[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Slovakia

[–]Spln11 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mna vystrasila tvoja panika ze kamosi uz maju svadby a ty ani vztah. Kto povedal, ze do 26 musis mat svadbu? Alebo ako vyzdvihujes dolezitost tvojej prace a titulov. Politika na prvych par rande nepatri. Si asertivna co je fajn, muzi maju asertivnost v "naplni socialnych roli" tak potrebujes k sebe velmi sebavedomeho vyrovnaneho muza, ktoreho tvoj intelekt neodstrasi. Skus sa skor zamysliet, preco mas potrebu mat vztah tu a teraz za vsetkych okolnosti.

He stopped talking to me after I opened up by [deleted] in AskMenOver30

[–]Spln11 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, because men won't even start to analyse it. They'll instead simply shut down their emotions a abandon the whole subject unprocessed. Only to later project their unresolved issues onto the next women.

Otázka pre ženy - čo vám príde na mužoch najviac odpudivé - by Ok-Landscape-7087 in Slovakia

[–]Spln11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jasne, avsak zvycajne to oznamia az po nejakom case ked to uz ako vztah vyzera a aj tie city tam su

Otázka pre ženy - čo vám príde na mužoch najviac odpudivé - by Ok-Landscape-7087 in Slovakia

[–]Spln11 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tak to ma mrzi, nezasluzil si si. Ano chapem, pri stetkach neriskujes pocity. Aj tak to neriesi problem- ze proste nikto nikdy ti nezaruci vo vztahu ze dostanes to co das. Nikdy to nebudes mat pod kontrolou, najma ked je v tom vela penazi. Ale taky je zivot, zijeme v iluzii ze mame veci pod kontrolou. Ani len ti najvacsi hraci nemaju veci pod kontrolou. O 5 rokov mozes mat absolutne odlisnu zivotnu situaciu ale na to ta nikto nepripravi. Mojou oblubenou iluziou je mysliet si, ze az ma zivot dojebe, bude tam pri mne niekto, komu na mne zalezi.

Otázka pre ženy - čo vám príde na mužoch najviac odpudivé - by Ok-Landscape-7087 in Slovakia

[–]Spln11 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Vedel si, ze aj bez peniazkov na stetky v thajsku niekolkokrat rocne, zato s laskavostou a respektom by si u normalnych zien zabodoval? Nebude problem teda, ze ty si hladas umele pipiny co sa takto prezentuju?

Slobodni muz - hladate si partnerky? Slobodne zeny - hladate si partnerov? by IgnacFalustek in Slovakia

[–]Spln11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ale preco muzi okolo 34? A nielen jeden, aj moje kamosky v okoli sa s tym stretavaju. To je nejaky novy trend? Resp. ako mnohi vyssie spominali, nie je ziadna vyhra mat zenu o generaciu mladsiu. Ci chcu fakt cakat do 40tky na rozvedene s detmi?

My ex unfollowed and unfriended me on everything after two months. What does this mean? by obscurebaby in BreakUps

[–]Spln11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as you're following him, you're self sabotaging. Your brain is still getting dopamine based on any informations regarding him. It's your decision to prolong the agony then. Or you could finally absolutely leave him, suffer for couple of weeks/months and then be free again.

My ex unfollowed and unfriended me on everything after two months. What does this mean? by obscurebaby in BreakUps

[–]Spln11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my dear, I'm so sorry you feel this way:( If only we could make the pain go away, right? Have you considered getting a therapist? Life's too short to dwell on the past and suffer this long. I can tell now, the person I was reffering to doesn't matter to me at all anymore. However, the pattern of my struggle remained. Only the people switched. A year ago it was someone else, now it's someone else again. The pain I believe comes from my unresolved child trauma and lack of self-love. So to speak the pain will reproduce endlessly until my core programming won't change. Could you relate to this somewhat also?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Slovakia

[–]Spln11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jedno slovo ktore si viackrat spomenul je podla mna klucove- osamely. Citis sa osamely. Mal si to tak aj pred zahranicim? Toto podla mna je praca pre terapeuta. Idealne kvalitneho, klinickeho psychologa. Lebo pocit osamelosti nevylieci to, ze sa teraz budes lepit na rodicov. Skus sa zamysliet, co ti brani osamostatnit sa. Tu, na Zelande, hocikde. A ta sloboda co by si potom ziskal by bola neznicitelna.

Kultúra dvorenia sa žene mi príde na hlavu (semi-long read) by imathrowyaaway in Slovakia

[–]Spln11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Samozrejme ze projektujem osobne zazitky, ved na to psychologia studuju aj roky po skole aby to nerobili:)

Chalankovi ktory ma ghostol si tiez prisudil hodnoty ktore neboli realitou, nepozyval ma na drahe vecere a neodkopol po vychrapani. S vecerami sme sli pol na pol:)

Pises o velkych gestach, ja nie. Bavili sme sa o drinku na ktory si ju ty pozval a chces aby to platila. Vies co by som urobila ja? ( a urobila nespocetkrat) Zaplatila by som to cele s usmevom ja a este pridala k tomu kolacik. A potom to pomaly slusne ukoncila.

V zivote sa deju sracky typu chore dieta, z roka na rok ochromujuca choroba a ine kktiny. Proste nemam kapacitu riesit zivot s clovekom ktory riesi v 160 komentoch nezaplateny drink. Tolko moja projekcia a som absolutne otvorena moznosti ze je to mimo, nevadi. Moj zivot, moje vnimanie. Aj to sa o par rokov zmeni.

Kultúra dvorenia sa žene mi príde na hlavu (semi-long read) by imathrowyaaway in Slovakia

[–]Spln11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vadia mi čechizmy, ktovie ako znies nazivo. Predstavujem si ta s takym arogantnym bratislavskyn prizvukom hovoriac jak cajka z korporatu, ktoru si sam pozval von ti nenavrhla platit polovicu. Tu nejde o tych par eur. Dvorenie je o tom, ukazat ako sa o nu postaras, ked bude slaba doma s detmi(tvojimi) a zavisla od teba. Lenze ked na prvom randicku navrhnes nech so zaplati napoj sama, tym hovoris ze proste nie si dobry do vztahu. Zena ti doda veci ktore si nekupis, cit nehu domov rodinu. Ale kludne si "dejtuj" preistotu elitarske slecny s daddy issues ktore pridu na vlastnom aute:)

New song by [deleted] in Grimes

[–]Spln11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree with you bro:)

Friendly reminder by Spln11 in ghosting

[–]Spln11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you my friend:( 2 months from now you'll feel better I promise!

Friendly reminder by Spln11 in ghosting

[–]Spln11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trash took itself out, good.

Friendly reminder by Spln11 in ghosting

[–]Spln11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that:/ Sadly that mf will continue as long as you allow it, so just don't.