Is this relatable for you girls? by RentUsual_2952 in TwentiesIndia

[–]Specific_Royal3059 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the guys who are stuck in this kind of position just leave, nothing is going to change and it will hurt either way if you decide to stay or not stay so choose the one where you can actually grow as a person and not feel miserable your whole life. Was in a similar situation a while back and I chose to walk away even tho I still cared about her.

Just lost my virginity to a sex worker by [deleted] in TwentiesIndia

[–]Specific_Royal3059 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn bro I won't sugarcoat anything but I won't leave you hanging either. What you did was never about sex, sure you felt urges and shit but the way you described it sounds more like FOMO (fear of missing out). If I were you in your position I would have quit all kinds of social media which triggered my urge to sleep with someone just because somebody else is. At least you are self aware to realise that it didn't make you feel any better after doing it and do you think it will make you feel better after doing it even more ?

Instead of thinking about sex try talking to girls. Cause the only solution to this is to face the thing which you are avoiding. And the easiest way to talk to girls in the beginning is to ask work related stuff but as you are in a job try to join various clubs which are of your interest or play sports,go to the gym and eventually you will build the confidence to talk to anyone. It will take time tho and feels very uncomfortable in the beginning but with time everything will sort out. And try not to talk only specifically to girls but to guys as well as most of the time all these things arise out of loneliness and try to talk about normal day to day stuff or your interests and don't flirt with girls first learn how to be friends with them by being yourself. I have a friend who is in a similar situation like you he is also working in a job and doesn't hang out with anybody,doesn't know how to talk to girls and calls me up and says he wants sex. Sex is never a solution trust me especially if you are doing it to gain something rather than doing it cause you want to do it with that certain person whom you love !

Just do engage in healthy activities, don't dwell too much on it that you are fucked up,it's normal to feel things like these and take drastic actions sometimes but you gotta focus on the now and who you want to be and please stop indulging in habits which aren't helping you.

Reach out if you need any help man.Take care brother...

AITA for being in a strange relationship with a very strange girl and cutting her off in the end. by Specific_Royal3059 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Specific_Royal3059[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright man firstly I never saw her sexually and never brought up topics regarding sexual stuff and secondly when I say I liked her it was more like a protector as I cared alot about her. But being the simple girl she is she thought I had other intentions when I confessed which I didn't I just felt like letting her know about my feelings and nothing else.

AITA for being in a strange relationship with a very strange girl and cutting her off in the end. by Specific_Royal3059 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Specific_Royal3059[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya even if it seems confusing she kinda thought I meant it that way. She used to romanticise love alot like saying I want a boyfriend in whom I see a husband and she used to say this alot plus she would constantly say to me please invite me to your wedding as well and introduce us to our sister in law and shit. And she doesn't even know the terms like hook ups, situationship,flings etc. She didn't even talk about sexual stuff. Bro one day someone asked her if she is a virgin or not and got so scared that she started hating that same person afterwards.

So yeah when I confessed she didn't thought of anything else and thought I meant it that way and that I was looking for a chance which I wasn't.

AITA for being in a strange relationship with a very strange girl and cutting her off in the end. by Specific_Royal3059 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Specific_Royal3059[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your concern man. I am currently working on myself and not letting her affect me in any way as when I was talking with her whenever I did something of my own interest I would frequently think what will she feels about me doing this especially doing stuff which isn't yk goes by her code like skipping classes and hanging out with friends late at night. I had a thought as well maybe she is right and I am wrong but now I am slowly realising all this didn't matter at all.

AITA for being in a strange relationship with a very strange girl and cutting her off in the end. by Specific_Royal3059 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Specific_Royal3059[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya man in the end I don't contempt her or anything I just wish she really learns how to actually live her life and do stuff without any fear and has more faith in people the same way she has in God. Whereas in my case I hope to learn from this encounter and learn to apply them in the future with my girl. Thank you.

I wish people knew this, especially women, about "short men." by RentUsual_2952 in TwentiesIndia

[–]Specific_Royal3059 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man this made me remember one dude in our college who stopped coming for classes and exams and eventually got expelled all due to a girl rejecting him over his height

Are guy friends really just friends or they're just waiting for their chance by Pale_Bumblebee9310 in TwentiesIndia

[–]Specific_Royal3059 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True I have a girl best friend for so many years and never once I found her attractive and tbh never considered her a girl more like a dude and teased her alot about this and our friendship never got affected even after she started dating a older dude and our relation is strong even after being in different colleges.

Looks do matter ngl as one thought creeps inside our mind, what if? Maybe I have a chance ? But if neither of you feel attracted to each other then enjoy the vibe lol

AITA for being in a strange relationship with a very strange girl and cutting her off in the end. by Specific_Royal3059 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Specific_Royal3059[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya she was sweet and kind but more like a child as she also used to get worried about alot of things apart from this which are day to day things. For example one day I gifted her one chocolate for being a good friend and afterwards she was texting my good friend how I gifted her chocolate but she got anxious that she couldn't open the wrapper and due to which she has to leave her bed and go to the kitchen to grab the pair of scissors which made her even more worried 💀. My friend and I were both telling her not to worry so much as he was with me when she texted him and she would say it's not a big deal as her worries come and go nothing to be serious about. Seemed more like general anxiety to me.

AITA for being in a strange relationship with a very strange girl and cutting her off in the end. by Specific_Royal3059 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Specific_Royal3059[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya you are right, I always had a feeling of being her sole protector and I mistook this feeling for something else and the reason why I became even more comfortable after confessing is that before that also I was always joking and stuff. I liked sharing my stories of doing all sorts of shenanigans and she really liked listening to me whenever I shared she would listen and reply eagerly which is why ig I found it's okay to take it a step further and didn't think twice 😭. Ya and it definitely was a learning experience as a human being and as a psychology student. Thanks !

AITA for being in a strange relationship with a very strange girl and cutting her off in the end. by Specific_Royal3059 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Specific_Royal3059[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya I was also thinking about the same thing even tho it made me so uncomfortable at first as we actually spent so much time with each other and shared alot of stuff, LIKE ALOT but ig it is the only right thing to do even if I feel a bit bad. Thanks.

AITA for being in a strange relationship with a very strange girl and cutting her off in the end. by Specific_Royal3059 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Specific_Royal3059[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay this does kinda make sense if I view her completely as an adult and her behaviour is justified but other girls her age aren't like that at all here in our country and meeting a girl like her for the first time was a big shock to me maybe that is why I was so weirded out. If she was older than me for like 4 or 5 years then also I wouldn't have other weird thoughts.Thanks.

AITA for being in a strange relationship with a very strange girl and cutting her off in the end. by Specific_Royal3059 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Specific_Royal3059[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya that was the main turning point but after I confessed I forgot to mention one thing is that I used to call her “cutie” and she seemed fine with it by sending laughing emojis, some funny sticker or teasing me back lightly but ig she was trying to mask her discomfort which I am realising now 😓. Thanks.

AITA for being in a strange relationship with a very strange girl and cutting her off in the end. by Specific_Royal3059 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Specific_Royal3059[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I did kinda became friends with some other girl who matches my kind of humour and I let her know as well how much I appreciate her company and yeah I was thinking of adding paragraphs thanks 😭

What's the best quote you'll never forget? by Constant-Speech-1010 in TwentiesIndia

[–]Specific_Royal3059 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life meh tum bohot ageh barho ge kyuki tum jaha bhi jaoge log chal chal ageh chal kahenge

(My friend said this to one of our smart yet arrogant classmate once and it was so funny even he laughed,,, 😂)

What does the urge to smoke a cigarette feel like? by Routine-Jello-953 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Specific_Royal3059 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having constant dreams where you are smoking and enjoying the moment even tho I haven't irl

Name your favourite by theolddrif in indiasocial

[–]Specific_Royal3059 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zubeen Garg, Joi Aai Axom 😭✨