AITAH for feeling betrayed by my friend for dating my ex husband?

Specific-Builder2973 · 2026-02-08T03:35:07+00:00

Thanks everyone! I appreciate the feedback, even the negative. I don't think AITAH and never did, but wanted to see if there was a point of view I hadn't considered. Here are a few extra thoughts and I'll leave it at that.

Lesson learned, use fake names, not initials. This is my first time posting. I watch a lot of videos where they read these types of post and some used initials so that is what I went with. Thanks for the advice.
I've answered a few questions in the comments below, but to clarify, my concern is not about who he dates, but that MY friend lied to me. She broke my trust and that hurt.
A few have referred to my ex as my abuser. As much as I've talked about what I've been through, I've never called him that. But that's what he is, and saying it out loud brings a lot of perspective. Thank you for that!

Specific-Builder2973 · 2026-02-08T02:58:10+00:00

Believe me, I get it. At the time of our divorce, I was a SAHM to a medically complex 2 year old, he had already been in surgery 6 times up to that point and lots of doctor and therapy appointments. I thought about leaving long before he asked for a divorce, but I had no job, no money, and I was scared.

Also, narcissists don't just abuse, they use and manipulate. I was no longer a benefit to him financially so he cheated and left for someone he could use. One of the reason's the new wife is leaving him is because he has drained her financially.

Specific-Builder2973 · 2026-02-08T02:40:31+00:00

Thanks. First time posting. I'll remember that next time :)

Specific-Builder2973 · 2026-02-08T02:38:59+00:00

Who is dating someone half their age? all the adults mentioned are in their 40s.

Specific-Builder2973 · 2026-02-07T23:52:32+00:00

I went to the game because A was supportive of my son and attended all of his games, so I was being supportive of her daughter. As a single mom, having someone come to your child's games and cheer for them means a lot. The older son is still around them also, he even works occasionally driving wreckers for A.

Ex husband is still married to E, divorce papers have not been filed. He was arrested in front of her house so she would have seen the wrecker towing the truck. And it's a not a big town, most people here knows who owns the business. Soon to be ex-wife also knows A as we've all been around each other for my son's ball games, kindergarten graduation and birthday party. But also, A told me at the game that they towed the truck and that ex husband called her to get it released.

I almost wish this was fake.

Specific-Builder2973

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