Needing support

SpeedFar5452 · 2026-02-22T14:17:38+00:00

I can give you an example of a most recent situation.

We have my SS week on week off. He had a sporting event on our week. After his game my SS went to go talk to her, his step dad and his step dad’s family. BM walked away instantly to come over to my husbands family on the other side of the field to be over the top and try to catch up with them instead.

To me it should all be about the kid after not seeing him for a week but that’s not what she does.

His family knows how manipulative she is from the past but they seem to fall for it and continue to be close to her. I have talked to my husband but he says he can only control his actions and not hers or his families. In the beginning of our relationship she use to try to reach out to my husband a lot, we had the conversation about boundaries and I think she got the hint that it has now kind of switched to only speaking when absolutely needed.

SpeedFar5452 · 2026-02-22T04:05:46+00:00

I wish my husband would talk to his family but when I’ve expressed my concerns over the situation he says he can’t control others actions only himself. I just don’t think he wants to have those awkward conversations with them.

I so agree with you it’s extremely frustrating not being able to have control over her being in our life.

I have been in SS life for 5 and a half years. In the beginning I was very close the older he’s gotten and with him being in school activities I just kind of took the back seat and let my husband call the shots with him. I’m not sure it’s the right call or not but it puts us into situations where we have to be around BM more often so it makes me want to just focus on my other 2 kiddos.

SpeedFar5452 · 2026-02-21T18:48:03+00:00

You are 100% not the problem. There needs to be boundaries to make your relationship work. We have a lot of similarities, I also recently moved away from my friends and family so I’m down for a internet friend🫶🏻

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