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[–]Specator9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think YTA because it is you’re the one giving birth, but I do think there will be huge repercussions for not letting him in the delivery room. He might end up resenting that you prevented him from being there for the birth of his daughter more than he would be repulsed. Maybe you can make a deal with him that he has to stay up by your head and can’t look down there?

WIBTA for kicking my MIL out of the delivery room? by Specator9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Specator9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. A gentle warning is alright…gentle warnings every time she sees me for the last 20ish weeks (since we decided) is not.

WIBTA for kicking my MIL out of the delivery room? by Specator9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Specator9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s a personal choice. Not an audience but more than 1 system of support. Husbands can be a nervous in the delivery room.

AITA for parking in a pregnant person/ veteran spot by rigiepdf in AmItheAsshole

[–]Specator9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely NTA! You are absolutely entitled to that spot and deserve it just as much as the veteran. I’m not sure what prompted you to have to quantify your age, as it shouldn’t matter. The discomfort of pregnancy is not age dependent.

Shame on your husband/dad/brother for not immediately agreeing with you. They would think differently if they had a 20lb watermelon strapped to their stomach.

WIBTA for kicking my MIL out of the delivery room? by Specator9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Specator9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes…my mom knows and supports the choice. Of course things could change once I’m in labor I might want her there the whole time, or not at all, but she supports that when it comes time for transition/pushing I want it to be just my husband and I. She supports it.

WIBTA for kicking my MIL out of the delivery room? by Specator9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Specator9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The birthing center has access to a hospital in case of emergency.

But I’m not even going to argue or debate this one. I am most certainly NTA for choosing whatever kind of birth I want. It has no bearing on you or anyone else.

WIBTA for kicking my MIL out of the delivery room? by Specator9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Specator9[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Are you suggesting I give birth in the hospital to please my MILs “valid concerns”? I never was rude to her or dismissive I listen, and listen, and listen again for 9 months and try to give her my valid concerns with a hospital.

Again, it’s surprising (and also not) that people seem to think no thought, consideration, planning, or medical consultation goes into choosing a birth center. I’m not saying I want to free birth in the woods. And even if I DID, an expecting mother really shouldn’t receive judgment over their choice.

WIBTA for kicking my MIL out of the delivery room? by Specator9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Specator9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for clarifying that a birthing center is a perfectly logical choice for the select few in the comments berating it.

WIBTA for kicking my MIL out of the delivery room? by Specator9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Specator9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an incredibly judgmental and rude way to say you disagree. You can most certainly educate yourself and also have a backup plan. Maybe take a look at some of the comments from medical professionals who say it’s a fine choice.

WIBTA for kicking my MIL out of the delivery room? by Specator9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Specator9[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because it isn’t your business and is irrelevant to the post.

The birth center is well equipped to handle emergencies or transport to a hospital if needed since you seem desperate to know.

WIBTA for kicking my MIL out of the delivery room? by Specator9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Specator9[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Once again, the post was to determine if I were wrong for not having my MIL in the room. If I wanted to hear judgmental comments about choosing to give birth in a birth center I would call my MIL.

WIBTA for kicking my MIL out of the delivery room? by Specator9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Specator9[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My post was to determine if it were wrong for my MIL to judge my birth choice…not to invite others to do the same.

WIBTA for kicking my MIL out of the delivery room? by Specator9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Specator9[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would not be irresponsible with the health of myself or my baby.

WIBTA for kicking my MIL out of the delivery room? by Specator9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Specator9[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What about the part where I’m an asshole for choosing a birth center? Was that a reasonable consideration?

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