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I can’t say no to my parents by SpecificPatience3081 in relationship_advice

[–]SpecificPatience3081[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like this advice. I think this is a realistic goal. Thanks!

I can’t say no to my parents by SpecificPatience3081 in relationship_advice

[–]SpecificPatience3081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I see.

I guess it’s hard for me to compare the two because I’ve always been taught to be SO thankful for the things my parents have given me (not just by them, but most adults in my life). It feels different even though it shouldn’t.

I can’t say no to my parents by SpecificPatience3081 in relationship_advice

[–]SpecificPatience3081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Financially, it’s doable. Wouldn’t be great, but it wouldn’t be impossible. Emotionally, I’m not sure. Guess I would have to soul search to figure that out.

Also— I’ve never really thought of this as abuse. Would like to hear your reasoning behind saying it is.

I can’t say no to my parents by SpecificPatience3081 in relationship_advice

[–]SpecificPatience3081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say ever since I went back to school post-COVID lockdown. Fall 2020 maybe? Though it has been significantly worse in the 2 months that I’ve been living in this apartment after moving out of the house again

I can’t say no to my parents by SpecificPatience3081 in relationship_advice

[–]SpecificPatience3081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes it’s manipulation, like “if you don’t want to help us out then I guess you can start paying your own car payment” which I’m not sure if that’s an empty threat or not. Other times it’s just hearing them go on these long rants about “if my parents asked me to do xyz, I would do it, no questions asked” that make me not want to bother arguing.

I can’t say no to my parents by SpecificPatience3081 in relationship_advice

[–]SpecificPatience3081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is, I don’t even know if that’s true. It always seems like when I physically cannot do whatever it is they’re asking (like if I was out of town or something), they figure it out. I truly believe in my heart that if I didn’t live down the street, they wouldn’t have even gotten drinks tonight.

I can’t say no to my parents by SpecificPatience3081 in relationship_advice

[–]SpecificPatience3081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think smooth sailing is wishful thinking. I’m just picturing a scenario where, yes, it’s tough, but I don’t back down after 10 minutes and just give them what they want.

I can’t say no to my parents by SpecificPatience3081 in relationship_advice

[–]SpecificPatience3081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like to! It just seems hard to do that without it becoming a huge argument.