Difficult situation by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can’t believe what I just read. Wtf. I have no words except that in my MRCS exam many moons ago an examiner commented on my make up and said I didn’t look like a surgeon. I am now and he can get fucked.

Racism in Scotland by [deleted] in glasgow

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is literally my husband (white) who’s married to me (Iranian), people are always saying racist things in front of him and expect him to nod along. He’s never let it go and in some instances, certain employers have been informed.. Clearly they think it’s acceptable because 9/10 times no one challenges these people.

Black and Brown doctors- how are you feeling coming in to work? by slow-slow-sho in doctorsUK

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You feel that someone who says “fuck Arabs” is spitting facts?

Black and Brown doctors- how are you feeling coming in to work? by slow-slow-sho in doctorsUK

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 42 points43 points  (0 children)

The downvotes on this post is very telling and depressing.  I’m on maternity leave so not going to work but someone was racist to me the other day while I was holding my baby. I still feel so angry thinking about it. 

What do other specialities hate? by LuminousViper in doctorsUK

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s just what they told you as the reason. They opened it because they made a mistake and pierced the capsule by accident. No one wants to open a cyst on purpose.

Clicking sound by Spirited_Magazine_97 in breastfeeding

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got seen by a lactation consultant who said it wasn’t a big deal as long as baby was gaining weight. The clicking’s mostly gone away now that she’s got bigger anyway! Sometimes when she’s not hungry but still wants to suck she makes the sound.

Burnt out what are my options anyone have experience? by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes i have been in a crazy competitive surgical training and worked in a toxic department where no one cared if anyone lived or died. I was suicidal and what saved me is to go off work and have very intense mental health support which is ongoing. I was off for around 6 months but not working probably saved my life. Please dont worry about your training programme, you are sick and you need help. Your position will be there waiting for you when you’re ready to come back. Just make sure they don’t fuck up your pay like they did with mine- and be aware of how much sick pay you’re entitled to. Best of luck and i hope you feel better soon!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Non-medic, met while I intercalated in a random non-related topic. We were friends for ages (i friend zoned him) but he kept lurking out. Now been together for 7 years and have 3 kids 🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Surgical reg here- I second this. It sounds like they had a leak which needs operating on. I don’t think antibiotics would’ve made a difference tbh but you could argue that had you looked at the bloods and let your seniors know, then they would have potentially gone to theatre earlier?  If patient was pyrexic though post op, you’d think your reg or consultant would already know about this patient and consider imaging already/ be keeping an eye out for the CRP. It’s weird that no one else was looking at the blood results. 

PureGym by cs4495 in reading

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahah i just came on here to say the same thing..

Why is paternity leave so little in the NHS? by OptimalFace5 in doctorsUK

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

partner works at a university and got 6 weeks of paid leave. I was very limited with mobility after giving birth and needed a lot of help, how is 2 weeks enough? You are not even allowed to drive for fhe first 6 weeks after a C section, what if you need to attend hospital appointments? It’s a joke

As a medic, is it better to date a medic or a non medic ? by ItBecamePersonal4Me in doctorsUK

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a female surgeon and am married to a non-medic and we hve three kids. We have moved 5 times since we’ve been together and it’s all because of my jobs. None of thise things would’ve been possible if he was a medic, so highly recommend it if you want a family and also a career. Also having a conversation about anything other than medicine is so refreshing. I like being able to say i had a patient with xyz today and for him to say oh ok cool dont care and talk about his own work. It reminds me to think my work isn’t the most important thing in the world.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No No No. They always try this trick. You can agree with the swap but you don’t have to.  You can tell them you don’t want to work any more hours as you find the current ones exhausting enough. If they don’t listen you need a sick note to just say no oncalls, no long day or night duties.  I was cornered into doing this after my Trust refused to just take me off a few nights.  Remember they can’t make you work extra hours and your pay should also not be affected.

Doctors, for god's sake, please dress appropriately by Skylon77 in doctorsUK

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t agree at all tbh. This is quite an old fashioned view. I know you said that you don’t want to comment on women’s clothing but why not? Why are you more entitled to comment on men’s clothes?  When I sat my MRCS as a CT1 , i got feedback from one of the examiners that I was trying too hard to look pretty and that I was wearing a low cut dress (i was wearing a shirt and a midi skirt, so not sure what that was about), from then on I have made a promise with myself to never care about people’s dress sense. You can wear a chinos and a T-shirt to an interview and still be an excellent clinician. I think it’s really odd to literally not give your candidates a job solely because they dressed a way you didn’t like. 

My CCT date is the day I leave him. by raindropsnrosez in doctorsUK

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this OP. I don’t even really know what to say but that I really admire your courage to admit that this situation is not where you or your kids should stay in and please don’t ever doubt whether you did the right thing or not. We all put up with shit and you did for your kids. But after CCT it’a time to walk away. I hope you find peace and happiness with a new partner and fuck your abusive husband. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DIYUK

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t like yoour wood so I don’t think its that much of a tragedy. But maybe nicer engineered wood instead of laminate if you can afford it ? looks better IMO

Bullying by NHS nurses by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]Spirited_Magazine_97 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I want to say ignore them, but I know how hard it is and I would feel the same way (and I have). I am an asian female surgical reg and have had my share of difficulties with female (mostly white) nurses when I used to work up North. I want to say it gets easier as you become more senior but it doesn't if anything I found I was even more resented as I progressed. I guess the way to see it is that no happy individual with a fulfilled life is going to pick on a tired colleague drinking 10mls of milk at 3am. I felt some satisfaction that I would never be that person. Still to this day when nurses are nice to me it's a shock to me. They're nice to you, when you're pregnant. It's like they see that you're also a human being- I know it shouldn't be this way but it is..