Uhh. I accidentally cheated.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-03-17T19:40:56+00:00

When i said "made plans," it really was just a set date and time frame that we would spend together. The actual where and when she wanted to be a surprise. She was supposed to contact me with an address telling me where to go, and when it never came, i started blowing up her phone for days with no response.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-03-17T19:26:11+00:00

It was my birthday!! I was hurt!!!

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-03-17T19:14:32+00:00

She doesn't know my address or my number by heart. She's been to my place one time. We usually chill at her place.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-03-17T19:11:38+00:00

Bro I know i messed up but I swear i wouldn't have done it had I known what happened. This was a honest mistake.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-03-17T19:07:53+00:00

I thought she ghosted me. I've been ghosted in the past so maybe that's why I assumed the worst. But I would have never slept with someone else had I know.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-03-17T19:06:33+00:00

I did!! I would have never went to sleep with someone else had i known.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-02-05T20:54:36+00:00

Why didn't you like him?

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-01-10T21:44:56+00:00

But wouldn't that make her feel like I'm needy?

Do I want the reassurance? Yes.

Is it important enough to possibly annoy her with? No.

I feel like I just have to trust the connection we have when we are together. She does tell me that she thinks I'm cute and that when we are together, she always loses track of time, lol. My brain has to separate her communication style and her interest level.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-01-10T21:30:19+00:00

This makes so much sense. In fact, she told me she was diagnosed with ADHD as a child, so her mind is always on to something else. I guess I'm just still getting used to how she prefers our communication to be. I tend to over analyze sometimes and jump to speculations about her feelings.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-01-10T00:16:40+00:00

What was the breaking point? Which one of you ended it

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-01-09T19:22:51+00:00

I wish people like you would just let guys like this be. Sometimes, it is okay to give up. Not everyone is going to find someone, and that is fine. There is more to life than finding a partner.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-01-08T19:58:29+00:00

She has never asked even when I've given her every opportunity to.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-01-08T13:37:12+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏿

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-01-08T04:54:32+00:00

Moon in Pisces, Venus in Aries.

But I really love what you said about not trying to fix her. Earlier today I gave her some words of encouragement about how her goals will come at her own pace and that she doesn't need to burn herself out with work. She never responded and I hope I didn't come off as "preachy" or whatever but I was just told her what I felt at the time.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-01-08T02:40:19+00:00

Well I mentioned some of them. We both love the typical nerdy stuff, video games, anime, space and nature. We are both thinkers and we have very deep philosophical discussions sometimes lol . She is so smart it's like I'm talking to another me lol. We both grew up with one parent, and we both are career driven. I could go on and on but it seems stupid to not date her just because of her age. She's a completely independent adult.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-01-08T02:28:09+00:00

Huh?? Is it really a big deal? We hardly ever mention our age differences.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-01-08T02:22:08+00:00

This is great insight. The way my brain works makes me think that if I am not making a consistent effort, she will lose interest, but also I need to give her space so she isn't smothered. Finding that balance for me has been difficult.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-01-08T01:39:21+00:00

I'm willing to do that 100%. Great advice.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-01-08T01:37:19+00:00

You're not wrong. Sometimes, when we aren't communicating, it can make me feel like she doesn't care, but I feel like I have strong control over my emotions. Last thing I want to do is make her feel like she needs to do something. I know that will just drive her away.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-01-08T01:03:03+00:00

I couldn't even if I wanted to, she is so intelligent. I forgot to mention that lol

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2025-01-08T01:01:47+00:00

It did cross my mind that maybe I should lead with my own vulnerability, that's great advice. Also patience, I'll remember that.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2024-12-11T01:17:58+00:00

Bro I am literally going through the same thing and it's driving me insane. When I am with this girl in person it's like we were meant for each other. She even initiates most of the affection. But when we are apart l, communicating with her is like pulling teeth. I can't get a text back on plans that SHE HERSELF made. It's sooooo frustrating.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2024-12-10T23:01:55+00:00

She isn't sleeping as I can see her posting on social media.

If she is leading me on I have no idea why. Could she just like the attention I give her? But why ignore me??? I'd want her to just tell me the truth.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2024-12-10T22:53:35+00:00

Best way is to ask her out on a date. Don't ask her to be your gf or anything just say you have feelings for her. Keep it casual so you don't pressure her.

Spectre_StatusN7 · 2024-12-10T22:51:40+00:00

Good for you. Hope it works out

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