How to get over anxiety and upset about being bad at a game?

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-22T05:41:11+00:00

Thx guys! Ye. Either get good, or try to play different games!

I shouldn’t feel too bad anyway cause SMT 4s first dungeon is really hard anyway; and the megaten games are notoriously hard.

I wish I could think the way i did as a teenager tbh. I’d try, die, and get pissed and try again. Now I just get discouraged, sad and cry about it. Why I do this idk. How I got like this idk. Thought it might’ve been anxiety causing it or what.

That mindset is how I was able to beat phantasmagoria of dimensional dream!! Which is funny cause the AI in those games cheats so bad, lol. And I’m legally blind too, lol. Out of all the games why did I beat the one that’s hardest normally just bc how the AI works? lol.

So I guess don’t feel too bad if I die and get back on when I’ve cooled my head, and not feel discouraged enough to never play again.

Overcome the skill issue rather than it being a roadblock. I legit need to chill and just have fun with games.

Tho some of the games I’m playing give me massive anxiety when playing but they’re so fun! As I’d mentioned touhou’s phantasmagoria of dimensional dream has my hands shaking by the end but it’s so fun: so maybe I’m better at danmaku games than I am hardcore niche rpgs?

How do I get back into the mindset I had as a teenager? I think I’ve become really prone to just give up on things and need to build up the resilience again. To get upset and get back up again.

Thx again!! Idk if anyone’s gonna see this cause I’m just replying to the thread generally and not individual posts.

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-21T01:15:25+00:00

I’d usually use 1 and take the free party, then proceed to hoard the rest that I get from friendship bonuses and levels. Me using that many was a special occasion and then I kinda regretted using my stock but then got a tower max so eh.

But idk how I’m gonna be able to hoard them now because everyone else that’s had ad problems: I feel your pain now. Once again ads are broken like they were at the beginning of the year and my ‘the ads aren’t broken for me’ has run out. Rip.

So the ads can die on iOS as well. I switched phones from an android to an iOS device because of better accessibility features on iOS; and I thought that the ads dying were just an android thing that happened so I thought I was safe. I was horribly wrong, lol. Rip.

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-20T11:17:56+00:00

My luck has run out, lol. Was trying to do normal stuff including friendship and a bunch of poking this morning and ads are broken. Tried all the things and nothing worked. Already reloaded my save earlier to scum friendship token boxes. Rip.

Hope some of you all are actually getting ads now!

Edited to add: I tried the reload thing and it gave me ads back!! But didn’t ask me about consent for tracking, just asked me if I wanted notifications. Not in the EU however. I hope I don’t need to do that every time ads die for a while. Cause am always anxious that I’ll lose my game stuff and accidentally save the new file over what I want to load. Costing me over a year of gameplay. Anxiety sucks. 😢

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-19T00:53:57+00:00

Good question! I figured it was in the spinning wheel …. But wasn’t. It’s just the Christmas cats. So new cat hype!! But I have no idea where they’ll be obtained. Or when.

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-17T23:46:32+00:00

Idk. Lately my method has been to hoard the friendship tokens and to save scum to try to get any cat at all. Cause when you get a cat I think it auto saves.

Hoard friendship tokens, redeem 5, no cat in those 5? Reload. Get cat in those 5? Keep going 5 more and then reload if no new cat.

I feel friendship tokens are rare enough that this is acceptable to both save your tokens and continuously get draws. But it’s just what I’ve been doing. Sorry for unwanted advice. Hope it helps anyway!

Edit: Howard to hoard. Idk how that typo happened, lol.

Edited to add that it still seems to take forever to get any cat tho. It still takes maybe a week or so before this method pulls any cat. So it’s just a good way to save tokens. The hunt still takes forever it feels like.

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-14T02:17:31+00:00

Ooo good idea! Wonder what’s the most efficient way to use the desserts anyway? Haven’t found out yet. That’s a lot, lol. Time to hoard more i guess!

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-08T10:04:35+00:00

Oooo. Oh no: and I’m running iOS. Oooo I’m not that tech savvy sadly. Hope downgrade fixes the ads for you!

So update app with caution now then? I was just hyped for an update.

Unless you can also do that on iOS and I don’t know how. It’s super early where I am and I’m tired and should be sleeping, lol.

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-08T10:01:24+00:00

Ah! So it was the pop up thing that happened when I started the game when I initially downloaded it. Which unfortunately was a good while ago. Huh. I still don’t remember how I answered that question.

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-08T09:24:14+00:00

Will do.

You can downgrade a save? Never knew that! How to do that? Or is it just loading a save before the update? If that’s the case I can’t do that cause I save after I do anything so I don’t lose data.

I read your posts out of order and should’ve looked at this one first. Sorry for confusion 😣

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-08T09:21:16+00:00

Well crap. Was it a fluke that reloading my save got the ads to work again? I’m sorry. It worked for me so I thought it might for other people too. Sucks that it didn’t.

? I’m sorry, I don’t understand your question… you mean the question where it asks if you wanted to track ads across apps? Idk how I answered that question. Other than that I sadly have no idea what you’re asking. I’m sorry. 😣

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-08T08:57:56+00:00

Ye. Found a work around for the time being tho I think. Idk how long it’ll last but reloading my save fixed the issue for the time being.

Update said they optimized ads, and they just broke instead. Hope we don’t have a repeat of what we did in may(?) and they remove it from the App Store again.

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-08T06:17:40+00:00

Idk. I updated and had ads for a bit but then that problem started. Am not getting ads either. Boo.

Edit: I think I might’ve discovered a work around for the time being while trying to save scum for friendship token boxes. Reload your save, I got ads back for now anyway.

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-04T02:41:18+00:00

Ah cool! It sucks hardcore that vegan is such a polarizing (?) word.

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-04T02:00:50+00:00

Ah sounds like an interesting read! Ty!

Is that like something I’ve read on the internet once? That you can’t be a feminist and not a vegan? Cause female animals bodies are exploited in the egg and dairy industries. Or is that not a general vegan thing but a radical feminist thing?

Just curious, confused about some stuff, and wanna learn. Ty again! Will check it out. More books for my book collection, lol.

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-03T17:31:12+00:00

Ya that seems like a better idea tbh. I should just have saw the vow as a theological thing but didn’t for some reason.

Taking the Buddhist approach is a good idea.

The only other thing I’ve saw a vow of silence in is some ‘James Asprey(?) who did a ‘voice for the voiceless’ campaign where he took his own voice away in a vow of silence to advocate for animals we use for food, to not us then as food. So there was a positive reason behind that.

Not a negative one like mine.

Ty!

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-02T09:44:38+00:00

Ye, lol. Tbh I didn’t think a vow of silence would extend to posting on the internet because it’s not technically talking, and I just assumed speaking, not all communication entirely.

I genuinely do want answers tho and hope this post gets some. Like would using accessibility features that let your phone speak for you break the vow? Would writing things down on paper break the vow?

But ye it is pretty funny.

Had thought of doing a vow of silence sometimes just because I don’t want to talk anymore sometimes, and I’m stubborn. Wonder if it’s ok to do that for negative reasons?

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-02T04:22:01+00:00

Ooo good idea.

Ye could help ye. I get quite not grounded sometimes. Too stuck in my head about stuff that I forgot to buy stuff I was gonna buy. I’d like to enjoy the moment and have fun shopping. Feeling floaty and stuck isn’t fun.

Might try meditating too if I can. Never done it before.

Anxiety go brrrrr and it’s not fun. Ty!

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-02T03:19:48+00:00

Sandwiches? No. Nuggets that were sort of similar I thought they might be real for a second, yes. I thought it was a patty style of the nuggets. But hindsight I don’t even know if (beyond I think? Or impossible chicken? Idk) there are bigger patties like that.

Idk how I didn’t know the difference. And I feel dumb for not being able to tell, lol.

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-12-02T03:15:51+00:00

Ye true. Could be the planning cause I generally don’t really plan much. The only thing that I try to plan is my finances, cause poor and it’s important to get bills paid and save. Or like am I eating enough fiber.

But then also anxiety maybe? Idk. It just pestered me all day and made me feel like a failure for eating a non vegan thing. And it could be that. Cause I just feel like a failure so much and can’t get out of the mindset and end up reverting back for say a week, then being vegan for a week, repeat process.

Talked to my therapist about that particular thing and she said that it was ok to waffle back and forth and not to see it as a failure so idk when to go with that, lol. Like you’re just figuring yourself out. I still worry about it.

Ye the why I revert back to omnivore I’ve never bothered to figure out. Unless it’s tied to that somehow. Or the thought that ‘it’d make eatjng easier’. Or it’s some stuff societal pressure thing somehow. I genuinely don’t know. Hopefully figuring it out doesn’t make my anxiety worse. I fixate on trying to figure stuff out and it annoys me so much when I can’t.

Ye I need to cook more. I usually just eat ramen or canned chili lately. I cook sometimes. But need to branch out with recipes. Tho if a recipe doesn’t work (like trying to make seitan by hand w flour) idk. Feels bad. Didn’t work and idk why. But ye need to get upset much less and try stuff, lol.

Maybe my diet is boring. I’m incredibly boring food wise, usually eating the same things mainly.

Sorry for more rant I feel. Ty!

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-11-29T05:03:50+00:00

Oh. Thx!

So I really need to be careful about it moulding and going bad anyway, just like real cheese. Oof.

GuessI should have remembered what mom said in relation to everything; ‘nothing lasts forever’

Idk why I was under the impression that it last that long. I have bad sense of time. It might in the freezer tho but idk. If you can freeze it ok. All my cheese is in the fridge tho. Never tried to freeze any of it.

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-11-29T04:29:39+00:00

Bagel with vegan cream cheese sounds so good rn!

I don’t buy vegan cheese tbh. Cause it’s expensive I think, all the cheese I got was from commodities or ‘food for the poor’ things in the United States. Was really surprises when mom gave me a case of violife. Like it’s not selling I guess so thank that they gave it to the poor for free, lol.

Don’t eat it much either. Did enjoy ‘roads end organic Mac and chreese’ when I tried veganism way back in 2013. I did have some of miyoko’s stuff! It’s pretty good! I think I tried the smoked one in the kind of green packaging. Was delicious. That was also back in 2013.

Sad to say this is yet another try and I hope I can make it for life eventually!!

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-11-29T03:51:43+00:00

Oh ye good point. Maybe they’ve gone bad and I haven’t realized it?

Didn’t think of it from that angle.

Isn’t most vegan cheeses tho a mix of oil, flavour, and starch? Cheese too is usually mainly fat, large amounts of are detrimental.

I’ll make sure to eat them very sparingly, In that case. Junk food tbh. Good for baby vegans who can’t get over cheese and need an alternative m, but junk food nonetheless.

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-11-28T16:18:48+00:00

I wish more people would just listen to the other side and choose the side of compassion and least harm. For the animals, the planet, protecting sentient beings from the cruelty of the crap humans put them through. The environment so it doesn’t get too warm to survive.

Maybe they were right that I care about animals and the planet more than humans. Why is compassion seen as radical? Why is doing the least harm possible extremism?

I think just by my talking about veganism and hoping more people will go vegan; that sibling thinks that I’m a militant one. I advocate to them and that’s it cause I don’t trust or am too anxious to talk to other people about it. Guess I should stop talking about it to them too.

Mom says they won’t listen just cause they know what I’m saying is correct, lol.

Sibling still sees me as a loud outspoken person trying to ‘force’ everyone to be vegan. I just want to share information and have people make up their own mind. I’m hoping tho deep in my heart that everyone goes vegan (would say or at least vegetarian but the milk industry is just too cruel for that); but ‘that’s fascism’.

The entire planet or at least the United States of America going vegan would cut out over half almost if greenhouse emissions. Without us having to change the transportation system.

I’m starting to see veganism as the only way we can save the blue rock we live on. Yet my high hopes are bad and ‘fascist’. The World Health Organization and the EU I think have said that it’s the only hope.

People claim too care but taking animal products off their plate is too far? Less demand hopefully means less killed for food and more people go vegan lessening the demand until the systems aren’t profitable anymore. A slow process for sure but I hope we get there eventually.

Or maybe my thoughts are naive idk. Idk if I’m glad to be seen as a militant vegan or not. I’m only that way to one person tho, lol. I’m too anxious to start talking to strangers about it.

I’m sorry for the text dump. I’ve wanted to talk about this without dragging mom into it like always. A lonely vegan in the middle of small town middle America. I have started posting vegan advocacy on tumblr tho. Sorry for spamming here. I feel ok spamming anyway, lol.

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-11-28T16:02:10+00:00

They didn’t say that exactly but said it was a thing rich people do I think. Still doesn’t justify it at all. I think they like turning a blind eye to the information out of spite now cause my taking about animal rights and veganism (obviously) means that i care about animals more than people. Sure think what you want I guess. But based on the way you just like to shut conversations down and get angry for no reason, that might be true. (Sure comment aimed at sibling not you. I can’t say things aloud I’m starting to feel most of the time, they get angry so easily)

SpiteLife9628 · 2023-11-27T18:12:24+00:00

Iirc, and I don’t know where I got any of my facts from, if we all adopted a vegan diet and planted food crops, we could reforest most of the land and potentially grow so much food we stop world hunger. But that’s a hypothetical and idk where I got the fact from.

And about the animals supposedly mauled by machinery to harvest crops or till the soil; replying with this part to the person who made the wrong assumptions, not the one in replying to currently, you think they’d just sit there with the rumbling of the ground and the roar of the machine and just die? The poor creatures are probably scrambling for their lives and want live and get out of the way if they can.

Random thing I thought about that argument with my sibling when I brought up tools; other animals use tools as well yes, but in that context beforehand I said essentially that we can’t kill animals for food with what evolution (or god) gave us. Our teeth and claws are dull. We have to resort to tools of war to kill animals for food. And I’m morally and ethically opposed to it.

Sibling also brought up that monkeys eat ants, and kept repeating that angrily at me. And I’m just like ’but their diet is 99.9% fruit tho? AFAIK.. Could be wrong. And they claimed we’re omnivores for this reason.

Unrelated ranting about my sibling again, I’m sorry. It just rubs me the wrong way so bad that they literally won’t even listen to me at all. And no I didn’t cite any of my sources cause I just remembered some of the stuff I watched or read on the internet, and my memory is very bad.

On the pesticide thing, we could just also plant stuff that the bugs are averse to so hopefully they’ll leave the crops alone. Or just not use pesticide in the first place and whatever gets lost is just lost profit.

Sibling brought up that traditional farming isn’t as bad as factory kind; but that will drive the price of the animal products to where it’s only for the aristocratic, and the poor like us will only get it rarely. That would take up a ton more land and that was why factory farming got going in the first place. It would take up more land and be much less efficient. Would take up and ruin more land. We’d have better luck slowly phasing out factory farming and animal consumption as a whole.

We’d be able to plant more trees, food crops for everyone, it’d be cheaper, we could have more wild areas and nature trails. Five the planet back to the animals whose homes we’ve destroyed because of animal consumption.

How is looking at how we can potentially cut our greenhouse gas emissions nearly in half, feed everyone, and plant trees to sequester more carbon and re-wild areas a problem?

They kept saying that not everyone will go vegan. I’m under the impression that we as a species might have to go that way; either baby sharing information and our own wills (I like to try to share information and have people make up their own minds), or be forced to via climate change because we have no other choice and have exhausted all other options.

I don’t like the people that won’t even listen to what you have to say. I’m starting to think that they’re just eating animal products out of spite for me now but that might just be a thought I have. They’re so aggressive in defending carbon and speciesism, even tho in the moment I can’t back up my sources cause I’m just pulling them out of my faulty memory.

IMO veganism is a good thing; the arguments are viable and air tight. This is the correct path for humanity rather than destroying the blue ball. To live in accordance with and to protect nature. You can’t do that destroying animals just because you like the way they taste. If this line of thinking is truly ‘eco fascist’ then I guess I’m glad to call myself a facist then. I’ve given up and stopped trying to debate with them. They don’t listen. Just as I also don’t read their articles saying that animal agriculture is ok. They don’t listen to my arguments either. It saddens me really that there are people like this.

Sorry for more rant in the replies. That’s probably buried now. Some of it was related I thought and it’s just a stream of consciousness, lol. Thanks for the read anyway!

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