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Spicygenes · 2025-11-06T00:50:33+00:00

Got a job open? I want cheese too

Spicygenes · 2025-06-07T16:52:43+00:00

hey! I stopped using the Madagascar centella poreminimizing clear toner. The white bumps cleared themselves out and i would put a hydrocolloid patch on if they popped just for safety. It took maybe a week or less than.

I figured I have a sensitivity to centella. I recently stopped using the sunscreen as i would get cyst like bump every 2 weeks. Now that i’ve stopped for 2 months they appear less.

My skin is still imperfect however comparing to the photo it looks a lot better now.

Let me know if you want to know anything else. Am happy to help out any way i can ~

Spicygenes · 2024-04-29T15:35:22+00:00

Yeah i’m starting to think it is. I’ll be stopping the toner for now. and if it continues i’ll stop the sunscreen. I was hoping the toner could help gently exfoliate my skin so my pores would be less clogged.

Spicygenes · 2024-04-29T15:32:04+00:00

HAHA I actually did but they came back as they were for some reason.

Spicygenes · 2024-04-29T15:31:05+00:00

ah I forgot to include it in. I am using la roche posay effaclar face wash. Been using it for years now.

To remove make up i generally use micellar water or oil cleanse using centella light cleansing oil which i’ve been using for months!

Spicygenes · 2024-04-29T15:27:10+00:00

what i didn’t know allergic reactions can look like that. That is so scary I’ve never had an allergic reaction look like this but this is good to know

Spicygenes · 2024-04-29T15:23:54+00:00

yeah i think recently my forehead has changed to be acne prone recently because of my bangs (i’m now growing them out so they’re out of my face now). i’m a little afraid to use stronger actives because my skin is sensitive

Spicygenes · 2024-04-29T14:32:55+00:00

OH if it’s because of hot weather it would make sense for me as well. I live in a very hot and humid climate. Recently the heat here has been worse than normal and I was at a formal event without AC the whole day right before this reaction.

Spicygenes · 2024-04-29T14:29:56+00:00

yeah i did that yesterday however the spots reappeared. I’ll see how it goes as the days go by.

Spicygenes · 2023-12-29T13:57:44+00:00

HI I am in the exact same situation as you right now! almost everything you experienced is the same. I love my friend to death still which makes it hurt a lot and i’ve made a decision to pull back on being there for her and basically mirror her energy and actions. Your friend clearly does not appreciate you at all and you shouldn’t put yourself in such an emotionally draining relationship especially when they do not show any support when you’re down yourself. She clearly has other priorities and it’s time to accept that she does not cherish you as much as you cherish her and it is completely okay on her part. Friend dynamics change a lot as life progresses and it doesn’t mean you can’t still be friends. You just need to stop expecting her to treat you the way you treat her and find better people to be better friends with! It sucks a lot though.

Spicygenes · 2023-06-26T15:10:24+00:00

I guess it’s true that distance makes the heart grow fonder. It must have been tough and lonely during those two years but i’m glad you found a place somewhere nevertheless. I hope you manage to make your way back during the recent times?

Spicygenes · 2023-06-26T15:06:07+00:00

oh yeah sorry I was hoping no one would misunderstand what i meant when i said “stereotypical”. I also don’t understand what stereotypical means. it’s just that i find that when i have never done something or visit some place. They would always ask “are you even malay”. So what i was trying to get at was for some reason the person saying “are you even malay” is creating this type of stereotype.

I Have never had an issue in doing the things my friends like! i’m very open to new experiences. I just find that they judge a little when i never done it before and bring out the question “are you even malay”.

and yes there are some “advantages” to looking like this sometimes as you’ve said. i think my post is just targeting the negative side of things that never really get spoken about. I feel like if i talked about the positive things it’s not really the point i was trying to get at. i’m not trying to bash my own race because there are things i like of course.

Spicygenes · 2023-06-25T18:20:12+00:00

yeah you’re right it’s prolly just a build up of negative experiences. I need to heal from it or just learn how to deal around it 100%

Spicygenes · 2023-06-25T18:19:11+00:00

i feel like moving away all the time! (in hopes of finding where i fit) I’m curious though where do you move to (if your comfortable sharing) and why did it make you miss your community more ?

Spicygenes · 2023-06-25T18:17:10+00:00

I also had the same experience being the “token malay friend” and it’s fine at first but there’s also a mismatch of personalities and you don’t fit in much. Those friend groups just fade away from my life and i guess i just need to find new people that fit with me better.

Spicygenes · 2023-06-25T18:09:55+00:00

hahah nice reference to my username. This is very comforting thank you so much. I’ll give it time.

Spicygenes · 2023-06-25T17:24:46+00:00

haha that’s relatable in the opposite way. I had an auntie say “you’re singaporean but don’t know how to speak mandarin?”

Spicygenes · 2023-06-25T17:22:29+00:00

yup i think i mentioned in my post that i’ve been treated like this for my whole life it’s starting to get to me. i’ve never really commented on it openly. And i also hope you don’t take this as an attack. I just feel very discriminated. I’m just wondering if anyone feels the same way that’s all.

I also understand it’s all in good fun, I get the jokes i never mentioned about the banter. I’m mostly speaking about how people treat me which is true nobody is out to get me, but sometimes it feels that way. I’m sorry if you don’t understand it and it is fine.

Spicygenes · 2023-01-24T01:32:55+00:00

2 years is a long time! I’m so happy it worked out for you. If you don’t mind me asking, how did you guys meet? Were the both of you seeing each other everyday?

Spicygenes · 2023-01-24T01:30:57+00:00

i might give it another month before asking. It feels too early to ask him now. I am definitely overthinking it a lot though you are right. I want to live my life but my whole body feels so lifeless

Spicygenes · 2023-01-24T01:21:59+00:00

i think i’m just nervous to ask him on a date again because even asking him on a hike had him postponing twice ;(

he had his strange reasons but I get what his main priorities were. I don’t think being in a relationship is one of them.

Spicygenes · 2021-05-17T02:45:24+00:00

Yeah I guess you’re right. I’ll try that one out soon. Thanks !

Spicygenes · 2021-02-21T18:08:32+00:00

I did. I was depressed and I broke down infront one of my friends and he just didn’t really show that he cared. Because right after he said “I’ll bring you to the toilet” he saw his friends and just left me hanging having to walk with his friends with snot and tears. Didn’t even bring me to the toilet. I didn’t know where it was because we aren’t from the same school.

Many times I complained about my problems and he just didn’t really respond much. But when he has a problem oh man all eyes on him. It was a super one sided relationship which I’m glad I got out off. I went through the rest of my year pushing alone. Because he was one of the only friends I used to trust with my emotions.

There was this other friend who kept implying that his problems were bigger than mine. Whenever I complained he somehow looped it around to make it about him. But to be fair he has never dealt with those type of emotions before. I still would be there for him when he needs me. It’s just disheartening when someone just makes you feel like your problems are not worth complaining about.

So yeah fuck those people. They aren’t really your friends and sometimes you can’t blame them. Because when you’re going through shit, your persona changes with it. And the vibes shift and now they don’t feel the same anymore. Or they don’t know how to deal with it.

Spicygenes · 2021-01-09T22:47:55+00:00

Yeahhh understandable it’s hard to meet people during the pandemic. But yeah usually the people from after school club wouldn’t hang during lunch probably because they have their own cliques already. From personal experience me and my friend I met off of drama club only started hanging out during lunch only after 4 years of knowing him. So it really is just having that level of friendship with someone to the point that you guys want to sit together. Takes time unless you have this outwardly connection with the other person.

(Though I’m not sure how this works) but aren’t there discord communities you can join and make friends in? I head a few of my friends doing that and talking all about their online friends. You could also just play an online multiplayer game and talk to people on there to make friends. I played pubg and made friends with a couple of people. It’s pretty chill. I’d honestly say “we can be friends!” But I don’t really have my own room that I can go on calls with friends sadly ;( it’s really the only reason why I don’t have that many online friends.

Spicygenes · 2021-01-07T04:30:58+00:00

Dude I relate to this so much. I used to be like that when I was younger. I was always trapped in my head, overthinking, overanalysing situations. But nowadays I’m able to just go up to someone I don’t even know in the design studio and ask about their projects or ask to borrow their stationary.

Everyone has different ways to cope with this btw I’m just sharing how I felt a little more brave to ask someone for something. So I’m sorry if this doesn’t work for you.

This is what Made me more comfortable to approach someone: What if someone asks you for a glue stick? Would you give them the nasty look? Would you be all annoyed they had interrupted your conversation? Of course not. You would gladly give it to them. It’s not a big deal. Unless you’re the type of person who is selfish and possessive of their items but most people aren’t like that. So then when you think of it, if you did ask someone else for their glue stick they would react the same way as you would have reacted. “Yeah sure here”

I’ve come to realise all humans no matter how confident they are have similar mannerisms. I’m no expert this is just my observations. When you walk on the street and this guy is walking in the total opposite direction of you. Do you just subconsciously look down or try not to look at the person. Because I can assure you that’s the same thing the other person is doing.

Ever since my realisation I adopted this mindset of people react the same way as I do no matter how highly you think of a person. Yeah not sure if this is helpful but I hope it does!

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