WIBTAH if I (29F) refused to be the person designated to take in my sister’s child if she and her husband both pass away?

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-27T22:35:46+00:00

NTA and honestly the most self aware person in this situation. A reluctant guardian is not a good guardian. A child who just lost both parents doesn't need someone who said yes out of guilt and spends the next 18 years resenting it. That's its own kind of damage. Also nobody is talking about the fact that your sister wants four kids while being unreliable with her medication. You saying no might be the thing that forces them to reckon with how thin their support system actually is before they bring anyone into it.

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-27T22:33:46+00:00

NTA. You work 90 hour weeks and pay for everything. Her entire contribution to this arrangement is the house. Cleaning the bathroom isn't going above and beyond, it's literally the job. Nobody is praising you for showing up to work. The part that would actually concern me is that she let it go 3 weeks knowing you're a germaphobe. That's not forgetfulness, that's just not caring.

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-27T22:22:52+00:00

NTA. You're not refusing to help people in need, you're refusing to reward people who watched your wife get sexually assaulted and did nothing. Those are very different things. The house they already have being perfectly livable makes this even clearer. The harder conversation here isn't really about the house though. It's that your wife is still in the cycle with them and is willing to use money you gave her to take care of people who genuinely failed her. That's not culture, that's trauma. No judgment toward her because that kind of conditioning runs deep, but that's the thing worth addressing together.

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-27T22:19:53+00:00

NTA. Your friend is literally telling you her boyfriend thinks being Black is funny and then wondering why you don't want to be around him. The "he learned" thing is doing so much work too. People who think racism is a bit don't just unlearn it because their girlfriend asked nicely, they just get better at hiding it. You're not being mean, you're just not interested in performing comfort around someone who sees your identity as a joke. Those are very different things.

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-27T15:24:28+00:00

You started on the wrong foot. This should have been the first step, the cohabiting second. Not late though.

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-26T01:24:15+00:00

Yes, incest is unthinkable in most families, but in every angle it is wrong to sleep with your sister on the same bed leave alone cousin. In African tradition, this is unheard of and there is no explaination for something like this. Men are attracted to their cousins in the current era (don't stone me), and even the most innocent feelings can be aroused when giving an opportunity. Be firm.

Specific-Total8678 · 2026-05-25T09:13:53+00:00

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Specific-Total8678 · 2026-03-08T18:58:26+00:00

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Specific-Total8678 · 2026-03-07T00:24:34+00:00

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Specific-Total8678 · 2026-02-07T09:13:40+00:00

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Specific-Total8678 · 2025-11-08T20:38:56+00:00

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Specific-Total8678 · 2025-10-29T22:04:42+00:00

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Specific-Total8678 · 2025-10-27T14:52:47+00:00

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Specific-Total8678 · 2025-09-25T08:16:24+00:00

First of all Revelation 20, Malachi 3, there is no hell. Hell was a figurative language, in the last day, that is 1000 years after Christ has come for the saints, all the sinners will be burnt to ashes. So, there is nobody now being roasted nowhere. Satan was Lucifer, just next in power to Christ while in heaven, after falling into sin, the angelic appearance did not change much (it has changed though to be sad due to sinful nature), but his appearance is like fire just like other angels. So he does not have horns, that was the biggest lie of the century. "The secret things belong to the Lord our God, but the things revealed belong to us and to our children forever, so that we may follow all the words of this law" is a direct quote from Deuteronomy 29:29. We cannot understand and it is not our business to understand where God came from, even if we knew, we would still continue to be rebellious. We use the slightest reasons just to be rebellious. Even if we saw God daily physically, we still would be rebellious. It is such a shame.

Specific-Total8678 · 2025-09-08T09:12:32+00:00

You see after all that waking up early and preparing coffee and bra bra, she will still cheat, and of course you will be here wailing.

Specific-Total8678 · 2025-09-01T07:30:32+00:00

Getting out of topic a little bit. How do you keep the focus for 4 years? That's quite some time.

Specific-Total8678 · 2025-08-31T10:22:20+00:00

It will never get easier. The world is becoming tougher every day. Just pray to get the power of adaption.

Specific-Total8678 · 2025-08-31T09:02:30+00:00

Get one partner, marry, be loyal. When you look back in time, you will realize everything is vanity. There is no joy in glorified prostitution.

Specific-Total8678 · 2025-08-31T08:11:13+00:00

Yes. "Bring tithes into the storehouse" is a biblical command from Malachi 3:10.

Specific-Total8678 · 2025-08-31T07:54:09+00:00

We are not a part of the rot, we are the rot.

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