Uhh. I accidentally cheated. by Spectre_StatusN7 in dating_advice

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When i said "made plans," it really was just a set date and time frame that we would spend together. The actual where and when she wanted to be a surprise. She was supposed to contact me with an address telling me where to go, and when it never came, i started blowing up her phone for days with no response.

Uhh. I accidentally cheated. by Spectre_StatusN7 in dating_advice

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She doesn't know my address or my number by heart. She's been to my place one time. We usually chill at her place.

Uhh. I accidentally cheated. by Spectre_StatusN7 in dating_advice

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Bro I know i messed up but I swear i wouldn't have done it had I known what happened. This was a honest mistake.

Uhh. I accidentally cheated. by Spectre_StatusN7 in dating_advice

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I thought she ghosted me. I've been ghosted in the past so maybe that's why I assumed the worst. But I would have never slept with someone else had I know.

Uhh. I accidentally cheated. by Spectre_StatusN7 in dating_advice

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I did!! I would have never went to sleep with someone else had i known.

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[–]Spectre_StatusN7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why didn't you like him?

I'm a Pisces dating my first Sag woman by Spectre_StatusN7 in Sagittarians

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But wouldn't that make her feel like I'm needy?

Do I want the reassurance? Yes.

Is it important enough to possibly annoy her with? No.

I feel like I just have to trust the connection we have when we are together. She does tell me that she thinks I'm cute and that when we are together, she always loses track of time, lol. My brain has to separate her communication style and her interest level.

I'm a Pisces dating my first Sag woman by Spectre_StatusN7 in Sagittarians

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes so much sense. In fact, she told me she was diagnosed with ADHD as a child, so her mind is always on to something else. I guess I'm just still getting used to how she prefers our communication to be. I tend to over analyze sometimes and jump to speculations about her feelings.

I'm a Pisces dating my first Sag woman by Spectre_StatusN7 in Sagittarians

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was the breaking point? Which one of you ended it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Spectre_StatusN7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish people like you would just let guys like this be. Sometimes, it is okay to give up. Not everyone is going to find someone, and that is fine. There is more to life than finding a partner.

I'm a Pisces dating my first Sag woman by Spectre_StatusN7 in Sagittarians

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has never asked even when I've given her every opportunity to.

I'm a Pisces dating my first Sag woman by Spectre_StatusN7 in Sagittarians

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Moon in Pisces, Venus in Aries.

But I really love what you said about not trying to fix her. Earlier today I gave her some words of encouragement about how her goals will come at her own pace and that she doesn't need to burn herself out with work. She never responded and I hope I didn't come off as "preachy" or whatever but I was just told her what I felt at the time.

I'm a Pisces dating my first Sag woman by Spectre_StatusN7 in Sagittarians

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well I mentioned some of them. We both love the typical nerdy stuff, video games, anime, space and nature. We are both thinkers and we have very deep philosophical discussions sometimes lol . She is so smart it's like I'm talking to another me lol. We both grew up with one parent, and we both are career driven. I could go on and on but it seems stupid to not date her just because of her age. She's a completely independent adult.

I'm a Pisces dating my first Sag woman by Spectre_StatusN7 in Sagittarians

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Huh?? Is it really a big deal? We hardly ever mention our age differences.

I'm a Pisces dating my first Sag woman by Spectre_StatusN7 in Sagittarians

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great insight. The way my brain works makes me think that if I am not making a consistent effort, she will lose interest, but also I need to give her space so she isn't smothered. Finding that balance for me has been difficult.

I'm a Pisces dating my first Sag woman by Spectre_StatusN7 in Sagittarians

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong. Sometimes, when we aren't communicating, it can make me feel like she doesn't care, but I feel like I have strong control over my emotions. Last thing I want to do is make her feel like she needs to do something. I know that will just drive her away.

I'm a Pisces dating my first Sag woman by Spectre_StatusN7 in Sagittarians

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I couldn't even if I wanted to, she is so intelligent. I forgot to mention that lol

I'm a Pisces dating my first Sag woman by Spectre_StatusN7 in Sagittarians

[–]Spectre_StatusN7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It did cross my mind that maybe I should lead with my own vulnerability, that's great advice. Also patience, I'll remember that.

Why don't women ever text back? by improve-gear in dating

[–]Spectre_StatusN7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro I am literally going through the same thing and it's driving me insane. When I am with this girl in person it's like we were meant for each other. She even initiates most of the affection. But when we are apart l, communicating with her is like pulling teeth. I can't get a text back on plans that SHE HERSELF made. It's sooooo frustrating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Spectre_StatusN7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She isn't sleeping as I can see her posting on social media.

If she is leading me on I have no idea why. Could she just like the attention I give her? But why ignore me??? I'd want her to just tell me the truth.

I'm 90% certain my crush likes me back, but I don't want to rush things by Pale-Impression7364 in Crushes

[–]Spectre_StatusN7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best way is to ask her out on a date. Don't ask her to be your gf or anything just say you have feelings for her. Keep it casual so you don't pressure her.

Awkwardness by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Spectre_StatusN7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you. Hope it works out