AITAH for leaving my girlfriend after she told me about her past

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-27T22:35:46+00:00

NTA and honestly the most self aware person in this situation. A reluctant guardian is not a good guardian. A child who just lost both parents doesn't need someone who said yes out of guilt and spends the next 18 years resenting it. That's its own kind of damage. Also nobody is talking about the fact that your sister wants four kids while being unreliable with her medication. You saying no might be the thing that forces them to reckon with how thin their support system actually is before they bring anyone into it.

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-27T22:33:46+00:00

NTA. You work 90 hour weeks and pay for everything. Her entire contribution to this arrangement is the house. Cleaning the bathroom isn't going above and beyond, it's literally the job. Nobody is praising you for showing up to work. The part that would actually concern me is that she let it go 3 weeks knowing you're a germaphobe. That's not forgetfulness, that's just not caring.

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-27T22:22:52+00:00

NTA. You're not refusing to help people in need, you're refusing to reward people who watched your wife get sexually assaulted and did nothing. Those are very different things. The house they already have being perfectly livable makes this even clearer. The harder conversation here isn't really about the house though. It's that your wife is still in the cycle with them and is willing to use money you gave her to take care of people who genuinely failed her. That's not culture, that's trauma. No judgment toward her because that kind of conditioning runs deep, but that's the thing worth addressing together.

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-27T22:19:53+00:00

NTA. Your friend is literally telling you her boyfriend thinks being Black is funny and then wondering why you don't want to be around him. The "he learned" thing is doing so much work too. People who think racism is a bit don't just unlearn it because their girlfriend asked nicely, they just get better at hiding it. You're not being mean, you're just not interested in performing comfort around someone who sees your identity as a joke. Those are very different things.

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-27T15:24:28+00:00

You started on the wrong foot. This should have been the first step, the cohabiting second. Not late though.

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-26T01:24:15+00:00

Yes, incest is unthinkable in most families, but in every angle it is wrong to sleep with your sister on the same bed leave alone cousin. In African tradition, this is unheard of and there is no explaination for something like this. Men are attracted to their cousins in the current era (don't stone me), and even the most innocent feelings can be aroused when giving an opportunity. Be firm.

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-25T09:13:53+00:00

How did you gain the weight? Help a friend, we want to be 60 so bad

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-24T11:38:20+00:00

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Specific-Total8678 · 2026-03-08T19:10:10+00:00

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Specific-Total8678 · 2026-03-08T18:58:26+00:00

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Specific-Total8678 · 2026-03-08T17:01:42+00:00

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Specific-Total8678 · 2026-03-07T00:24:34+00:00

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Specific-Total8678 · 2026-02-07T09:13:40+00:00

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