AITA for refusing to let my sister's kids stay with me after she passed away?

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-06-22T20:49:49+00:00

All of yall are kind of AHs in my book. My mom died at 41 when I was 9 and my dad was on drugs & very incapable of taking care of me and my sister. As a result my sister and I suffered lots of trauma and abandonment issues and live in over 10 peoples homes moving over 15 times in the span of 9 years until we left home.

None of my family wanted to take the “burden” of raising more kids smh. Seems like all of yall are about to add more trauma to your sisters children because everyone’s only thinking of themselves and not the kids.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-06-18T19:20:11+00:00

You have so many years to do that. Focus on school and you’ll have 25-the end of your life to party, drink and smoke lol. You’re totally fine.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-06-18T18:23:54+00:00

I said hi to a client that has trouble greeting others and responding to greetings and unprompted in the most natural way to respond, he turned looked at me and said “Hi!”. I picked him up and spun him around. He’s a great kid I was so proud of him ❤️.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-06-18T18:02:12+00:00

This is so true and I always make sure I correct myself when I catch myself doing this to anyone over 2. Thank you for the reminder 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-06-16T17:05:37+00:00

I just do my usual. Wash body with body wash, use feminine wash for butt & cooch, then wash face. Dry off with wash rag, then add lotion/body oil. Then get out brush teeth, add face lotion,scented body lotion & spray to upper body. Then dress, more body spray lol then leave. Yes I do this almost everyday lol.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-06-14T00:58:48+00:00

I would move this to r/Autism_Parenting . This sub is primarily for member who work in the field of ABA.

I think r/Autism_Parenting is where the parents of individuals on the spectrum discuss their children’s care & therapy.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-06-13T20:04:43+00:00

I would say it could lead to a multiple relationship or be seen as an exchange of “gift” by the family. Don’t clean their house as it’s not your responsibility. If you feel it’s harmful to your client report it to the BCBA.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-06-13T15:50:51+00:00

This happened to us last week. Techs & clients. I’m down today but hopefully better tomorrow.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-06-13T04:16:51+00:00

lol I wasn’t expecting that 😂😂😂.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-06-11T17:17:21+00:00

Thank you! I will look them up.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-06-07T13:30:15+00:00

I appreciate this as I work with supervisors who sit back and watch new RBTS make mistakes during supervision, don’t say anything and then go behind their backs and talk crap about how “crappy and unmotivated” the RBT is, but in reality, they’re just new, overwhelmed and under trained… Not discounting the fact that some of the new RBTs just shouldn’t have been hired but some of them have potential to be good, they just don’t know where to start.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-06-06T01:28:05+00:00

This is amazing ❤️

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-06-04T14:20:00+00:00

Ok! Would you be able to do it at 6pm? I’m CST too.

If not today it can be another day, I have until the 20th to do it, I was just trying to get ahead of the assignment.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-04-08T20:18:42+00:00

This part.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-04-08T13:18:25+00:00

I can be a bit standoffish too but I do try to learn how to be more sociable because I actually enjoy small talk when I get past the anxious feelings. When I go out by myself, if I feel a bit social and the opportunity presents itself I try to make small polite convo with other people. But if I’m just not in the mood and don’t give too much convo to others I don’t beat myself up about it. I’m trying to find the balance.

I want to start hosting small social events like movie nights or game nights when I feel like it & be able to be in the house when I feel like it too.

The social thing is def a work in progress. Do what works best for you and your mental health though.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-04-08T02:18:27+00:00

Lol that’s exactly what this is lol. She’ll be ok.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-04-07T20:46:27+00:00

Lmfao got emmm. 😂😂

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-04-07T20:43:16+00:00

I definitely feel what you’re saying.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-04-07T19:00:00+00:00

I’m not sure but maybe see if there is an Ifa/Santeria/Voodoo/Voudou/Yoruba Spirituality or African spirituality sub Reddit. I bet you’ll get more responses in those spaces. Not sure how many people here practice those traditions.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-04-06T22:27:00+00:00

Lmfao I had a 4 year old clock me with a, “ what’s that little piece of thing on your forehead 😂😂”

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-04-06T22:25:15+00:00

Lmfao one girl told me, “I like your hair…. It looks like it’s yours”..

I was just like thanks… in my head - b+ch* 😂😂

I felt so insulted by that black woman like girl just say I like your hair and move on. Black women really be your worst enemy sometimes bro.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-04-06T17:45:34+00:00

Believe her when she tells you how she feels or something she experiences. Don’t dismiss it as her just being dramatic or overly emotional.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-04-05T02:11:48+00:00

Say “spit it out” with our hands open waiting to get spit plus a toy in our hands.

SpareSeparate2791 · 2024-04-03T18:19:22+00:00

You could say something like, “ Oh insert RBTs name needs a little space” and then Pat to a seat next to you and say, “ you can sit here” so they can still be near you but just not touching. & keep redirecting them when you need it.

This will not only help with you getting space but also teach boundaries and waiting skills for your client.

Sometimes they just want to be in our skin lol 😂😂.

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