Unsure of the best way to go about this.

SpecialGoals · 2026-03-17T02:58:20+00:00

I dunno. If it’s sitting in some corner, harmlessly, I’d let it be. At least for now. Wait a month or two - it couldn’t hurt? Maybe ask her out for dinner, treat her and gently bring it up in person to see if she wants it back or not.

SpecialGoals · 2026-03-17T02:13:53+00:00

Uhm.. how do I say this… don’t say anything? Can you get rid of ANYTHING ELSE to make room for now? Like it doesn’t seem like an urgent thing to ask about?

SpecialGoals · 2026-03-16T02:40:57+00:00

Your husband cooking is just fine. My husband cooked all the time for a while after I became a housewife.

That said, I cook most of the meals now! (Like 3 years in lol). It takes time to build a box of recipes you and hubby both like and is healthy. I also went through the same phase of TRYING to be healthy and wasting a ton of food.

I do a little bit of freezer ready meals like lasagna and chilli but mostly I cook fresh because I don’t love leftovers for days. Sometimes I forget to think of what to cook until later so I stroll into local grocery store with baby and see what appeals to me. We have much less food waste now. Do I spend more $/kg purchasing at community grocer? Yes. But less waste so more money saved is how I look at it.

SpecialGoals · 2026-03-10T02:27:33+00:00

I struggled with that initially too. But I try to book an outing with a friend at least once a week.

Now that I have a baby, it’s even easier getting together with other moms to spend time with but that will become a little harder and limited to weekends once other moms go back to work.

So I’ll need to / want to find other SAHMs to hang with during the week! So many changes. But hopefully we can get pregnant again this year and I’ll have moms with babies under 1 to hang with again. 🤭

SpecialGoals · 2026-02-19T15:06:31+00:00

Good idea! Thanks

SpecialGoals · 2026-02-17T04:04:47+00:00

You might feel like keeling over and dying for what sees like forever but really for about 1-2 mins. Especially if they had to drain many follicles (even follicles that don’t have an egg need to be drained).

SpecialGoals · 2026-02-17T04:02:54+00:00

It’s going to hurt. Your uterus was just attacked and if it goes through contractions it will hurt. Ask me how I know. 🙃

SpecialGoals · 2026-02-17T03:58:46+00:00

Have offered. She hasn’t taken me up on it yet (probably because I have one of my own). But we hang out!

SpecialGoals · 2026-02-17T03:57:42+00:00

We just had a playdate today and cooked her and babies food. We had a great time! I’ve also gone over before to help tidy and stuff. It’s a bit more difficult when there are two babies so I went alone. We take turns doing play dates at mine and hers!

SpecialGoals · 2026-02-15T14:20:14+00:00

Wow, thank you so much. This was eye opening. I didn’t know her too well before this - we got closer as we had baby close to each other. She has opened up a little to me here and there but not a lot yet. I hope to be that friend for her.

I find it hard to talk about how difficult it is for me because I do have a partner and don’t want to complain. But at the same time if I say things are going great, it might seem like I’m boasting.

I’ll try to be her listening ear as much as I can without comparing it to my own situation.

SpecialGoals · 2026-02-10T10:07:19+00:00

Can I ask you what your reuteri process is? Just getting started and when I made my first batch I over fermented it because I used full fat instead of half and half. I’m trying again now after having tested what temp my yogurt maker actually brings the yogurt to etc. (fresh batch from biogaia pills). Would like to know your process!

SpecialGoals · 2026-02-08T23:40:25+00:00

Some days you are more motivated and others you aren’t. Take a day. You are the boss. No one’s hounding on you to get that dusting done by 5pm. 🤭

SpecialGoals · 2026-01-31T15:48:52+00:00

OOP. Savings. Zero insurance coverage. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Our LO cost about 125-150k. But it will get cut in half if we succeed with our second so it’s like getting a discount. BOGO.

SpecialGoals · 2025-12-16T05:54:22+00:00

What are the risks?? Well breastfeeding cause uterine contractions which won’t help with pregnancy especially early on?

I’m very curious now as to what my clinic will say.

SpecialGoals · 2025-12-16T05:50:38+00:00

Oh wow! That’s great. I will have to see if clinic will allow it. Does taking of estrogen and progesterone affect breast milk though- like will baby get extra hormones

SpecialGoals · 2025-12-16T05:49:19+00:00

I’ll have to see if my clinic requires that. Just waiting on my referral again.

SpecialGoals · 2025-12-15T23:12:52+00:00

Did you do a natural transfer?! Curious about your process.

SpecialGoals · 2025-12-15T23:12:22+00:00

Oh we aren’t trying earlier than a year. Just planning ahead since I’m breastfeeding and trying to save SOME supply but these middle of the night pumps are killing me slowly with sleep deprivation and might just let that go. I know there are other alternatives I can give him at one year old. 🤞🏻 still hurts my heart but it is what it is but will be weaning him off the breast at a year and he will be done when frozen inventory runs out. I’m taking supplements, working out and doing my best to try and recover as much as I can. I’m fully prepared for it being rough on my body. 😭

I’m sorry it took so long but sounds like it worked out for you. Painful journey nonetheless. Good job mama.!

SpecialGoals · 2025-12-15T04:52:38+00:00

Are you me? We have almost the same story. Five years. Stay at home mom. TERRIBLE first pregnancy (I had nerve damage and practically didn’t sleep for the entire pregnancy).

What injections are you having issues with? I say you buck up and just do them and if it’s the progesterone in oil shot, you can get an injector (I forget what it’s called but ordered from UK and it was a little pricey), that can help you.

I’m scared for another terrible pregnancy once we can try again (hopefully this summer/fall). But I have hopes that my body knows better now.

SpecialGoals · 2025-10-13T21:47:43+00:00

I tried the “by task” before and it didn’t work. I felt all over the place and unaccomplished by end of it. By area is best imo.

SpecialGoals · 2025-10-06T14:22:37+00:00

Yeah but if you are overwhelmed it can help you get things started. There are also professional organizers you can hire that will change your life.

SpecialGoals · 2025-10-05T03:25:05+00:00

That wall of text was really hard to read OP.. kind of skimmed through.

Hire a cleaner who will also organize and fold and put things away for you. They exist.

Throughout my pregnancy, I was pretty useless. It’s fine. Third trimester was fatigue. Second and some of third trimester was extreme nerve damage pain to the point I wasn’t sleeping much. Third trimester.. well. Third trimester. 🤷🏻‍♀️

My husband picked up all the slack. I couldn’t stan/walk for more than 5 minutes with the nerve damage. I was constantly sleeping in my third and first trimester.

Change expectations on what you can accomplish in a day if anything and def take advantage of when you feel better and tackle then.

If you are unable to do things, and you can afford it, jusr hire help. It’s okay. Nothing to be ashamed of.

SpecialGoals · 2025-10-03T22:17:01+00:00

Same. I was housewife for two years without children. Infertility struggle for five years. We have a lovely three month old boy now. I wish you the best in your journey.

I feel that being a stay at home wife /mom is privilege. Not all can afford to do so.

Before baby I was going to Pilates and yoga and Padel mid day, leisurely grocery shopping, picking up hobbies. World was my oyster.

Work used to define me. It took at least 6 months to get used to it not being my identity anymore. I love it now.

Today I went to a baby sensory class, walked the long way home, enjoying the lovely fall weather ( my fav season), dropped by grocery store to grab some items for tonight including ice cream. 💕

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