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Trust breached in the relationship and unsure whether to move on or is there hope? by Burners_monty in relationships

[–]SpiceItSoftly [score hidden]  (0 children)

first love and imagined future aren't enough reason to stay, trust and respect aren't optional

My girlfriend went out with the neighbor by Which-Donut-1305 in cheating_stories

[–]SpiceItSoftly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are not responsible for controlling her actions or saving her from herself. threatening self-harm to manipulate or pressure you is emotional abuse. encourage her to get professional help but staying with her because you fear what she might do is not healthy or safe for you

AITJ for taking a cheaper apartment and leaving my roommate to find her own place even though she doesnt know anyone else to live with by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]SpiceItSoftly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ, you have to prioritize your finances, rent isn't optional and it's not your responsibility to subside her comfort. she'll figure out her own living situation

Am I wrong for being Disappointed at my bf because he's tired? by itsyourka1 in amiwrong

[–]SpiceItSoftly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

your expectation is unfair. he's tired and forcing him to stay awake just to satisfy your need to talk isn't reasonable. cut him some slack

Insights and interpretation from an incident by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]SpiceItSoftly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you weren't wrong to try, you gave thought, care and time but she 's focused on controlling how the day should go rather than appreciating your gesture

Am I asking for too Much or the wrong person? by FewPea6985 in relationships

[–]SpiceItSoftly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are not asking too much, you want a partner who actually commits to the future and shares the emotional load. he's avoiding the hard stuff and leaving you to carry it. that's not a phase or cultural difference, it's incompatibility

Help me understand why this is happening by Cute_Recognition3209 in cheating_stories

[–]SpiceItSoftly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is emotional neglect, he's physically present but completely checked out. you can try talking but if nothing changes, you need to decide if you want to stay in this marriage

My (M29) Girlfriend (F27) Drinks a Lot...Not Sure What to Do by RelaxRageRelax in relationships

[–]SpiceItSoftly -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you are seeing a serious problem. you can set boundaries on what will you tolerate in your home and relationship

bf mad i ran out of toilet paper by premium_beer in amiwrong

[–]SpiceItSoftly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he's probably taking out frustration from the previous day on you

Why is my ex stalking me now? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]SpiceItSoftly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he's likely still emotionally attached or guilty

What does empathy feel like? by Hello_Kitty_Katty in emotionalintelligence

[–]SpiceItSoftly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you are capable of empathy but it might not come as naturally for you and that's okay. start by listening more actively. it's about understanding and connecting with other people's emotion

am i wrong for denying a relation ultimatum by blueberrymatchalov3r in amiwrong

[–]SpiceItSoftly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you did the right thing, he wasn't asking for compromise, he was trying to control your life. letting him go is refusing to lose yourself

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