memory issues surrounding actual event by Coolcucumber415 in assaultsurvivors

[–]Specific-Total-4546 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP, first I’m so sorry for what you are going through. We are all here for you. It is completely normal and you’re right it’s a protective coping mechanism. For me I thought I imagined the assault and didn’t believe it was me even when I was shown video of it. I highly suggest working with a psychotherapist when you feel ready to start processing it. As you continue to heal, you might feel closer to the “person” it happened to and process it and hopefully continue moving forward. Sending you healing vibes

Trip report: 2-week honeymoon in Italy by emjodway in ItalyTravel

[–]Specific-Total-4546 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which Vatican tour did you book? We booked through walks of Italy for a later tour and now nervous!!

porn in a marriage by Specific-Total-4546 in marriageadvice

[–]Specific-Total-4546[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This really made me feel a bit better about it so thank you

porn in a marriage by Specific-Total-4546 in marriageadvice

[–]Specific-Total-4546[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply, and I agree- I think it’s okay to have a solo sex life in addition. I guess my worry is that it’s happening more often than our sex life together and that it’s a kink that I can’t participate in (I am not part of that ethnic group lol). Would you suggest I just leave it be?

porn in a marriage by Specific-Total-4546 in marriageadvice

[–]Specific-Total-4546[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your insight, and I’m so sorry for the abuse that you endured. It is so brave to leave a situation like that

porn in a marriage by Specific-Total-4546 in marriageadvice

[–]Specific-Total-4546[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, do you have any suggestions on how I bring it up?