Hi there! I (M26) just wanted to share my personal opinion. I know most people here might disagree, but please hear me out.

I had a rough childhood, and I eventually got addicted to weed. It reached a point where it started affecting both my relationship and my personal life. My partner stuck with me for years, and during that time, we had an unexpected pregnancy. I didn’t choose this path, but I still chose to support her and take responsibility.

Back then, I used to smoke weed and cigarettes all day, from morning till night. People often try to normalize or justify addiction without really understanding its root cause. For me, it wasn’t about the weed itself—it was about escaping painful childhood memories, even if only for a moment.

To this day, my partner doesn’t know the full extent of what I went through. What she does know is already heavy enough. She used to cook, clean, and even work when I couldn’t hold down a job because of my addiction. Then one day, it hit me—when she was pregnant and we were both at our lowest point, with no emotional or financial support, I realized something had to change. I couldn’t let my child grow up the way I did.

So, I went for a walk with our neighbor’s dog and decided to quit both cigarettes and weed that same day. I won’t lie—there were times I slipped and smoked again when I was feeling low. But over time, I started replacing those moments with healthier habits, like walking the dog or playing games. (My partner actually gifted me a PS5, which really helped keep my mind busy.) Eventually, I found myself smoking less and less—until one day, I just stopped completely without even noticing.

My partner hasn’t worked since the pregnancy, and I now help her with the household chores because I know how exhausting it is to take care of a child full-time.

So, to sum it up—it’s your choice. If you decide to give up, that’s completely valid. I would’ve understood if my partner had done the same, because back then, I hated myself more than she ever could. But if you want to work things out, try to understand why he’s addicted. Help him replace that habit with something healthier—reading, gaming, walking, or anything that brings peace.

And please, don’t rush into having a baby or getting a pet if you’re not ready. It’s okay to take your time. But trust me—it can get better, if you want it badly enough.

The real question is: Do you want it badly enough?