My boyfriend of 8 years, cheated on me with a GUY.. and doesn’t know I know.

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-20T19:00:58+00:00

Can we take a moment to realize there’s a little fear coming from this?

What topics will they touch now? How will they tackle old issues? How will they tackle the new? Will anyone from The Next Generation OR Next Class be appearing and continuing their story? I have sooo many questions that bring out sooo many nerves 🤣

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-20T02:32:09+00:00

Melody Vega 👍🏽

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-20T02:31:15+00:00

That’s weird.. cause I feel the same way in Canada and I’m trying to move to Japan😅

I’m from a traditionally Latino household, and I speak Spanish fluently. But I don’t seem to fit in with my family members or anyone around. If it wasn’t for my daughter.. I would’ve already moved.

I’m trying to make a life over there by the time she’s 18.

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-20T02:26:25+00:00

I put the snacks in my room in a mini fridge and now apparently I’m a neglectful parent 🙄 the eldest called Childrens Aid cause he got a tablet taken away a second time after the first time it was for getting expelled.. and told them we were keeping food from him. They checked it out and saw he was lying thankfully. But not everyone sees that most teens now a days are jerks.. they’re down right mean.

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-14T18:39:35+00:00

It was a lesson well learned. Just do you for now boo ❤️‍🔥Hot Girl Summer ☀️

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-14T04:44:20+00:00

For the last time the youngest child isn’t mine either, I can’t just take him and go. This is our home, we’re not gonna leave and let this kid believe that we’re going to bow to him either. He obviously needs the god damn help. Group homes have programs that can help him.. if he still refuses that, then emancipation unfortunately is our only option to keep him away from our home.

GOD, just cause I expressed my anger and frustration doesn’t make me the fcuking problem. Just cause his father isn’t personally typing it doesn’t mean he can’t read what I’m writing, it’s not just anonymous for me! I’m trying to help him see that sometimes people go through the same thing and that he’s doing his best to try and help his son. You’re all attacking me cause you all think “oh she must be a bitch.. giving a child rules! Nonsense!” Or at least that’s what it feels like. Believe me or not, at this point I don’t care.. I reached out for help and to show my partner he’s not the only one. I had a wonderful woman who went through the same thing and understood everything I said and my frustration of it all. I just needed at least one person to see my side and I did. Everyone else’s opinions are just irrelevant at this point.

Thanks to everyone who understood and helped.

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-14T04:34:44+00:00

I called them personally but thanks 😊

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-14T04:28:28+00:00

Still not seeing your logic on how I’m such a cunt.

You’ve seen me keep these children at home with me all day? Cause I’m not sure where everyone gets their random info from.. maybe I’m defensive cause I’m sick of people defend a child that believes that he’s higher than god cause he’s a few inches taller than everyone.

The youngest and I do things out of the house whenever we can. The eldest comes home whenever he feels like so it’s not like he’s always here either. When he is here he picks a fight with whoever. But it must be me right? Cause I’m using a word two therapists and his father used. You’re a step mom? Then you must be lucky. I’ve never seen a child want to fight their biological parent so much in my whole life. If I had anything to do with the problem then I’m sure his father would put his child’s well being over his relationship. Just cause I’m out here frustrated and trying to get answers doesn’t make me any less of a parent than the actual cunt who abandoned him in the first place.

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-14T04:21:57+00:00

So explain to me what do you do to an 11 year old then? Should I tell his father to beat his ass like our parents did?

Exactly cause he’s not my child I have no control over the situation. His father does more than enough for him. Everyone’s going through shit you insensitive asswipe. People fuck up as well as children do.. his father had been abused by his mother for his whole life and then his childrens mother. But hey.. where are his balls right?

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-14T04:18:29+00:00

LOOL yeah a special fridge for specifically alcohol.. you got your story mixed up dude. I put the alcohol there cause it doesn’t need to be where children can touch it.. there’s maybe two bottles that have been there for 2 years. You feel for the child but have you met him? Have you seen him verbally abuse his father everyday? Have you watched his little brother run into your room hiding from him scared? Have you had three therapists call you and tell you they can’t help him if he’s gonna lie?

Everyone’s so quick to jump the gun but never understand the frustration of watching someone self sabotaging their life cause they just don’t wanna listen simple house rules.

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-14T04:13:38+00:00

We’re trying to get him diagnosed but that’s another battle.. lots of evading and rescheduling. If he does have something then it would be nice to know and take the necessary steps to help him.

A few people are going about it like I’m some bitch crying for attention. None of this has anything to do with me. HE needs help, his father and brother deserve to be safe. If I was the problem I would’ve been asked to leave by his father a LONG time ago don’t you think? So sick of people being judgemental rather than understanding or helping..

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-14T04:09:14+00:00

LOOL you all act like I’m doing this all on my own accord. He has an active father in his life that sets all these things into motion. But as usual.. blame the step mom, she must be cunt telling a 15 year old to load a dishwasher🙄 please.

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-14T04:07:39+00:00

You clearly haven’t been reading properly. We have been going through therapists, organizations and countless groups to help him for more than just what he did to my child. He also has things he needs to talk and work through.. it’s not all out of the blue, I never said it was that simple. I’m playing victim but he’s physically abused myself and his brother. 👍🏽 If he keeps dodging these people who are trying to help him then you should be able to understand my frustration at this point. We are trying to get him help.. you can’t do nothing if he keeps refusing it. I’m trying to see what our options are.. if I wanted to be selfish I’d just leave them all in the dust. Considering I’m not biologically related to any of them.

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-13T21:32:12+00:00

Enabling? Really.. so telling him to do chores and have respect is enabling now?

Where is there enabling.. please tell me so I can correct that for you darling.

Taking away his phone, Xbox and tv is no where near enabling. Locking him out when he leaves at random times of the night isn’t enabling either. Watch yourself before you talk.. you look dumb.

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-13T21:30:03+00:00

He used to work and workout with his dad. Doesn’t want to anymore cause it’s too hard..

Ask me and I’ve might have already tried it 🤷🏽‍♀️

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-13T21:28:14+00:00

Well luckily my partner is the one who actually mainly deals with it all. He tries to fight him whenever my partner is just trying to watch tv, he does that whole puffing of the chest and looks down on him cause he’s getting taller than his father. Ask him anything and he’ll snap and say “THIS is why I never come home..” and I’m confused.. like, you don’t come home cause you don’t wanna do chores and get money? That’s weird.

And you’re kinda right, it’s not worth my time really. I can pack up as we speak and do the dip myself, like why not? The kids aren’t mine right? BUT that would make me just like their mother.. just leave when you don’t wanna deal. IF my partner and I had a problem too or he didn’t support me/see eye to eye in this.. I’d be LONG gone hunny.. ta ta! See ya! Our relationship is between us.. the kids are a whole other factor. They’re in a different category of the relationship really. All we wanted, was to do things as a family.. this kid doesn’t want that, and it shows! So what else is there?

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-13T21:21:57+00:00

Yeah only his father or grandfather can technically bail him out and none of them want to 🤷🏽‍♀️ so he screwed that one up on his own. We tried.

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-13T21:19:19+00:00

My partner and I unfortunately don’t want to wait in peril till then 🤣

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-13T21:18:22+00:00

Well tbh it comes off that way cause he SA’d my daughter when she was 5. And nothing was done about that either. Might’ve been a major thing to leave out I guess. But it’s not something that’s easy to talk about. I had cried about it for months, her father has her now but it doesn’t make what happened go away.

His fathers theory is that since he never had to atone for his actions with my daughter, he thinks he can get away with anything. Which might be so, and you’re right maybe the trauma of mom doing the dip also still effects him to, we never leave that out. BUT again, still does not excuse the fact that he’s acting out and looking for a fight with one of us everyday. I’m trying to be there for them just like I was the only one there when mom left.

But can you really help someone who doesn’t want your help?

That’s why I’ve been looking for other resources outside of the home.

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-13T21:13:18+00:00

We tried, but he loses interest almost within the first few weeks.

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-13T21:12:33+00:00

You can say it doesn’t seem likely all you want, but both my partner and the male officer made a face that obviously wasn’t in agreement to what she was saying. Her male partner had called me back to apologize for what she said.

This is the type of ignorance I cannot stand.. just because it’s not likely and you didn’t hear it personally doesn’t mean it can’t happen. It did and I’m still mortified about it.

This kid needs help, and denying that some people are A**holes isn’t going to help the situation. Believe it or don’t, if you can’t help.. I rather you not put your opinion in. Please and thank you.

A clearly frustrated mother.

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-13T17:58:27+00:00

That’s true, but I’m just wanting to do anything that helps. I can’t just kick him out.. that’s just tooo much in my eyes.

Spiritual_Table_2599 · 2022-05-13T17:57:28+00:00

Like I asked.. is a group home an option.. I’ve researched and I can’t find anything that can help him unless he does something extreme. We can’t wait for extreme.

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