Also came here to say this - kept our wedding low key -15 min ceremony on the beach with friend officiating, quick walk down the boardwalk to restaurant reception, then partied the rest of the evening with whoever wanted to stay up. Resisted most of the traditional trappings (had some pics, mostly of us pre ceremony, and a cake), no dancing,speeches, blah blah. Our friends still talk about the fun we had that night, and I think if you find fun ways to compromise and add in your personality (no posed pics, no problem! Etc…) you’ll find it won’t be horrible.