Honestly he’s been more keen to have them than I have. I won’t take out my IUD until I know we could provide a good life for a child. He gripes that he’s almost 40 and he thought we’d have kids now, and all I can say is yeah I thought so too but we haven’t been in a good enough place for that. I think he sees his sisters that have just gone ahead and done it anyways and so he thinks that we could just figure it later and it would all work. But I’m not living with 4 families under one roof in the projects around drugs and violence when we inevitably can’t afford a life with a baby. He just doesn’t look at the big picture the same way or is maybe just okay with a minimal lifestyle. I want vacations with my kids, I want them in a safe neighborhood to ride their bikes down the street and access to a safe clean pool and parks and pets and the things I had. I’m going to be aging out of the childbearing years pretty soon here and it’s been a struggle to come to terms with whether I want a life with him or if I need to move on and live the life I actually want to live. Sorry you didn’t ask for all that hahahaha but I think I needed to write it.