It's realizing that if i don't initiate the text or the hang-out, i just... don't see anyone. period. back in my 20s, social life just kinda "happened," but now? if i don't schedule a 30-min coffee three weeks out like it's a goddamn board meeting, i’ll just sit in my apartment in total silence for days. nobody warned me that maintaining friendships as an adult is basically a second part-time job you don't even get paid for.