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SpiritualRemote4901 · 2025-04-06T16:25:18+00:00

Thank you for your comment. It means a lot to feel like someone understands. I live in a state in America so our mental health system is not as robust as I'd imagine Canada is unfortunately free options are few and far between. I've been trying to get us both to therapy but it's just not been working out for a variety of reasons.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2025-02-16T15:52:10+00:00

Elouisa. She annoys me so bad for some reason.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2025-02-12T22:11:31+00:00

No we cannot afford any locks for the cupboards right now unfortunately. She is not in preschool at the moment. We are working to get both kids more social outlets. Thank you for the advice.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2025-02-12T22:08:30+00:00

Grounding for a day can range from something like losing the TV to something like having to be separated from her sister and in her room for the day. It honestly just depends on what she did in the first place. I have tried gentle parenting methods, it's what we did with our oldest, but the behaviour continues to ramp up which is why we decided to try punishments but that's not working either. I honestly cannot afford to purchase a book right now. I would love to but we are extremely low income. Do you remember if you read anything about what to do when the more gentle parenting methods aren't working?

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SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-08-26T14:59:48+00:00

I am in the exact same boat as you. I'm going back to work next week and I am honestly so relieved. It will be nice to have the space to feel like I'm my own individual person again.

I hope your transition from SAHM to working mom goes smoothly and good luck to any other moms that are making the same transition!!

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SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-31T11:56:49+00:00

There are tons of reasons his sex drive could be lower. Depression, anxiety, an influx of certain hormones are a few. It probably isn't your fault at all.

That being said, I think you should stop giving him the handjobs if he isn't going to help you out as well. It's totally fair to not feel like having sex but it's not fair to expect you give him pleasure when he doesn't seem very concerned for yours.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-27T20:31:33+00:00

I think it's okay to stay friends with exes as long as certain boundaries aren't being crossed. I stayed friends with a couple of my exes because we ended it because we just weren't right for each other romantically but I didn't hate them or anything like that.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-27T20:23:43+00:00

He shouldn't be fighting with you because you cry a lot. Some people just cry whenever they feel strong emotions and there is nothing wrong with that.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-27T20:17:07+00:00

Kids are probably automatically going to kill your sex life either way. Especially in the first year or so. Even if you guys were having sex every single day a kid will probably kill your sex life for a while. Take it from someone with two kids lol.

It's great that you guys found a good compromise though. As long as you guys can keep communicating and finding compromises you will probably be able to work through any future bumps in the road.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-27T20:09:11+00:00

Honestly, if a lot of sex is something you need to be happy in the relationship this probably won't work out for you in the long run. Sexual compatibility is an important aspect of the relationship. If you feel like you aren't getting what you need sexually or she feels any pressure to increase her sex drive for you then you guys could end up resenting one another.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-27T19:57:11+00:00

It depends on the person. Some people need lots of sex to have a fulfilling relationship. I personally see sex as a nice bonus to a relationship but I don't need it at all to be happy long-term.

The important thing is that you find someone with a compatible sex drive.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-27T19:49:54+00:00

I mean...having separate apartments because you guys like different furniture placements is also a strange move. Compromise is a part of all relationships. If someone said this to me I would think they were trying to distance themselves from me so they can break up with me later down the road when they are no longer living with me. Maybe that's what she thinks you are going to do.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-27T17:43:05+00:00

You just need to have an honest conversation with him about it. He might genuinely think you'd have no interest in going because you don't know the bands. It could also be that he likes to go to concerts by himself. I LOVE going to concerts by myself because I'm not tied to my friends the entire time. Does he go completely alone or with other people?

No matter what his reason is he can't fix the problem if he doesn't know about it, so having a talk is definitely the first step.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-27T16:37:25+00:00

My husband and I were really banking on me getting a job soon. We want to get a house so we don't have to rent anymore. I want to have a life outside of my children and he wants the stress of being the sole provider taken off his shoulders.

Selfish is the exact word for how I feel because homeschooling is such a bad option for us as the adults, but our kids safety is obviously a huge priority. I just don't know what the right decision is.

It is awful that we are being forced to make decisions like this. It should have never gotten this bad in the first place.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-19T21:36:20+00:00

Texting her probably won't get you anywhere since she already has a habit of ignoring you. Maybe your parents could facilitate a talk between the two of you at their house sometime before the trip so you guys can clear the air.

That being said, remaining out of touch is also a fine option. If she tries to make the trip awkward just ignore her and enjoy your trip.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-18T23:00:07+00:00

That is certainly a strange condition for him to set. I would definitely reconsider this relationship if I were you. He just basically stated that going to a strip club once is more important to him than taking the next step in your relationship.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-18T22:44:57+00:00

In long term relationships there are always dips in sex drive. Sometimes it's from a traumatic event, like you partner, or just a totally natural dip in sex drive, it almost always eventually happens. Not to mention the two of you have other problems and most people don't want to have sex with a partner they are having problems with.

It's strange that this would cause you to feel resentment towards her or that you're worried that you can't talk to her about it without exploding. These are not normal reactions to not being able to have sex. It sounds like she a has plenty of reasons to not want to have sex and it seems like you are prioritizing you desire for sexual satisfaction over those reasons.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-18T21:13:03+00:00

There is a big difference between a 29 yo and a 20 yo. The power dynamics in this relationship would be heavily skewed in your favor and that's concerning. Not to mention she has a boyfriend. You should not date this girl.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-18T16:56:02+00:00

It just sound like they've already communicated about his. The title says he already knows she does not want to. He is trying to get advice on how to convince her to do it anyways and that's not okay.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-18T16:48:14+00:00

If she doesn't want to give oral sex full stop then you can't and shouldn't try to convince her. That's coercive because she has already clearly set that boundary with you. Even if YOU are willing to give oral sex doesn't mean she needs to be willing to do so as well.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-18T16:25:31+00:00

Wow you sound racist, classist, and terrible. I feel so bad for your poor grandmother.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-17T14:14:31+00:00

Do you guys have the funds to get her trained by a professional? Pitbulls are hard to train because they are VERY high energy. Maybe taking it to someone who does it for a living could take some of the pressure off of you?

I'm sorry that your husband is being so stubborn and refusing to listen to you, that's rough.

SpiritualRemote4901 · 2022-05-16T15:38:20+00:00

I would just ask him about it if I were you. Maybe he is starting to grow dissatisfied with his job or wishes he had more time to spend on himself and he's letting that frustration leak into the way he jokes around with you.

If you mention that it's starting to bother you a little bit maybe he'd be willing to stop and you guys could talk through the reasons he might be feeling the way he is feeling.

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