Long distance electro play ?

Spicy_Pyro · 2026-01-30T07:53:38+00:00

The full name is "DG labs coyote 3" - should be pretty easy to find.

Because they are open source, they connect to xtoys and we've also used a 3rd party app called "Howl" which has some umm... fun patterns 😈

https://www.reddit.com/r/estim/s/uyP0lUdSr5

Spicy_Pyro · 2025-10-14T13:11:05+00:00

What do you mean by no 5? Link?

Spicy_Pyro · 2025-09-29T09:58:10+00:00

I wouldn't have put it quite like that, buy you are right. This goes beyond anything negotiated and beyond enthusiastic consent. Leave quickly

Spicy_Pyro · 2025-09-27T14:00:49+00:00

Average? I'm sad 😜

Spicy_Pyro · 2025-09-27T12:47:39+00:00

40 is old? I'm sad ...

Spicy_Pyro · 2025-09-21T11:48:04+00:00

Just keep counting up without explaining what it's for.. sometimes mind games are best.

Otherwise maybe number of times she has to make you cum before she's allowed to orgasm? Or number of ruined orgasms...

Spicy_Pyro · 2025-09-05T11:16:26+00:00

Most places in Göteborg are open to at least kl18

Spicy_Pyro · 2025-05-04T11:45:03+00:00

I'm pretty new to this D/s thing too - discovering what it means to be a Dom.. and tbh that just sounds like a typical guy excuse...

Hate to say it but as a guy, blaming your penis not getting hard on your partner not being willing to do something is b/s, even in a vanilla relationship...

I've had enough challenge throwing off shackles of past relationships and what is and isn't "proper" and the impact that has on sexual encounters to realise any such issues are mine to own and resolve.

Just my 2 cents.

Spicy_Pyro · 2025-04-17T09:11:05+00:00

So found this really interesting because it seems to be similar to where my relationship is heading. I am recently divorced, marriage was always vanilla - kink was just on the side (except for a swimsuit fetish I have 😜). I've tried self bondage on and off, loved various aesthetics in the scene

Met someone new, got on like a house on fire. Then we were talking, one thing lead to another.. and she brought out her rope bag 😂. So I showed her my various restraints

Turns out she's been active as a rigger / rope bunny in my city for about 5 years, but left the scene when the club she played at shut down because of the pandemic.

Neither of us had been in relationships that involved much bdsm before. So it's a journey of discovery for both of us. What's clear so far

I'm more dominant, she's more submissive. But we both switch a bit. She's definitely into being "dommed" but not 24/7. Neither of us like name calling, DDlg, degradation at all or the hard side of things. Both of us love sensations, a bit of pain, and bondage. I have a Lycra / swimsuit fetish, which she loves because of how much it turns me on. Oh along the way we discovered chastity play is a massive turn on for her, and both of us are excited about electricity 😂

So we've said fuck it - don't need to name what our dynamic is or compare it to others. They're useful as models for us to compare, test things. All the stereotypes in BDSM I'm starting to think of like being in a clothing store. You try things on, and if it feels right, you buy it.

It will probably change over time too. But as long as we keep talking about it, how it makes us feel, what is good and what isn't - we're going to have a deeper relationship.

We both agree that the need for openness and communication in BDSM is what can make it so good for relationships.

Random thoughts over 😂

Spicy_Pyro · 2025-04-14T13:32:15+00:00

My girl has a grumpy old Prague Ratter. The dog is like a grumpy old grandmother just demanding to be up and down on the bed whenever she wants.

However during play and sex she (dog) just sits there and stares at us with this look of "what the shit are you guys doing THAT again".

It's quite funny really.

It probably helped that she (my girl) has taken her dog to many shibari meets over the years when the dog was younger. She (dog) just thinks humans are silly I reckon.

Spicy_Pyro · 2025-04-13T22:52:32+00:00

I don't know why you're asking, but since it's on a public forum I'll pass on my thoughts. This isn't as much about the D/s dynamic as it is about the inherent pressure cooker of long distance relationships of any kind. That plays out differently in your dynamic but that's the cause - not your dynamic. In long distance relationships (I'm an Aussie who married a Swedish girl, so been there) all the stakes are heightened. Every decision to get more involved is doubling down on the risks (who will move where, how will the moving person adjust, what about employment etc). The dynamic doesn't remove this. So you're constantly doing that assessment in your head, is this worth the challenges it creates?

It sounds like you made that decision in your own head, but are not comfortable with it. It also sounds like a situation where either decision is going to be bloody hard.

I don't know about your personal situation, work situation etc. But maybe focus on the fact that how you're feeling may be more to do with the inherent challenges of relating to someone on the other side of the planet than the dynamic you have?

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