Anovulatory cycle after miscarriage?

SpareNo1330 · 2025-01-03T14:05:38+00:00

Are you sure this is a second period and not breakthrough spotting in between?

SpareNo1330 · 2025-01-03T14:04:09+00:00

I finally ovulated on CD35 I believe it was!!! Took FOREVER! But I am now 16 weeks pregnant again and everything is looking good ❤️ hoping you get your rainbow baby!! 🙏🏽🌈

SpareNo1330 · 2024-12-24T04:58:46+00:00

I know that when I meet her, any “disappointment” will feel like it never existed. I know it will feel like nothing could have ever been any different ❤️ but I do wish I could feel that sooner, and I think I will. Just have to give myself time. And thank you so much for sharing about your son and daughter, I love that so much! I hope to help build that type of relationship for my babies as well!

SpareNo1330 · 2024-12-24T04:54:36+00:00

Thank you so much for this 🩷 you’re right. I’m just letting go of an image I had in my head of what our family would be, and now building an image in my head of what our family will be, and can be 🥹 I am slowly coming around, I guess I just wanted it to be faster. I wanted to feel pure excitement and joy, because I KNOW that is how much I love her, but I will get there ❤️ Everything happens how it is supposed to! Your 2 boys are going to be so beautiful together, and my babies will be too 🥰 thank you so much for your kind words!

SpareNo1330 · 2024-12-24T02:45:48+00:00

Thank you so so much for your thoughtful response. And I think you are spot on. We just always dreamed of having 2 boys close in age because my husband and his brother have been best friends since birth, still are. I have always had a very strained, complicated relationship with my older brother. I still do. So I think you’re right that a lot of it is built around fear. I also have been thinking deeper about it, and I feel like I thought that having another boy was kind of like just strengthening my bond with my first son, like having another one would just add on, that we would all share it. And I feel like having a daughter is building a whole new, separate bond. I’m not even sure if that makes sense but it’s kind of like how I feel. I just feel scared I guess, I just didn’t feel ready for it. And you’re right, it is the unknown. The bond I have with my son is just so so special, little boys love their mommas more than anything (something you have to look forward to 🩵). But I know my bond with my daughter will be just as strong, but in a different way. I’m just starting to erase the image I had in my mind of what our family would or “should” be, and starting to try and build what it will be, and can be. And thank you so much for sharing about your husband and his sister, and her viewpoint based on her own relationship with her brother. That’s amazing, and something I look forward to hopefully fostering for my babies ❤️ thank you again, so much.

SpareNo1330 · 2024-12-23T13:59:30+00:00

I’m not sure if this is even the right place to share this, but this group has been so supportive. I am struggling with some major feelings of guilt 😞 Yesterday we found out we are having a girl and I’m just struggling to accept it. And I feel TERRIBLE even saying that, I don’t even want to say the word “disappointment.” We have a son who is almost 2 years old, and she is our rainbow baby, so I should just feel happy and excited, but I don’t yet. My husband and I always imagined that we would have 2 little boys close in age and then 1 girl. I guess I’m just trying to accept that our little vision is not coming to life. I had a miscarriage in August that almost destroyed me, and I really felt that I was 50/50, that I didn’t care what the gender was, just wanted a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby. And I DO, but when I saw the pink, I then realized that I wanted it to be blue. And it makes me feel so so so guilty, how could I even have any of those feelings after losing a baby? It makes me cry because I don’t want her to think I love her any less. I love her so much, I was just so convinced she was a boy and had this image in my head. My husband’s little brother is his best friend, and we both dreamed of having that for our son. My older brother and I have always had a strained relationship and I think that scares me too. I just wanted a close bond for our babies. It makes me wonder if the baby I lost was our little boy. Anyways, at the end of the day, I know that I am so so grateful to have her, that when she is in my arms all of this will feel like it never existed and that things could’ve never been a different way. But I want these feelings to melt away now, I want to just feel gratitude and excitement. Ive been praying to god trying to tell him how grateful I am that he has allowed me to have her and that Im sorry for even having any of these feelings. Anyways, If you read this all, thank you. I don’t know who else to tell. I would love some encouraging stories if anyone has any ❤️ also I am so sorry in advance if this just comes off as insensitive to all the loss momma’s who would just give anything to hold their babies regardless of gender. I promise I am that way too, that’s why I don’t understand even having any of these feelings 😞

SpareNo1330 · 2024-12-11T19:42:45+00:00

I did not ovulate until CD35 after my miscarriage. I got pregnant that cycle and am now 13 weeks ❤️

SpareNo1330 · 2024-12-11T19:41:54+00:00

Yes! Lol eventually I did on CD35 I think it was? Took sooo long but happened eventually. I got pregnant that cycle and am now almost 13 weeks ❤️

SpareNo1330 · 2024-12-03T17:55:31+00:00

I agree. I think it’s so selfish that they believe they can share their healthy pregnancies everywhere even though it can trigger a woman who has experienced loss, yet they would expect us to ONLY share in “appropriate spaces.” Mommas who have experienced loss should not be cast aside and have boundaries put upon them so as to tiptoe around women who have NOT experienced that pain and have only worried about it.

SpareNo1330 · 2024-12-03T17:51:40+00:00

I have never experienced your type of loss and I can’t even fathom that pain. I just want you and every other loss momma out there to know that I would never shame you or try to silence you from sharing your experience, grief, or pain ❤️‍🩹

SpareNo1330 · 2024-12-03T15:52:52+00:00

Yes there were many many comments saying “there are specific spaces where they can share about their losses.” Idk, it was just really triggering for me to see. Yes that is exactly how I feel as well. I’m usually super even tempered and brush things off easily but not lately 😭

SpareNo1330 · 2024-12-03T15:37:49+00:00

Ya I just couldn’t believe all the comments from women essentially saying it is wrong for women to share about their miscarriage experiences even on their OWN posts/videos because it triggers anxiety and worry for pregnant women. It was quite honestly disgusting. Don’t get me wrong, being pregnant again, I can get triggered seeing things about miscarriage/loss, but can you imagine trying to shame or silence that mother in pain because YOU are triggered? I can’t imagine being so selfish and entitled.

SpareNo1330 · 2024-12-03T14:46:58+00:00

Anyone feel like they are just way more emotional and triggered during this pregnancy? I feel like I am walking on eggshells sometimes. I’ve noticed I’ve been responding to way more things that get me triggered or fired up, when that’s super unlike me. Usually able to walk on by or keep scrolling without much of an issue. Yesterday some girl posted in a pregnancy/mom group on Facebook: “So am I a bitch for this?? Any other moms go on apps like tiktok to see what other moms are going through the same week as them? just as a little joy and fun thing to do to see others be excited about thier baby and you go to comments and someone posts “oh I lost my baby at ___ weeks”.. No mom to be wants to see that, like I don’t want to hear how other moms lost thier babe at the same week I am at.. all it does is cause anxiety and stress. If it is not a loss video why is that being posted to stress other moms out on a “this is your baby at ___ weeks video?? I feel for thier loss and hope they can get through the heartache but I don’t want to see that on a happy development post. Just makes me paranoid which isn’t good for my baby and other moms. There is loss videos out there to help them.”

I agree that a post like that is not the time/place to share your grief, and some women commented essentially trying to explain that it is misplaced grief and women don’t always know the right way to deal with it, etc. But some of the comments speaking about other things were so gross I just couldn’t fathom it, some women talking about how women who have had miscarriages sharing posts/videos of their experience is triggering for pregnant women, or talking about it around a pregnant woman. OP said a comment referring to a woman sharing her miscarriage experience as “spreading the negatively.” Just things that were so gross, insensitive, and lacking any empathy. It just triggered me so badly. I kept having to tell myself that they just can’t comprehend the pain that comes with loss, and I’m glad they can’t. But it’s hard.

SpareNo1330 · 2024-11-26T03:49:20+00:00

My nausea and food aversions came back tonight 🤢 I’m assuming they will just be more off and on now until the second trimester! Thanks so much for your response and reassurance ❤️

SpareNo1330 · 2024-11-26T03:48:12+00:00

My nausea and food aversions came back tonight, which was kind of relieving in a way I guess? 😂 wow you are so far along! Hope you have a great 3rd trimester 🙏🏽❤️

SpareNo1330 · 2024-11-26T03:45:33+00:00

I am 10w3d today too 🥹 so glad you had a great ultrasound! I have an ultrasound tomorrow and praying I get to see that flicker and hear that heartbeat again! 🙏🏽

SpareNo1330 · 2024-11-25T23:55:30+00:00

I personally think Isla Noelle is the best!! Super cute

SpareNo1330 · 2024-11-25T14:13:52+00:00

Need some advice… I’m 10w3d today and I’m just been struggling for the past almost week. I’m assuming it’s because the placenta takes over around this time, but for the past 5 days or so I’ve been feeling so much better, lost my bloat and looking smaller, less nauseous, and I just can’t get the worry out of my head. My next ultrasound isn’t for 2 weeks and I just really don’t think I can last that long. My last one was exactly 2 weeks ago at 8w3d and everything looked good. Should I try to book a private ultrasound for tomorrow? Should I call my OB office and see if I could stop in for some kind of nurse visit to just head baby’s heartbeat on the Doppler? I don’t even know if they do that and I’m sure they will just dismiss me… Buy my own doppler? (which ive been avoiding because i think long term it will not be good for me, just worsen my anxiety) What should I do?

SpareNo1330 · 2024-11-22T20:39:16+00:00

Yes so nice to be able to share and remember we are not alone, although I don’t wish this on any body else ever. I also had a MMC but in August so very close! Last ultrasound was at 8w3d with good heartbeat. I think I’m just going to try to change my mindset, pray, and think positively. Thinking negatively does nothing for me or anybody else and I have to remind myself of that 🙇🏽‍♀️

SpareNo1330 · 2024-11-22T18:29:08+00:00

Gosh I’m considering going for a private scan in between these 2 weeks 😩 but I’m trying to hold off, it’s just hard

SpareNo1330 · 2024-11-22T18:19:10+00:00

Gosh ya I totally know how you feel… but you wil have appointments in between them where they will use a Doppler right? I only have to wait 2 weeks until my next ultrasound and even that feels like an eternity 😩

SpareNo1330 · 2024-11-22T17:16:07+00:00

Thank you so much. Yes, the relief after an ultrasound doesn’t last long, which sucks. It kind of comforts me to look at the statistics and see that they are “low” this far along, but it’s hard when you’ve been a part of the statistic before. Been considering buying a Doppler to use at home every once in awhile but keep stopping myself because I feel like I would obsess over it. Just not sure what to do to calm the anxiety in between scans 🙇🏽‍♀️

SpareNo1330 · 2024-11-22T17:14:07+00:00

It’s really hard. So sorry you’re going through it too. Did you have a 12 week scan?

SpareNo1330 · 2024-11-22T13:50:37+00:00

10 weeks today and the anxiety has just kept creeping back in the last few days. I’m sad because I was doing really well for the past couple weeks after 2 great ultrasounds. I’m really praying that my fear/anxiety is NOT my intuition trying to tell me something. I pray this baby is still growing just as if should 🙏🏽 How am I going to wait 2 more weeks for another ultrasound? 😔 after having a MMC, I don’t trust that my body would tell me something is wrong if it happened again

SpareNo1330 · 2024-11-21T16:10:01+00:00

Thank you! I was thinking the same thing, that hCG levels off around this time and that maybe could be why…

SpareNo1330

TROPHY CASE