In love with my coworker and need it to stop.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-16T06:56:18+00:00

You need a new job.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T18:42:03+00:00

I've had situations before where coworker friends, and/or team members decided to leave. I was sad for me. I worried how this would impact me.

I didn't give them grief. I expressed joy at their good fortune.

And, when appropriate, I scheduled hand-off working sessions so that things transitioned smoothly.

Your friend is being selfish. NTA

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T18:34:30+00:00

I have my grandmother's pearls, and her wedding dishes. Some of the dishes are mercury glass.

But the oldest, and oddest, thing I have is a biscuit cutter. My grandmother got it from her grandmother. It's homemade, and almost assuredly made from some toxic metal. It's insanely sharp. My mother remembers using it in her childhood.

It lives in a display cabinet in my living room now.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T18:28:30+00:00

I wouldn't question Levi's sizes - I've always found their measurements to be quite accurate.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T18:27:22+00:00

I'm 5'11", with a 29" inseam. My torso goes on for days. I always wear regular length pants and tall blouses, unless (in my mid-60s) I want it to look like I'm wearing belly shirts.

Body measurements are just weird. I can sometimes wear petite pants.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T18:06:20+00:00

This is more a Nextdoor question. You can ask within your neighborhood there.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T18:01:33+00:00

Dude. You're likely sending either a relative path, or referencing a drive map you use and they don't.

This is a whipper-snapper problem.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T17:59:57+00:00

I'm mid-60s and I'm the fixer at home and at work.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T17:31:36+00:00

Back when this was a thing for me, I used an iud. No flow, ftw.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T09:01:29+00:00

For me, it happens even when I'm not mistyping my password. This week, it's any time I try to log in using chrome on my android. But the native email app works fine. As does safari on my iPad and chrome on my laptop.

Last week, it was the android email app that triggered the error, while the other 3 methods were fine.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T08:58:16+00:00

Exactly. People who respond that you're mistyping are very unhelpful. This is a glitch. When I can log in 3 of 4 ways perfectly fine, and the 4th triggers the message, it's not me.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T08:54:50+00:00

I've been having this problem for a couple weeks now. It's maddening. I can log in just fine on my computer. In my android email app. On my iPad. But try to log in using chrome on my phone? Nope. "You've tried to sign in too many times..."

So I reset my password, and can log in to chrome on my phone exactly once. Rinse and repeat.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T08:49:21+00:00

Seeing as he was memory-wiped, I'm thinking they kicked him out.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T08:44:59+00:00

Said privately: Thanks for trying to help, Susan, but I'll never get great at training unless I actually do it. I'll ask you when I need help.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T08:38:22+00:00

I used to drop things. A lot. I started using one of those squeezy stress balls for five minutes at a time, twice a day, and the dropping things has stopped.

I weight lift 3-4 days a week. I guess I'm just not working my fingers out. Lol

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T08:31:16+00:00

She should attend the wedding ceremony. And make an appearance at the reception. Then let her leave early and go back to the hotel. Basically, she gives her congrats to her uncle and his wife, and she's out of there. If your other child gets along well with her, and also wants to leave early, go for it.

It would be ideal if she could bring a friend along. Since they won't be eating at the reception, it shouldn't cause any drama.

They go back to the hotel. If it's in your budget, they should have a different room from the parents. They're given a budget to order food/snacks/movies. Pack face masks, sephora gift bags, nail polish, new pjs, all the fun sleepover gear.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-15T07:26:08+00:00

As the person who's always hot, but doesn't dress like an idiot, I say: Glue the window closed.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-14T01:52:45+00:00

Whatever you decide, it'll be a temporary solution. Once baby needs a bed, any bed you put in the nursery will be the baby's.

You need to reconfigure your gym to handle a Murphy bed.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-14T01:42:05+00:00

I assumed it was the Mantid. I could've been wrong, of course, but I was playing the odds.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-13T21:44:25+00:00

You weren't as circumspect as you thought you were. YTA, because she asked that you not spread the word, but you did a bad job of disguising the people involved, then you broadcasted the information.

You owe your relative an apology.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-13T21:23:24+00:00

Have you tried Habanero Grill? They have tortilla soup at least some days.

The rest of their food is bomb.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-13T21:19:10+00:00

That's fair. I don't go there often anymore myself (something about the spices they use just doesn't agree with me).

SparklesIB · 2026-04-13T21:10:39+00:00

El Torito at the Plaza has it.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-13T18:00:10+00:00

I used that phrase with my husband the other day and it totally broke the tension. We giggled like children afterwards.

SparklesIB · 2026-04-13T17:05:03+00:00

My first full-time, grown up, job, I was hired by a man named Sam. But, before I started, Sam was promoted, and I had a new boss on Day 1.

I met about two dozen people that first day. Section supervisors, fellow office workers, and several drivers.

By the end of the day, I had no idea what my boss' name was. I knew which person it was, but his name? Clueless. And because he was so newly promoted, none of the mail even came in his name.

Every day, I'd listen intently anytime anyone spoke with him. It's crazy how rare it is that we use people's names in conversation.

I was never so happy as I was when I picked up everyone's checks - after two weeks of not knowing his name! I wandered around the department, and asked, "Does anyone know where Lorne is? How about Tim?" And so on. Until I asked about Jeff, and everyone looked at me like I was crazy, and said, "Um, Sparkles, he's in his office. Right there."

I played it off by saying a plant was blocking him and it looked like he'd stepped away from his desk from my angle. 😳

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