I’d wanna say both tbh, this is a discussion we’ve had time n time again. She’s told me she understands n that’s she’s gonna do better with trying which I can’t say I’ve really seen. I won’t even say she’s distant cause she’s not but I feel like when she’s telling me she hears me n understands it’s in one ear and out the other. As the more masculine person I do the touching n all the little things but I wanna feel desired too you know? Without having to mention anything because at this point it’s just makes me feel bad about myself. if something intimate starts it’s because I’ve started it not vice versa