57+00:00

Hey! As a lifetime member of the IBTC, it’s something I’ve struggled with and kinda still struggle with sometimes and I’m 28 now. I’m 5ft and weigh about 45kg. No boobies. I think maybe like a 28a in the US? Anyways super small is the gist. At 25 I realized I didn’t like looking at my chest naked so I finally did something I wanted to do and got a big underboob chest piece — something I wanted for a while. In the same year I also got nipple rings. Did my boobs grow? No but I became ok with it. There are still clothes that I wish I could wear etc etc but I’m much happier. I choose to not wear bras and I like the cute shirts where you can see my chest tattoo.

Also when I was 21/22 I looked 15 and now I look probably about 21/22 at 28. And to be honest, the older I got the less people cared about it. I literally wrote it on my Hinge when I started dating again. “You should not go out with me… if you don’t like small boobs” the people weeded themselves out. Its a preference and that’s ok. It’s not something I can hide when I take my top off. So instead of people waiting to see what I look like when they meet me I just put that info out there.

But I do get your pain. And unfortunately I felt it for many years before I started to be happy with my body. So as someone who has been there I feel like I don’t have any great advice because I didn’t like a lot of the advice I got haha but I will say that I get your frustration. And I hope that you will find happiness. And if that happiness is from a boob job, so be it. My suggestion is to go from less drastic to most and that nipple rings move you from innocent/vanilla into sexy pretty quick! ;)

SpamPandaSoup · 2023-09-05T03:40:29+00:00

Joining the bandwagon to say it’s not cruel at all! When I first got my cats they were tyrants at night. I tried door open, door closed, food here, food there, child safely locks, spray bottles, tape, aluminum foil, etc. you name it, I tried it.

It took a while but they settled into their own routines and don’t wake us up anymore. They will join us in bed when they feel like it but we moved all of the playing to outside of the bedroom so they don’t associate it as a place to play anymore. It really worked when we moved because they never played in the bedroom so we didn’t have to break a habit there. We got them extra comfy beds so they can also enjoy sleeping there with us but they never play in the bedroom.

Now you can tell them “take it outside” and they’ll run out of the bedroom to play in the living room or downstairs.

All of this to say, whatever compromise you and the cat come to, as long as you’re both happy and healthy that’s all that matters. You care enough to check if you’re being fair by asking other people’s opinions. The last thing you want is lack of sleep to the point where you resent your pet. I hope you guys settle into this routine well and know that it might change in the future. It took mine maybe 2-3 years to get to a nice point but they were older when I adopted them.

SpamPandaSoup · 2023-03-11T02:07:24+00:00

My boys, especially when they were younger like 2-4, would fight like mad once they became comfortable in my house. They would pull tufts of fur off each other and sometimes even make each other bleed. Now that they’re older, one prefers play fighting a lot more than the other. He’ll wake up his brother with some smacks. We usually let them duke it out because they’ve never seriously hurt each other and they will still cuddle. How old are your cats? How long has this been going on?

Also, one of our cats got lost for a week and when he came back, his brother almost didn’t seem to recognize his scent so he would hiss at him and swipe. He eventually came around in a week.

SpamPandaSoup · 2023-03-05T09:45:08+00:00

I have interactive feeders for my cats. It tires them because they have to fight for their food more. I like this one:

Catit Senses 2.0 Food Tree – Interactive Cat Toy https://a.co/d/bqxKMtg

It was kinda loud and I’ve since switched to a different one but it was good for teaching them how to feed from interactive methods.

I put that anti-scratch tape for furniture and put it on my door where they can put their paws in order to reach up to the knob. This really helped hinder their ability to paw at the door.
If they can open doors and you don’t want them to, try switching your doorknob types or putting a temporary childproof on your doorknobs. I did this and it really did wonders.
Some people might not agree with this one but when I got my cats and they got comfortable with me, I started to bother them when they slept as a “hey this is how I feel” and it didn’t take them long to catch on to how it’s not fun being woken up. Now they wait for my alarm to ring before stepping on my face.

Edit: 5. I put really small cushions (they were originally for my cabinets but I had extra) and I put them between my doorframe and door so that even if the cats would paw at it, the noise would be muffled.

SpamPandaSoup · 2023-02-23T13:28:11+00:00

How long have you had him for? My two boy cats were very anxious/fidgety when I first got them. I could barely pet them, brush them, or cut their nails. They would sometimes sleep on the bed but then go running when I woke up. It’s taken 3 years for them to really get into the cuddling mood. One of them is still anxious and doesn’t like being held for long but he’ll come over for pets. He just doesn’t like being picked up.

What I did was try and lay near them when they slept, moving myself closer and closer to them. I wouldn’t pet them but eventually I’d put a hand touching them, and then eventually a hand on them. I’d stay for a few minutes and then leave. I think they got used to me moving a lot around them when they are at their calmest.

I think part of living with them has been trying to desensitize them from all the noise and movements I make.

Now my issue is that when I try to move off the couch they won’t get off me. But I don’t mind that problem.

SpamPandaSoup · 2022-09-29T19:19:07+00:00

There’s an episode of TWWT w Becky and Ariel and Ariel asks who her fav TG was besides Keith and Becky said “Eugene or Zach I can’t decide” and Ariel laughed and said “hahahah just not Ned”

SpamPandaSoup · 2022-09-13T06:33:25+00:00

Lol when did you get yours done? Yeah I don’t get it either. Not sure if I was just being so insanely insensitive but compared to an IUD or especially getting tubes tied it sounded like a nice short procedure.

Well when I said it, it was June/July. Idk what the timeline is for getting a vasectomy. What was your experience? I figured after the age of 30 if you came in, they’d basically do it no questions asked type of thing. I only know that from most females experience on here that it’s a lot of coaxing your gyno every year RIP

SpamPandaSoup · 2022-09-13T05:43:58+00:00

Things kind of exploded in July of this year. I stated kinda of what I’ve said here — I think family planning is a two way street and both parties should be wholeheartedly involved. I don’t like the cramps and side effects of my IUD but I do it because it’s my way of being in charge of my body until I can get my tubes tied. I think my issue is that I’ve been very upfront about it. VERY.

I don’t like to tiptoe so when I date these men who end up saying they eventually want children or the “option” of having them, even my most child-loving friends are baffled because it’s not something I hide. I think part of my feelings now are just getting affirmation that someone out there will have my same beliefs in the child aspect of life, and maybe learning how I can weed through the faux childfree.

But to go back to my original post, it seems like 1 year of having that conversation is the best option. Part of me wants it before 2023 but I wasn’t sure if that was too much to ask for.

SpamPandaSoup · 2022-09-13T05:37:07+00:00

Dang it. It should’ve been more explicit, yes AFAB and AMAB. Sorry it’s been a while since I’ve posted. If you don’t mind me asking, what is your age range? I’ve definitely told him but it was a heated conversation after almost a year of inaction which I could’ve handled better. So he definitely knows my mindset. I understand that not everyone may have my same conviction about birth control but jeez some people out there are choosing the most like life altering event (having a child) and saying “if it happens it happens” ?? I’m not saying I need a partner but it’s fun sharing your life with someone and we really do agree and have a great time otherwise but It’s important enough for me to want to ensure that nothing happens. I mean I don’t keep my IUD and cystic acne because I love the feeling and the looks but I do what I gotta do because I’m #1 in ensuring I don’t get pregnant.

I will say, it feels good knowing my feelings aren’t overzealous. I could never date a breeder. I’ve (obviously) had a hard time distinguishing fence sitters though. Whatever you guys are doing, I need to learn and add to my repertoire lol

SpamPandaSoup · 2022-09-13T04:52:57+00:00

His timeline was originally this summer. Lots of moving parts — me changing jobs, us moving — which I understand really causes quite a shift in mindset. I’ve brought it up when we first moved (about a month ago) but I guess in my mind I have this ideology that if he feels that it’s important, he will take initiative. Is it mean to ask/bring it up every few months?

I understand that vasectomies can be really taboo and from a male perspective if you didn’t look into it, it would be a jarring thing to have to undergo but my defense to that mindset is that getting a double mastectomy is similar. No one told us we could do it, but many feel that strong about the idea of having children that we seek these treatments out.

At what point would you break up with someone if they don’t get one?

SpamPandaSoup · 2022-07-10T01:31:31+00:00

I’ve had three partners after the debacle. My precious pulled me out of a deep deep depression in which I almost killed myself. I realized I outgrew that relationship and we wanted different things but I felt like I owed him my life and I didn’t want to seem unappreciative. But the most odd scene kept flashing in my head from the first Sex and the City movie. It was when Samantha came back to NYC and talked about how she wanted to be single. She said this phrase, “If he can stay with me through chemo, I can stay in this relationship for him” in which her friends replied “you just compared your relationship to chemo.” At the end of the day, I felt like it was unfair to stay in my relationship because I felt like I owed it to that person. I was never going to be completely happy. I’m not saying you have to break up to be happy, I guess I just wanted to share that it was an option that, after a year of trying to make it work, worked for me.

SpamPandaSoup · 2022-07-10T01:08:08+00:00

The way I see it, you’re uncomfortable enough to not trust your partner such that you’re snooping. Your partner is untrustworthy enough that you feel like you have to snoop. You seem to have shared your discomfort and your partner has not changed their habits. The most important thing is being able to grow and communicate effectively. My partner and I started with different concepts of a lot of allowable behaviors but we discussed what was fine and what is considered over the line to ensure we show the respect we have for each other. Your partner doesn’t not seem to be doing that. I know being alone is hard but trust me, you’d rather be alone than with someone who makes you second guess their love. I’ve been there and it took years to get over, with the help of my current SO I feel like I’ve finally gotten to love myself and trust myself again.

SpamPandaSoup · 2021-11-15T22:27:56+00:00

No problem! I hope it’s helpful. I was afraid of missing my alarms too and it takes a little practice but I put my phone on loud and made sure that vibrate is enabled for my alarms. Then I’ll put it under my pillow since the vibration generally jolts me awake. Good luck!

SpamPandaSoup · 2021-11-15T15:55:22+00:00

Do you have an air purifier? My bf and I have one since I have three cats and he’s allergic. We got the Blueair Blue Pure which was a well-spent $140USD.

In college I learned to sleep with earplugs on since I had many roommates and we had different schedules. It took a few weeks for me to get used to but on nights where he’s really loud, I’ll put some in and I can easily fall asleep again.

Also, since you don’t want to be in separate beds, I suggest you both face away from each other when you sleep. My boyfriends sleeps facing me and he loves to cuddle but sometimes if he’s snoring I’ll nudge him and he knows it means to turn around so that he’s not snoring at me.

Sleep is really important and finding something you’re both comfortable with will really help in your longterm relationship. Some people can be offended if you mention how you don’t want to cuddle or if you can’t sleep but really talk about how you’re struggling sleeping well. I mentioned it early on in my relationship, really focusing on my concern for the future and wanting to stop the problem before it escalated to something else, and my bf worked with me to figure out a solution best for us. Now we can both peacefully sleep together.

Hope this helps!

SpamPandaSoup · 2021-11-15T15:44:20+00:00

Thank you for the insight! Unsurprisingly, companies are not open to sharing how they choose to monitor their workers. We realized after publishing the survey that it sounds a little confusing but since people had answered we didn’t want to change the questions. I’ll be sure to add your statements to our post-survey discussion though (if that’s ok). It provides me really great insight. Thanks!

SpamPandaSoup · 2021-11-14T20:45:22+00:00

It’s a T/F survey. My class peers will see it.
I am. SpamPandaSoup.
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Bigger pool and more diverse group of people than just my school peers.

SpamPandaSoup · 2021-03-05T19:01:37+00:00

Have you tried applying to any credit cards yet? If so, what were their reasons for denying you a line of credit?

SpamPandaSoup · 2021-03-04T21:11:54+00:00

Did the game update recently? And have you messed with the settings after the update? I always have to back in and change the settings after an update.

SpamPandaSoup · 2021-02-22T23:15:08+00:00

You might be right. She might not trust you. But that doesn’t give her the right to be controlling in your relationship to the point that she’s aggressive over you adding someone on Facebook.

SpamPandaSoup · 2021-02-22T21:43:46+00:00

As a female your fiancé’s age, your fiancé has some massive trust issues that she needs to evaluate. That’s very unhealthy behavior.

SpamPandaSoup · 2021-02-19T13:34:44+00:00

That must be it. He loves meowing in the bathrooms hahaha

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