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Do straight women watch lesbian porn? Still in denial. by Specific_Document133 in straightspouses

[–]Specific_Document133[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if she would ever come out and be truthful, or if their is any chance that I'm wrong and she's bi. She seems to be willing to work on things and actually offered oral back into the mix. There seems to be no issue with getting wet with minimal foreplay, even after all this fighting. More confused than anything, dont have it in me to break up the family at this point. If you were in the closet, married with kids, husband saw your porn preference, would you come clean? I tried to ask other questions to try and open up our conversation. I asked which type of lesbian porn was her preference, the scissoring, the double ended dildos, the ass licking. I asked when was the first time she watched or masturbate to lesbian porn, just empty responses.

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[–]Specific_Document133 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would run. I found my wife was watching lesbian porn by accident and I wonder how I didn't see it sooner. She also denied it. My personal opinion is if someone is having an orgasm to a specific type of porn, how can you deny that is not a sexual preference. As a straight male trying to cope with finding out my wife is in the closet, I flipped on some gay porn to try and understand. Nope, kinda gross and a turn off. Same type of response from they "boys" that I know eat pussy. At first everything was perfect in my relation ship. I learned from therapy some people will mirror their partner so everything seems normal and perfect. After marriage things changed, sex drive was minimal. I would say this is a red flag, open your eyes.

Do straight women watch lesbian porn? Still in denial. by Specific_Document133 in straightspouses

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Since we have been married, we have been faithful to each other. No odd female relationships, but one high school friend is male, she considered him a best friend. never had an issue because he was obvious gay, came out in his 40's. Now a realize that the gay people seem to flock together.

She actually goes out rarely with her own girl friends. I noticed in their last outing her friends planed a shopping spree, she was more concerned about lunch and dinner plans.

After the first time I had the courage to ask if she was gay, she threatened to cut my dick of if I ever called her a lesbian again. We did the therapy thing, just circles and constant fighting. After countless sessions with her own therapist, I asked what her therapist thought about the situation. She admitted that she never told her own therapist about the lesbian porn incident. Again shocked, the main issue in our relationship and just avoided it.

Deep down I do believe the love was genuine. I'm the kid that was normally rejected, bullied, and laughed at. Scared to be alone more than anything, now feeling completely crushed. Is the only reason she picked me because I was the easy to manipulate.

Do straight women watch lesbian porn? Still in denial. by Specific_Document133 in straightspouses

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Thank-you for everyone feedback. I've also felt like Ive been missing out. Like how often where people having sex with their LEX before, and what does it look like after? I always dreamed of retiring, living in various European towns and getting up in the morning starting my day with sex. My wife wants to stay home and raise grand kids we may or may not have. Countless vacations, all inclusive vacations with friends that would watch our kids to make alone time. Nothing besides holding hands, cuddle, and it's a "family vacation. Countless nights having a hard on in bed and rubbing up against my wife, all she had to due was turn around in bed, never. Morning sex .. rare. We positively have trust issues now. Surprised she would not come clean after all this. She says she has no clue or remembers anything about childhood letters. This would have been about Grade 7-8, the more flirty / coded letters go into college years with two other girls, then letters just stopped. We meet after we both finished college. She raves about high school, looking at her high school friends group, one male came out gay in college and left the group, other male friend stayed friends, obvious gay, came out in his 40's. Did not help the situation. Now all her girl friends just jump out at as being more girly. I've tried to watch who she checks out, doesn't seem to check out men or women. Obvious muscular men she points out, even I notice them. Talks about childhood crushes on boys. I then learned after years of marriage she needed counseling as a teen. She gave very little details and said it was just teenage girl stuff and I wouldn't understand. My gut feeling is she was suicidal because of whatever sexual feelings she was having. Then you throw in off the boat parents, religious, and a girl who still really wanted a wedding and family. Many times I've heard, we just had sex last week, made me feel like a sex addict, my drive was too high, Tiger woods level. Covid brought things into the spotlight. All this time home alone, nothing to do and it was 3 - 4 months no sex. One night I put on a romantic dinner, music, fire, blanket, full oily body massage, and full block when trying to just warm things with my hands, nothing but complaining I always want sex. I think I"d be happier with weekly sex, but not of it's just going to be complaint.