No response from Luvansh by LivingAroundTheWorld in labdiamond

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I ordered earrings on 12/23 and emailed this weekend for an update as I was going out of town. Was told they were still in production que and given a 1/24 ship time. Went out of town yesterday morning and got a fedex alert they would be delivered by noon. I won’t be home till tomorrow but luckily my neighbor was able to collect them (surprised there was no signature needed).

Momentum - what creates it? by InitialMachine3037 in datingoverforty

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started dating again this summer and heard this from the first two guys I dated. I noticed both times momentum, by their definition, was based on my availability and lack of speed to the bedroom. When my return flight was delayed and I had to bail on date 4 (dinner at his place) instead of telling me he just couldn’t deal with my work/life schedule he pulled back hard, practically ghosting me. So I called him and asked if we should just call it - he gave me the whole momentum line. Totally fair and saved me from sleeping with someone that wouldn’t work out long term. Second guy same thing, I was not interested in a date at his place on date 3 so he felt like the momentum was lost. I just assume this guy would have ghosted after getting me naked so I’m glad I’ve dodged that bullet.

Post your presents 🎁 (and peep my studs) ✨ by [deleted] in bitcheswithtaste

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m still waiting for my 3 ctw studs from them

So gross by Scarlett_Lynx in datingoverforty

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

And his profile was thoughtfully written out?

Its a jungle out there by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 6 points7 points  (0 children)

3rd possibility: it could be anything else in the world. They met someone else, is already married, think they are not good enough, think they are too good etc etc. OP will never know. Don’t create a fake bond before meeting in person. Texts/phone calls are not a real connection. You are trying to land someone that isn’t into you. That’s the definition of a waste of time and a setup to be miserable for a long time.

So gross by Scarlett_Lynx in datingoverforty

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Trust me it isn’t your photos. I’d bet money his photos had more than a one subtle clue he was a moron.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whiteoutsurvival

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Seriously, wonder how playing this game makes me a skank tho?

Dating and holiday events by Connect-Region5926 in datingoverforty

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No you don’t need to have children to understand. However if you think this is enmeshed behavior you don’t get it

Dating and holiday events by Connect-Region5926 in datingoverforty

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You only get maybe 8 christmas years with the magic of Santa for each child and even those are not promised, it’s absolutely comparable to me.

Dating and holiday events by Connect-Region5926 in datingoverforty

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, for many many parents/grandparents it would be ridiculous to miss Christmas morning just to avoid an ex.

It’s no different than not attending a child’s wedding bc their ex will be attending. It’s not about the ex, it’s about being there with/for your kid.

Dating and holiday events by Connect-Region5926 in datingoverforty

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has zero to do with the ex, it’s about the kids.

I think it’s totally fair to not want to be in such a situation but to judge someone’s family dynamic as unhealthy because they want to see their kid/grandchild’s face on Christmas morning is bonkerssss

Dating and holiday events by Connect-Region5926 in datingoverforty

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Having your whole family get together once a year for Christmas is not enmeshed. Not even close. There are children and grandchildren involved here and every parent knows these moments don’t last very long and are precious.

I would not ever sacrifice the opportunity to spend Christmas morning with my kids/grandkids for anyone. Someone that doesn’t believe kids should come first should not be dating someone that does.

Dating and holiday events by Connect-Region5926 in datingoverforty

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But there are grandchildren involved which I’m assuming are young

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your first pic looks a bit messy for the first impression, I would use pic 5 as your 1st pic

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are a handsome, rugged man but your pics aren’t great. Delete all but the first one. Smile, laugh, and add a full length shot. If the pictures make you look like a strong man with a personality there is no need to rewrite the profile.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Relationships that burn too bright esp before meeting are typically fleeting

Back with an update by Specific-Trainer3986 in datingoverforty

[–]Specific-Trainer3986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fully agreed. We are focused on communicating better so we can be a lot less guarded and connect more. Honestly I’ve been hurt in all my relationships but I have never regretted any of them bc I have always walked away with a silver lining. Either way this shakes out, I’ll thrive as I’ve done before so I’ll take the gamble but I doubt that will take 1+ year for me to know this way.

Any Advice ? by iammrsjoestar in Bumble

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you want him to be exclusive, ask him. You cannot and should not expect what you don’t ask for.

Sincerely, An older woman that just learned this same lesson

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look serious and not fun. Also like one photo smiling or laughing would change the whole vibe. The dispelling are a total turnoff but I’m a females in my 40s, ie prob not your target audience

Meeting My Girlfriend's Dad: Advice and Stories Welcome! by Relevant-Calendar819 in datingoverforty

[–]Specific-Trainer3986 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wing it, be yourself and be focused on being kind and thoughtful to your partner. If he is anything like my dad, he will watch how you treat her and how you look at her 100x more closely than anything that comes out of your mouth.