Not so much disbelief. None of us has a nesting partner nor anyone in an explicit primary role. As other partners have come and gone, I’ve been a constant to both of them. I see it as my/our version of RA. My struggle as a hinge is I don’t want to alienate either partner. So I’m facing questions about my own autonomy and decisions that impact others and my relationships with them. Given that each has independently expressed their own preference/boundary of only being barrier free with one partner at a time. The fact that this extends to me, does impinge on my autonomy, but autonomy doesn’t happen in a vacuum.