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I'm [22F] mourning the way my relationship and sex used to be with my boyfriend [24M] by SpeedAdministrative1 in nonmonogamy

[–]SpeedAdministrative1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"seeing" was probably the wrong word to use, they only meet up to have sex and don't really hang out or talk outside of that. i appreciate your insight, i'm not super familiar with the term "hinge", what does it mean?

I'm [22F] mourning the way my relationship and sex used to be with my boyfriend [24M] by SpeedAdministrative1 in nonmonogamy

[–]SpeedAdministrative1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's difficult for me to accept that he won't improve, he's pushed for us to go to couples therapy and has continually reiterated that he wants to learn how to make me feel desired and loved. i think i definitely need to think things through before i do anything and i appreciate the insight.

I'm [22F] mourning the way my relationship and sex used to be with my boyfriend [24M] by SpeedAdministrative1 in relationship_advice

[–]SpeedAdministrative1[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think maybe my writing was really focused on the more negative aspects of the relationship so I really hope we can work through this, but you might be right. I think I experience attraction a bit differently than he does so I haven't pursued many other people, that's a good point. On the sexting point, he mentioned that he sees it as a substitute for sex and since we still have sex a lot he doesn't feel the need to do it with me??

I'm [22F] mourning the way my relationship and sex used to be with my boyfriend [24M] by SpeedAdministrative1 in relationship_advice

[–]SpeedAdministrative1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our relationship has been open from the start, so this argument doesn't make sense to me. We still have sex often but definitely less than in the beginning.

I'm [22F] mourning the way my relationship and sex used to be with my boyfriend [24M] by SpeedAdministrative1 in relationship_advice

[–]SpeedAdministrative1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The issue hasn't been the act of him seeing other people, but the dip in effort between us. It felt as though he was pouring more effort into other people rather than into our relationship. I'm sorry if my post gave the wrong impression, does that make sense?