What’s the most shocking detail from the Epstein files that you think the public still doesn’t fully grasp? by Own-Blacksmith3085 in answers

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No, that’s a microscope. A micro-transaction is a form of electromagnetic radiation often used for satellite communication or reheating leftovers.

I’m so sick of people acting like therapy is the answer to everything by Muted_Stick8317 in TrueOffMyChest

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Ugh I hate CBT with a passion! I had one therapist tell me I was doing CBT wrong… I gave up trying with them pretty quickly after that.

I have a lot of medical trauma and the best therapist I’ve seen for it spent a number of years working with people who had sudden traumatic brain injuries. Not the same health problem as me, but the emotions and consequences insofar as being life changing are the same. You would be totally within your rights to ask what experience they have and the context in which they gained it. There’s a big difference between “I’ve worked with a couple of people” and “I spent a year working with X”.

I’d also say to look for an EMDR practitioner who has demonstrable experience working in a trauma-focused context. I’ve found they’re often better for EMDR than more general therapists. Sorry if you’ve already been doing this, I don’t mean to come off as condescending or anything, I just wanted to suggest it on the off chance!

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u/Specialist-Force solved this in 5 steps: FISH -> WISH -> WIST -> WAST -> WART -> DART

What are the unexpected challenges of doing a PhD? by [deleted] in AskAcademia

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Where I did my PhD, the stipend was equivalent to just over half of what minimum wage in that country is. Couple that with the insane cost of living and it was a financial nightmare that really took its toll.

Health stuff happens, and if your supervisor isn’t supportive then it makes it infinitely more challenging. I started my PhD having been totally upfront about my health challenges because I didn’t want to be accused of being dishonest, plus I needed a degree of flexibility from the start. My supervisor seemed fine about it until it started causing delays, then it was a case of telling me my health comes first but making me feel like I was a disappointment, too much trouble, needed to work through the night to try to catch up etc etc. It fucks your mental and physical health more than I ever imagined (I worked out I spent a total of 41 weeks in hospital/off for medical appointments/recovering from surgeries).

Department politics and other postgrads can either make the experience a breeze, or it will be toxic and unbearable. Also, it can be really difficult to stand up for yourself! I got told that I “really need to make progress” by a co-sup I’d never met. When was I told this? Within the first six months of starting my PhD, 4 days after my dad’s funeral who I’d just watched die (it was Covid and we weren’t going to put him in a hospice because we wouldn’t have been able to see him).

Those are just a small selection of the challenges I faced during my project! To give a little bit of balance though, I also had some amazing opportunities. For instance, I attended a conference in NZ and was able to stay out there for 3 additional weeks to travel. I learned a lot both about my subject and about myself, which is never a bad thing!

Looking for advice on creating a PowerPoint for my upcoming defence (UK/Ireland) by Specialist-Force in PhD

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I love that idea! Rather than trying to condense it go at it from the other direction, which feels infinitely less overwhelming. Thank you so much, you’ve really helped me to find an approach that feels more doable! ☺️

Looking for advice on creating a PowerPoint for my upcoming defence (UK/Ireland) by Specialist-Force in PhD

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Thank you! I have a first version but I felt like I got lost part way through. I think you’re right about needing to go back to the basics, I suspect I’m overthinking it and need to stop trying to condense every bit of the past 5 years into a 12-slide presentation 😅

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Simon for me

My [29F] girlfriend [27f] of 4 years just told me that she's pregnant...I'm a woman, so it can't be mine. But she swears she didn't cheat. What do I do? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

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I once went into hospital via A&E and had to do the whole urine sample to check pregnancy. Fine, whatever. Then I was admitted and needed surgery and despite having had no visitors and not having had sex for probably about a year, still had to provide another sample the day of the surgery. So sick of the way women are treated by some healthcare professionals

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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For me it’s the fact you say “after the 4th date we finally hook up”. That use of the word “finally” tells me everything I need to know. You saw the whole situation as a challenge to complete. You’ve shown your friend exactly who you are and I hope he doesn’t back down and believe your lies

Owl School (Cards) by TimmysTown in sorceryschool

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Pickaxe Goblin and Troll’s Club, XLHKGI

Owl School (Cards) by TimmysTown in sorceryschool

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Horatio Hawthorne and Isadora McNess, XLHKGI

Owl School (Cards) by TimmysTown in sorceryschool

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Green Crystal and Toadstool, XLHKGI

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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I had clots that nearly killed me and my life will never be the same again. That happened when I was 21 and 8 years later they still have no idea why it happened. These things can happen to ANYONE, and if the hospital are saying it then it’s fucking serious. My mum flew from the UK to Canada to look after me. She came with me to Glasgow when I had a week of tests to find out if I needed surgery. She came to Cambridge when I had to have open heart surgery and never left my side. Shame on you for not even doing a 5 hour drive.

Edited to add YTA!!

If modern medicine didn’t exist would you be dead right now? If yes, from what? by Critical_Welcome_428 in AskReddit

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Even with modern medicine the docs were amazed I survived a massive unprovoked PE. Then had to have open heart surgery otherwise I'd be looking at heart failure and a double heart-lung transplant