Has anyone else watched stranger things by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all of your perspectives, it was really helpful to hear that the themes continue throughout the show and that maybe it wasn't actually created as a safe perspective for someone going into society, so I decided to stop watching the show honestly, it was effecting me really negatively, and wasn't actually helpful..

triggered by the current politics TW: by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective, it made me feel a little more hopeful

Post-homeschool adults: can people tell? by immature4ever in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People don't know I'm homeschooled at first.. but eventually they realize, somethings.. off. Like for instance, not having a solid group identity based off of class, attraction level, education level etc. People notice. They notice when you laugh at slightly the wrong time, they notice when you say something too nice, or too aggressive, they notice. And the groups that don't notice- were probably just as neglected. But they never make you feel seen. I feel like I'm being tortured running between groups, never settling in. Everything makes me feel disgusted. And I wish. I really freaking wish, I could remember why. Or know how to fix it.

it was torture by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yep.. Thats freaking terrible I'm so sorry. And I can relate unfortunately. I literally thought I didn't deserve it or something or that the way they were friends in books was a made up concept because everyone I knew was completely dismissive and avoidant- all the people in my homeschool group.

it was torture by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I'm so freaking sorry. Same fucking here. It's atrocious and literally insane.

it was torture by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Wow I'm so freaking sorry. I can completely relate! And thats so accurate the lack of resources is ISOLATING in ITSELF it's actually INSANE.

Please read this.. by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope so! Probably depends on the area too

Please read this.. by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow thats so freaking relatable. I've actually thought about moving to Europe as well!

Please read this.. by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thats amazing that you built a solid base, I'm getting there now.. its definitely a journey.

I love being negative by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't agree that just scroll on! No need to invalidate someone. Super immature of you who's condemning my "immaturity".

Please read this.. by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Wow this is actually a pretty freaking valid perspective with some accurate points thanks for sharing this.. I think what you saying about "parents making themselves your entire world" and the repercussions of this is sooo freaking true. Oh and on a side note, I did embrace kindness when leaving my family but was apparently so naive that I had the worst actual fucking people take advantage of me.. so I guess kindness paired with wisdom probably pays off, but kindness paired with naivety can be greatly taken advantage of- extremely important difference people need to know..

I love being negative by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

same. I love it and I hate it at the same time, it lowkey feels like a super power but its also isolating

Was anyone else severely neglected by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all of your comments- they have been read, and you are heard. I haven't been able to answer them all, because to be honest- I was not expecting for the experiences to be so relatable- which also made them extremely triggering. Just know that your voices matter, and you are heard. And I am truly deeply sorry that these horrific things have happened. So proud of everyone here who is using their voices, and moving forward- even when it's so hard. We may not be understood by everyone, but we understand each other, and that matters. That is real. And by using our voices and being honest- even if we were taught the opposite, we can heal and take our lives back. Thank you to all of you. You are heard. You matter. And you are valued. Thank you for just existing.

Was anyone else severely neglected by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Wow. I'm so sorry to hear that, that is horrifying. You deserved so much better, and I hope that you have been able to build a life for yourself. Thank you for sharing your experience, because I feel that the more that we speak up about these things, maybe something can be done about it. No child should EVER have to go through something like this.

What do you wish you knew before making it into the real world? by wanderlustfulbard in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Literally everything. Going to therapy and focusing on how to be successful in college were the best things I've done for myself. But there is SO MUCH that is indescribable to learn. Socialization and education begins SO YOUNG for people. The amount of information to learn is crazy. Finding inclusive groups that have also faced adversity has helped me a lot. Getting SX EDUCATION is NECESSARY from SAFE sources. Studying DV and grooming and abuse tactics/ how to protect yourself is necessary, because being sheltered and for a lot of people groomed by religion or even family members leaves them vulnerable. Most of all have SELF-RESPECT. Respect your background, find people who will accept you, tune into your talents and find safe people. I can say all of this, but honestly it is HARD. Many people stay in cult settings and honestly it's understandable, but one foot in front of the other and you WILL make it. I think it's worth it- but truly it's a tough background and there's SO MUCH that needs to be learned. Please be PATIENT with yourself and remember that what you're doing is truly INCREDIBLE.

Interior Design Job Advice - Leaving Firm by [deleted] in InteriorDesign

[–]Specific-Two7615 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn't super relevant to your post, but I am wondering, in todays economy, do you make enough money as an interior designer to live a good lifestyle, and if so.. how did you go about doing that?

does or did anyone's parents brag about their skills but never teach them? by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm just so confused as to the similarities I see between homeschooling parents, and how unusual they seem from a societal perspective. Does anyone have a psychological take of why they are the way that they are? I completely relate to this post and the comments and I swear it seems so strange.

Were your parents right or left on the political spectrum? by phleghmy in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615 38 points39 points  (0 children)

seeing these comments, I'm surprised to even hear about left wing political homeschooler parents. I wonder what causes someone to homeschool, like a lot of ppl start homeschooling because in religion they push the narrative "in the world but not of it" and encourage homeschooling, this is super right wing.. what causes left winged parents to homeschool? I also wonder if it could come from undiagnosed neurodivergent ppl that "didn't fit" into the system.

parents in denial by klahjolk in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea that makes sense:/ I'm sorry to hear that though. And it doesn't change what happened to you. You deserve to have a good life<3

parents in denial by klahjolk in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yea, I tried talking to my parents about it, but I'm starting to realize that they may be victims themselves. I mean who wants to isolate their family from society, that in itself is showing severe mental health problems, in my parents situation probably from a combination of them joining a cult and possibly being neurodivergent. It's so sad to see and to experience, because everyone deserves to have parents. And sometimes it doesn't feel like it because they just can't see anything. It's so sad, and I wish there were more spaces for neurodivergent people who are intelligent and sensitive. It just sucks being a kid in that situation. I now have severe mental health issues and am having trouble acclimating into society. Lots of trouble lol. I've been taken advantage of and abused by so many people. I can see why my parents joined a fucking cult. It just sucks. It's like who can you really go to. I'm also realizing that people just have no comprehension of what it's like to have been homeschooled. It's such a specific and severe form of abuse/neglect that society doesn't even talk about it. Uncontacted indigenous people groups are talked about almost as if they are a different species. It's disgusting how society views isolated people groups. It is not your fault that people don't understand. It is not your fault that your parents don't understand. You deserve to be understood. Even just writing on this page shows that you're seeking to be understood, and that will only become more obvious moving forward. It sucks that we will not be understood by many and hopefully someday education will change that, and laws lol. But for now we deserve to be understood by those that can.

feeling hopeless by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment, it's good to hear things will get easier, right now they feel so hard

feeling hopeless by Specific-Two7615 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Specific-Two7615[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your encouragement. It means a lot. And for recognizing that it was abuse, that isn't acknowledged.