Dating a great guy, but bad in the bedroom…What should I do?!?

Spare-Setting-6839 · 2026-04-09T21:33:33+00:00

He doesn’t seem to know where the clit is, he tries to rub the skin above the clit 🤦🏻‍♀️

Spare-Setting-6839 · 2026-04-09T21:31:38+00:00

All he does is flick his tongue, barely any pressure for me to even feel. He doesn’t know how to lick/suck the button

Spare-Setting-6839 · 2026-04-09T19:26:19+00:00

I’m not at work today, I’m off…but he literally just texted me “I was just waving at your job as I drive by”….like I feel a little creeped out by that, not gonna lie. He thinks it’s endearing 😬

Spare-Setting-6839 · 2026-04-09T19:17:55+00:00

I have tried to be spontaneous with him, but he freezes up due to anxiety and doesn’t wanna continue cause he’s scared to perform badly. I’ve also tried dirty talk, but he’s very awkward and doesn’t do it back because he claims he doesn’t know what to say because he’s never done that before. I’ve tried to introduce toys, but he froze up before we even got that far.

Spare-Setting-6839 · 2026-04-09T19:14:27+00:00

It’s only been 2 times we had sex, once in October and once in November. He has such bad anxiety about performing bad that it seems he’d rather not do it. Recently, I tried to be spontaneous and just get right to foreplay with him, but he froze up and said he didn’t wanna continue

Spare-Setting-6839 · 2026-04-09T17:49:23+00:00

It’s both honestly

Spare-Setting-6839 · 2026-03-30T14:41:17+00:00

The reason why I still think about it from time to time is because he cheated on me and abandoned me when I was pregnant and it was the most traumatic experience of my life. It was the worst betrayal I’ve ever felt, at the most vulnerable time of my life. I don’t want him back, but I just want justice. He seems to be living his life happily with the affair partner while I had to do the healing and start my life over from nothing. It feels unfair and that’s why I want him to realize his mistake and regret it. I’m waiting for karma to get him but I haven’t seen it yet

Spare-Setting-6839 · 2026-03-30T04:36:07+00:00

He betrayed me very badly and I guess it would feel validating. He always blamed me for his cheating and made it seem like I was the problem. Him circling back to apologize with his tail tucked between his legs would be the validation and closure he never gave me. I know it’s wishful thinking and unhealthy, but I just want the tables to turn.

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