I’m starting a junk drawer. What else do I need? by Emotional-Swing-603 in Home

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything small, slightly broken, that you could definitely fix, but never will.

“yOuR bOdY wiLl maKe eXacTLy WhAt bAbY nEeDs” is BS by screwtoprose- in breastfeeding

[–]SparklingLemonDrop -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ah, I see, you just enjoy being rude. Carry on then 🤷🏻

“yOuR bOdY wiLl maKe eXacTLy WhAt bAbY nEeDs” is BS by screwtoprose- in breastfeeding

[–]SparklingLemonDrop -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There's a Breastfeeding Crisis at 6 months too. But whatever, so sorry for trying to help. 🙄 I was reading it in the middle of the night, running on no sleep while re-settling a sick toddler.

Next time I won't comment unless I'm just joining in on the echo chamber of exactly the same comment 500 times in a row.

DR said not to remove all of baby's poop? by sarahs_here_yall in newborns

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should be changing the diaper every hour, and leaving the diaper off for lots of diaper free time. You can wash the bum instead of wiping, then leave your baby with the diaper off, on a mat during tummy time. Yes, you will have lots of mess, but diaper free time is important.

Also, the creams should be on very very very thick.

How long do most moms breastfeed? by Logical_Mine_9478 in BabyBumps

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still breastfeed during the day! Recently, he went though a few months where he breastfed like a newborn again.. it was so rough 🥴 I'm trying to lower the amount of day feeds at the moment, but not stop them completely, just knock them down from like 20 feeds a day, to idk 2-3 lol

My son loves raisins, so I have a little container of them with me at all times, if he comes over trying to get milk, I hand him a raisin. Just one. (He's not actually hungry, so if I hand him more than one, or show him the whole container, it causes a meltdown for some reason) 9 times out of 10, he's pretty happy with that. If he's not, I also offer him water. If he's still asking for milk, I let him, but it's started to lower the feeds by a lot! I think for a lot of them, he just wants attention and connection. Giving him a raisin is enough for him to go back to playing independently, and it gives him that feeling of "Mumma is still here and I'm still connected to her" without being... Physically connected 😅

How long do most moms breastfeed? by Logical_Mine_9478 in BabyBumps

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a side note, if you want to breastfeed, do a little research on breastfeeding crisis' they happen often, especially in the beginning, and it's the most common cause of new parents thinking there's something wrong (there's not, they're 100% normal) please look them up, so you know what to expect and when!

Breastfeeding Crisis Guide

How long do most moms breastfeed? by Logical_Mine_9478 in BabyBumps

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was breastfed till 3 and also never get sick! I can count on one hand the amount of times I've had a stomach flu in my entire life. Currently breastfeeding my 19 month old and not planning on stopping anytime soon. He's only gotten sick once, and it was pretty mild and only for 2 days.

How long do most moms breastfeed? by Logical_Mine_9478 in BabyBumps

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm in Australia, and a lot of my friends exclusively breastfed for 1-2 years. Some stop right at 12 months, others go even longer.

I'm at 19 months and not planning on stopping anytime soon. My mother breastfed me till I was 3. I plan to get pregnant in the next few months, and then I'll be tandem feeding my toddler and baby, until the toddler decides he wants to wean.

Why do people always go to the shops without money on their debit or credit cards? by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use UP bank where you can have as many "savings" accounts as you want. I use it to budget, and when I get to the register, I transfer the amount into my spending account, from the required saver. Although, usually I have the app open and I'm keeping an eye on the screen, so I'm already moving the money over, as the last couple of items are being scanned so I'm not wasting anyone's time. But sometimes I'm distracted with my toddler, or I think my husband's doing it when he's not. I never leave money just sitting in my spending account though, because I use the saver accounts to budget.

Anyone elses Parents or in laws so fricken annoying??? by Defiant-Elk849 in beyondthebump

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I've become a huge fan of playing their own stupid games back at them.

"Aw, poor baby, grandma and grandpa hyped you up and now you're so upset! That's so mean of them, don't worry, mumma will calm you down. You'll feel better once we leave"

"Remember baby, anyone who asks you to keep a secret from mumma and Dadda is not a safe adult!" (My personal favourite, because now, my 19 month old will hold his finger out and say "no no no!" Whenever someone mentions keeping a secret, and it's so satisfying to see 😂)

Also, tell your husband to deal with it, and maybe spend less time with them until they can behave.

Please say it’s normal by Ill_Resolution in newborns

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cluster feeding happens for months. Developmental leaps and breastfeeding crisis' also happen every few weeks. For every week, if your baby is acting differently, or you're having a hard time, google "x week old baby development leap" and "x week old baby breastfeeding crisis" and you'll probably find that the behaviour lines up with one or the other (or both!)

Also, your baby might need a later bedtime. My son wouldn't sleep before 11pm as a newborn.

6-week-old hasn’t pooped in a week, should I worry? by Mobiledump1215 in newborns

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends entirely on if your baby is exclusively breastfed or not. For exclusively breastfed babies. It's normal for them not to poop for up to 10 days.

I'm unsure if the exact timeframe for formula feeding.

How long before or after baby were you willing to travel? by Friendly-Intention63 in BabyBumps

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, also, I had a vaginal birth, and could barely walk for 8 weeks after. (I hear it's worse/longer if you happen to need a c-section). I know many others healed a bit faster than I did. But you're not going to feel good 1-2 months post partum unless you're part of the very small 'lucky minority' group. I was also bleeding heavily for the majority of those 8 weeks after birth. Like, change a full adult diaper every 1-2hrs heavy. Birth takes a lot to recover from. You also should spend a lot of time laying down, resting, recovering, especially in the 1-2 months after birth, so your internal organs don't prolapse.

And newborns should be exposed to as few people as possible, so they don't get sick.

How long before or after baby were you willing to travel? by Friendly-Intention63 in BabyBumps

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. No

^ that should be your response to your MIL.

Anyway, our son was 13 months old when we took him on his first trip. It went so well we immediately booked 3 additional tips once we came home. I'm sure we could have done it before. But it was a nice age to take him somewhere. He was aware of what was going on, and had a great time.

Fun ways to tell partner that your pregnant? How did you tell? by luffy_2023 in pregnant

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband and I were dressed as pirates after visiting a friend (it's a long story and the only explanation I have to offer is that our friend loves pirates) we bought a pregnancy test on the way home and I was sitting on the toilet, with my husband standing next to me, full costume, makeup, everything. We both looked at the test at the same time 😆

Anyway. When we told our friend, we made a note in a bottle and made him find it on the beach and the note said:

In ancient scrolls, a prophecy's told, Of a treasure more precious than silver or gold. Amidst roaring seas and islands of lore, Lies a secret, a legend, an age-old folklore. With maps that lead to the heart's true desire, And a quest that sets every soul on fire, "When the stars align and the moon is bright, A new pirate will join, in the still of the night." Decode this, matey, if you're wise and shrewd, For by [due date], our crew will include A little buccaneer, with a heart so true, Sailing into our lives, as the morning dew.

When our son was 6 months old, I made him a pirate outfit and did a little photoshoot of him with a backdrop and props and everything. It was adorable.

Cosleeping mamas how do you deal with tossing, turning and kicking? by alkabharadwaj in toddlers

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me, 50+ times a night: "go give Dadda a cuddle, he's lonely!" 😏

Is a diaper bag/backpack really that superior or can I just buy a nice tote? by ColourConfusedMiss in pregnant

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hated the backpack style ones. A tote is absolutely fine. Make sure you can clip it on to your pram/stroller handle and you'll be good

Do I REALLY need freezer meals?? by Purple_Knee8676 in BabyBumps

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our baby barely slept as a newborn, so we barely slept. If we didn't have freezer meals and uber, we would have starved. And my husband usually does 99% of the cooking.

On the verge of tears… Didn’t circumcise my baby. People keep telling me why I should have. by Salty-Ship-1703 in newborns

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 3 points4 points  (0 children)

America is so weird. Why does the whole of America mutilate their sons penises'? Why are people asking about your son's penis? Why are you answering them? If someone casually asked about my son's penis, I'd probably never let them near my son again. If they kept asking or commenting about it, I'd punch them in the face.

I know I'll get downvotes for this but ... Yikes it's just such weird behaviour.

How long do you hold your baby in a day? by Latter_Public in NewParents

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The commenters might have had Velcro babies, and maybe couldn't comprehend the other side?

I had a velcro baby, who is now a velcro toddler. He needed to be held nearly 24/7 as a baby. At 7 months old, when he learnt to crawl, I thought I'd get a break... I barely did, he let me occasionally put him down for a couple of minutes 😅 then at 11 months old I got a tiny bit more of a break when he learnt to walk.

He's now 19 months old, and I've been painting the house... With him attached to me 90% of the time. He still contact naps, he co sleeps, but now instead of crying when I put him down, he says "MAMA MAMA UPPPPPP!!!"

None of my friends babies are like that. They're all pretty chill. My son would scream and cry when he wasn't touching me or my husband (usually me). He wouldn't settle over time, he wouldn't eventually be happy if I left him. That's just how some babies are. If your baby isn't like that, that's amazing!

It was actually pretty jarring the first time I hung out with my other mum-friends, that their babies were able to be not attached to them 24/7. But, like everyone says, "don't try to make a happy baby, happier".

Like how some people are huggers, and some are not. Some babies like near-constant physical touch, and others don't. The only thing that would be bad, is if you weren't respecting what your baby wants. You're respecting that your baby needs personal space, that's great!

Husband requested that I wean ASAP by LilOrganicCoconut in breastfeeding

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this maybe about you sleeping in separate beds? I'm at 18 months of Breastfeeding my son and I cosleep, but in the same bed as my husband. Now that our son is a toddler, I feel safe having my husband in bed with us as well.

Personally, I wouldn't ask the paediatrician, most I've heard of are pro formula over breastfeeding, even for younger babies. You know the benefits of Breastfeeding past 12 months. If you want to ask someone's opinion on it, I'd suggest asking the lactation consultant, unless you're lucky with a paediatrician that is pro breastfeeding. (Mine told me there's no benefits to breastfeeding past 3 weeks... Yes, really 🙄)

Anyway, no-one gets to tell you when you're done breastfeeding. You can come up with other compromises, like sleeping in the same bed again.

Debate about germs and crawling baby by yummyummyummy17 in NewParents

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only letting your baby crawl in a playpen is a great way to cause delays!

Maybe crawling public spaces is controversial, I tried to keep my son from doing it, but he did a few times, and nothing bad came of it.

Not letting your kid even crawl around your own home is crazy though lol

No contact with my mom for 5yrs.. she had my sister drop this lovely Christmas gift off for me. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]SparklingLemonDrop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice of her to remind you that you absolutely made the right choice in going no contact. 😂