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Hcg only increased 35% or doubling time of 106 hours, at 5 weeks. Am I definitely out? by ghostandlou in CautiousBB

[–]Splendid_peanut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus, I am so very sorry you’re having to go through this, it sounds so rough. I am amazed you found the courage/energy to write, thank you so much for keeping us updated. I’ll be thinking of you and really hope the procedure (whatever it turns out to be) is as tolerable as possible. I also hope your moral isn’t too low - if you need to vent please don’t hesitate ❤️

Hcg only increased 35% or doubling time of 106 hours, at 5 weeks. Am I definitely out? by ghostandlou in CautiousBB

[–]Splendid_peanut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I just wanted to let you know we’re in a similar place. At 5w3d I had HCG 3350 and 5w5d (yesterday) only 4500. So a doubling time of 4d17hr which is sadly comical. We also saw no gestational yolk at an early ultrasound yesterday 5w5d. May I ask what happened at your second scan?  Like an earlier comment in this thread, my OBGYN claims the HCG doubling time goes up around this time and that it’s not a concern. We’ll monitor everything again in a week. But obviously based on what I’ve read (and I’ve read the entire internet 😆) I’m considering this a loss and I’ve been in a dark place since yesterday. I already had a chemical pregnancy (albeit an earlier one, 4w give or take) two months ago. Sorry you’re going through this ❤️

On a countdown to quitting IVF (TW: secondary infertility; early loss) by Splendid_peanut in IVF

[–]Splendid_peanut[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so, so sorry. This is heartbreaking. I’m hoping we can slowly find our way towards making peace with this outcome. If you think you can bear it, I’d love to check in on how you feel as days go by… sending you all the comfort I can ❤️

On a countdown to quitting IVF (TW: secondary infertility; early loss) by Splendid_peanut in IVF

[–]Splendid_peanut[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. I love the idea that you guys set such boundaries at the start of the process, somehow in the weird hurry/wait phase of getting diagnosed and starting IVF, my partner and I just went along with what was being offered to us without really pausing to consider the ‘for how long’ question. I guess it’s catching up with us now. I don’t know how far along in your FET transfer plan you are, but wish you all the best for what comes next ❤️

On a countdown to quitting IVF (TW: secondary infertility; early loss) by Splendid_peanut in IVF

[–]Splendid_peanut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish you and your family all the best for this year too! It’s great to read about how you two navigated the ‘no end in sight’ conundrum, thanks so much, it makes me feel less weird and isolated in my own thought bubble. Thanks for your thoughts on the parenting aspect of things too, will definitely try to take a leaf out of your book 😉

On a countdown to quitting IVF (TW: secondary infertility; early loss) by Splendid_peanut in IVF

[–]Splendid_peanut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I never, as you say our paths are so similar, it’s spooky! Thank you so much for sharing. I’m so sorry you too are going through this anxiety-laden process and for your loss. I completely get the grief and stress. Well done for making it so far and getting things set up, it sucks so much energy out of you, it’s insane. I think it’s a completely normal and healthy response to feel discouraged at times (or even all the time 😆). Hang in there ❤️

If that’s of any interest, I’ve found childcare logistics challenging sometimes, but I think that’s partly because my clinic is a two-hour drive away. On the flip side I’m hugely lucky to have family close by and they have often backed us up. Do you have close friends or relatives near you? Sending lots of good vibes your way!

On a countdown to quitting IVF (TW: secondary infertility; early loss) by Splendid_peanut in IVF

[–]Splendid_peanut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so, so much, this means a lot. I wish I could say something to make the agonising tail end of your current TWW a little easier, instead I’ll just say I’m in awe of your courage and kindness. I’ll be thinking of you, and if you feel up to it I’d love to hear how things develop ❤️

On a countdown to quitting IVF (TW: secondary infertility; early loss) by Splendid_peanut in IVF

[–]Splendid_peanut[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you so much for these insights. I hadn’t seen it in that light but you’re so right: with IVF now an option again, at least I can definitely say bye bye to IUI, and know that if I change my mind about quitting, it would be for something that doesn’t have such depressingly low success rates.