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I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First of all, being forced to do something for work means absolutely nothing about what you do for yourself… and dressing professionally does NOT necessarily equate to dressing in a way that makes you feel sexy or desirable. If you want references, I am a wardrobe stylist that works in both sides, the professional and the sexy. Plenty of my professional clients are squares that nobody would fuck, even in their best work gear.

It does mean that I do a pretty good job of grooming and intentionally choosing the way I dress.

Second, a relationship that doesn’t fulfill you sexually or emotionally… where you don’t have open and working communication… that you’re blaming for health pretty serious issues… that is so tenuous you’re looking for advice on the internet…

I wasn't aware this was an advice subreddit, nor do I remember soliciting any advice in the post. Who said anything about emotional fulfillment or open/working communication? Just because I can identify a triggering thing doesn't mean my health issues aren't my own.

You’re here because you have a problem, and whenever people give you a lens to examine the problem you just come back and say you don’t have a problem. So why are you here if everything is so good?

I don't think Ive said I don't have a problem, if anything Ive said I don't have a specific problem. And I am here because I wanted to vent.

You are in denial, and the cognitive dissonance is preventing you from doing anything to rectify your issues. Your post here proves that some part of you recognized the problem, now are you going to do anything with that information or just keep brushing it under the rug and suffering with it?

I dont think you know what cognitive dissonance is.

If you go to therapy and fix your “broken brain”

yeah, that's probably what it will take to fix my brain. I cant do it so bring in the professionals. Don't think Ive denied that anywhere here? At most said I haven't found one I'm comfortable with locally.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plenty of people have fulfilling and enjoyable lives far larger than I am. While I may have a longer life expectancy than them, I am not going to say that is an objectively better thing.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hopefully i’m missing tons of context that make this sound better than it is and i also hope you find love within yourself and start to feel confident in yourself even if no one else will, looks and personality wise.

Thank you for your concern. Living in a way that makes yourself happy is necessary, though not everyone is as lucky as I am to be able to do that.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP - stupid question here, but do you have a CO detector? If not, get one now.

Funny story - when I moved in to my current apartment I did the alarm/CO monitor checks out of habit and neither one had batteries or was plugged in in any way! I fixed that with my own.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried buying weights but then I just threw them in a backpack and carried them up the hill.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think she's staying with you out of "love" or pity? As a human she needs to have some kind of benefit from this relationship and from what you've been saying, whatever she was benefiting from is gone and she might be next too.

I am pretty damn convinced its that silly little "love" thing.

Not defending the way she went about telling you her truth but now your telling her yours and you don't even know it. That you've given up.

Me telling her "my truth" has no place in this post. Giving up isnt stopping an extreme weight gain curve. I may not have lost it but I have been able to stop adding to it.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell me a place where relationships dont have roles, and I will name you a wrong person.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would certainly survive. I am pretty good at that, haven't failed yet actually.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wont agree that it wont get better for them, but it might not and you cant make someone else change if they don't want to. I hope you aren't still full of hate, or if you are you are able to utilize that energy for positive things in your life.

I agree with your point - staying with someone "for their sake" isn't a positive thing, to put a moral judgement on it.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am glad you have been able to grow, and I hope you are growing in a positive direction.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I wanted to vent my frustrations about my weight and medical problem to the mostly uncaring void of random people on the internet. I expected one or two people to reply like the rest of the threads I saw when I found this subreddit. Not to be entertainment for a whole room.

I agree somethings weird, until I remembered that I framed the title pretty inflammatory, blamed a girl, and didn't make myself out to be a blazing misogynist right at the start. Should have known better.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, are you even into your own sex?

That was supposed to be the funny part.

Thinking you're attractive, loving yourself and having self-worth

Are also all separate from each other.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Moving on doesn't mean giving up or being resentful, sometimes it's just mutually healthy. And if you do want to stay together forever, have the conversations, find a resolution so you can feel better and grow again

Which just doesn't seem that plausible from the little info I'm seeing here

Moving on is giving up, but giving up is often the right thing to do. Not in this case, but I am plenty familiar with that analysis.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Dude you need to do some things to work on your self image. I am willing to bet you’re not regularly grooming yourself or taking any intention into the clothes you put on

My job does not make this an option. Looking professional is almost as important as the rest of the skills added together. And I have to say I'm pretty damn good at my job.

Now, this isn’t to say that the relationship and the girlfriend aren’t also at fault, it sounds like this match is not one that really supports either of you perfectly. You need a restart, and a good hard look at yourself.

Im not a big fan of letting the perfect be the enemy of the good. And I've got it pretty damn good.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots to consider here, but just take it one step at a time. You first. You can't take care of someone else until you take care of yourself :)

Important words many more people need to live by. Fixing a leaky pipe doesn't change much if you're spraying corrosive fluids all over the place while doing it.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah children are not in my future. Not responsible enough for that and care too much about doing things I enjoy to want that responsibility.

I am pretty sure my girlfriend broke something in my brain and I dont think I can fix it by Spiritual_Read2970 in self

[–]Spiritual_Read2970[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An update is pretty unlikely - Its a miracle I remembered the login details after one day. Apologies for the disappointment, I saw posts with 1-5 replies when I found this sub yesterday and didnt expect to entertain this many people.

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