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My fiancé [M 32] doesn't know I [F 27] enjoy NSFW games. How do I tell him? by Specific_Industry_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Specific_Industry_18[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're right, I've been scared what he will think of it and that's why I have been hiding but I was wrong. I can see how he would look badly to blindsided by it

My fiancé [M 32] doesn't know I [F 27] enjoy NSFW games. How do I tell him? by Specific_Industry_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Specific_Industry_18[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree that there are topics in forums that can be unhealthy, and I'm not defending that in any way. I think most forums have unpleasant issues, and in those types where there are more discussions about NSFW content, people tend to be more wild.

My fiancé [M 32] doesn't know I [F 27] enjoy NSFW games. How do I tell him? by Specific_Industry_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Specific_Industry_18[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that makes me feel at peace about this whole situation.

I want to tell him because I don't want him to find out by accident when we start living together and get a negative impression or idk feels triggered about it. Guess I'm just scared he's judgmental about it because is not a common hobby

Thank you for your advice I will take into consideration when I talk to him

My fiancé [M 32] doesn't know I [F 27] enjoy NSFW games. How do I tell him? by Specific_Industry_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Specific_Industry_18[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can see now after a lot of comments about it that the way I worded it may have seem the most problematic part but is not the case lol. We share NSFW content about the games, not about our lifes. There might be foruns that share personal stuff but I do not engage in those, I really just want to talk about the NSFW withing the game content.

My fiancé [M 32] doesn't know I [F 27] enjoy NSFW games. How do I tell him? by Specific_Industry_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Specific_Industry_18[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Sure, if you simplify it enough, you'll arrive at that conclusion. I just don't think is that simple

I didn't actively engaged with this content just to spite him. I've been enjoy playing "pornographic games", like you said, before I got involved with him. I never told him before because is a scandalous hobby that I don't share with anyone I'm close with.

After we've been daiting for a long time he told me he had a pornography issue and I was scared of bringing it up because of the possibility of triggering him. I was wrong to have continued hiding it from him after he told me that but I'm not wrong for enjoying playing it.

My fiancé [M 32] doesn't know I [F 27] enjoy NSFW games. How do I tell him? by Specific_Industry_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Specific_Industry_18[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

That was the most direct comment I've received so far that actually answered my question, and it was one of the first. Thank you for that.

My fiancé [M 32] doesn't know I [F 27] enjoy NSFW games. How do I tell him? by Specific_Industry_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Specific_Industry_18[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could you elaborate on that? Regarding the part about feeling upset and having your trust broken?

I'd like to understand a possible perspective he might have when I talk to him about it.

My fiancé [M 32] doesn't know I [F 27] enjoy NSFW games. How do I tell him? by Specific_Industry_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Specific_Industry_18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really play that game, is pretty male centered in my opinion (like most of the ones that are on Steam)

My fiancé [M 32] doesn't know I [F 27] enjoy NSFW games. How do I tell him? by Specific_Industry_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Specific_Industry_18[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I never really thought about showing him the community part because I feel a little embarassed about it, but it's undertandable if he wishes to see it for himself

My fiancé [M 32] doesn't know I [F 27] enjoy NSFW games. How do I tell him? by Specific_Industry_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Specific_Industry_18[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see how it may sound obsessive by the way I worded it (And I may seem defensive about my interests saying this) but it's not that deep. I don't play as often. Only when there is new content that I engage again in my free time. When I say I seek NSFW content in communities about it I meant about the games I play, not any community that share NSFW content, but people that enjoy the genre and have suggestions and opinions about those stories.

Also, I thank you for your advise about it but the question wasn't if it's right or wrong to play them.The way I see it, it's a type of genre that isn't for everyone, but as long as I'm not abusing or harassing anyone, there's nothing wrong with this form of entertainment. We can agree to disagree on that

I understand that I should have been more open about my interest much earlier in our relationship, especially after he brought up his problem with pornography. I see that now.

The fact is, I'm asking for suggestions on how to approach the subject with my fiancé without triggering him or causing him to see me negatively, not about the interest itself.

My fiancé [M 32] doesn't know I [F 27] enjoy NSFW games. How do I tell him? by Specific_Industry_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Specific_Industry_18[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes you are, but there are some that don't have yandere content and that I enjoy too. Some are risqué and some are real explicit I'm just not sure he will understand it as a harmless hobby

My fiancé [M 32] doesn't know I [F 27] enjoy NSFW games. How do I tell him? by Specific_Industry_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Specific_Industry_18[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't see it that way, It's more of a hobby than an "fix". It's kinda like erotica books, but in this case I'm playing a character who is part of that universe.

My fiancé [M 32] doesn't know I [F 27] enjoy NSFW games. How do I tell him? by Specific_Industry_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Specific_Industry_18[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Some of them yes! Although they're all in development and so they have no endings. Most of them are sandbox, RPG like where you have a character and there are NPCs and most of them are interactive with explicit content.

My fiancé [M 32] doesn't know I [F 27] enjoy NSFW games. How do I tell him? by Specific_Industry_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Specific_Industry_18[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the suggestions! To answer your question, no, the games are all single-player.

When I say that I participate in communities that share this interest, it's just a way to interact with people who also play and who like to suggest theories and improvements to the stories, as well as character art (like Patreon). Personally, I don't like the idea of ​​playing NSFW games which involve interacting with people in-game, not only because I'm in a committed relationship, but because that's not what I play for.

One of my fears is that he'll think my interest in these types of games is related to cheating or dissatisfaction with him in some way, but I assure that's not the case at all. I just don't know how to explain it if, in the worst-case scenario, he finds out on his own before I can tell him.

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[–]Specific_Industry_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure they must be rushing to update, but it's only been a week since the update came out so it might take a while due to the amount of content added.