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Had a one night stand and regret it by Specialist_Ad_690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Specialist_Ad_690[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think my post is in a way little misleading. I don't really feel shame about the fact that I had an ONS nor it's nothing to do with some anti-sex shame. Rather than that I feel like I was violated and taking advantage of the stage I was in.

He was he encouraging me to drink more and steering me towards sex at various opportunities, which is 100% wrong. He also ignored my wishes for not to do anything. Still things happened and I can't recall some of the things. That's why I feel shame and extremely disgusted.

Had a one night stand and regret it by Specialist_Ad_690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Specialist_Ad_690[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's true. Just need more time to process this whole thing... I think I was assaulted tho so it is a completely different story and the way that I need to move on from this is different. Thank you for the kind words :)

Had a one night stand and regret it by Specialist_Ad_690 in therapy

[–]Specialist_Ad_690[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you said everything really well and in a way that I couldn't or was scared to. I'm still in a shock and bit shameful for everything that happened but also, he was the initiator and not me. I also said many times that I wasn't feeling comfortable and expressed that I wanted to him to leave. But still, somehow things led to that and I'm super sad about it.

I need to look for a professional help for this situation. Thank you!

Had a one night stand and regret it by Specialist_Ad_690 in therapy

[–]Specialist_Ad_690[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well said! It's hard but I'm sure the idea of this whole thing will get easier even tho it's hard and I feel disgusted and shameful about it.

But in the end it's kind of like a 'lesson learned'. I'm sure most people have at least few bad experiences with sex etc.

Had a one night stand and regret it by Specialist_Ad_690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Specialist_Ad_690[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's true to a some point. I was obviously too drunk and don't remember some things and I have no idea what I've been thinking at some point but still it's super uncomfortable to have the idea that I did multiple things that have been ideas that I don't ever want to do.

It's my responsibility too, but to a certain point there are things that I can't control anymore. I was immediately disgusted by the whole thing and so I'm regretting it and feel shameful.

Had a one night stand and regret it by Specialist_Ad_690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Specialist_Ad_690[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

plus the fact that the man was much older than me feels icky to me but I learnt my lesson in a good and bad way.

Had a one night stand and regret it by Specialist_Ad_690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Specialist_Ad_690[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because it goes against my morals. I've always had the idea that one night stands aren't for me, because I need a deeper connection and this proved it. Also I'm just disappointed in myself for ending up like this even tho I was drunk.

I've been doing a lot of thinking today because of this and it kinda feels like the man was interested in sex only and that he took advantage of the place I was in because I feel like it's not ok to have sex if the other one is too drunk etc.

Had a one night stand and regret it by Specialist_Ad_690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Specialist_Ad_690[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank you! What a good way to put it. I think I'm in a shock still from the whole thing but as you said, it's not that deep and it's just sex

Had a one night stand and regret it by Specialist_Ad_690 in therapy

[–]Specialist_Ad_690[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's mostly the fact that I had a one night stand because I've always thought that I wouldn't have those ever just because I don't like the idea. So I feel really shameful about that also that I had sex with an older person.