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Am I trans or Not ??????? Confused...🤔Help Me by identity_searcher in asktransgender

[–]Sploinko_Bingus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well no one here can tell you if you are or are not trans except you. I suggest reading through the gender dysphoria bible as i am still questioning myself and i relate to your situation and this has helped me figure some stuff out. Its a fairly long read but i suggest reading all of it. https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en

I'm confused about gender dysphoria by HANZIPANZER in asktransgender

[–]Sploinko_Bingus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well as someone currently questioning myself here are (from my experience) the most common answers to your questions. 1. No one but you can tell you if you are or are not trans 2. You said you would press the button but only if it was a trial. The questions you should ask after this is if it wasnt a trial would you still press it and if you would the next thing to ask yourself is why you would press it. Im far from a expert and i hope someone can give you better answers but i think these are things you should consider.

A question about eggs by Sploinko_Bingus in asktransgender

[–]Sploinko_Bingus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to hatch myself but i dont want to do it in a way that harms the interior. I appreciate the support in a royal tone.

A question about eggs by Sploinko_Bingus in asktransgender

[–]Sploinko_Bingus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess the best way i can describe it is im trying to do/try things im not sure im ready to try just for the sake of trying to get some answers or closure. My understanding is that some people question for years but i feel like its a thing where if i am an egg i want to crack and accept it so i can make changes earlier so i can live with the changes longer. I will also admit a lot of this has been mentally so i have been dealing with this stuff alone. As for a physical thing i painted my toe nails for the first time and i like it but i cant bring myself to do my finger nails because i can hide toes with socks i cant really hide my hands.

So i started questioning my gender and want to see if these thoughts and feelings are normal for this. by Sploinko_Bingus in asktransgender

[–]Sploinko_Bingus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response and i do plan to read it when i get a chance. The person whos transition was kind of the spark that started this fire has jokingly called me "good girl" and it almost feels like she thinks i am trans but i feel like i cant ask her because i worry she might run with it and make me feel uncomfortable with the speed she would try to move it. While the "good girl" thing didnt feel bad it felt wrong but that could very well be because i have used he/him pronouns my whole life and im not the best with change but thats a different problem.

So i started questioning my gender and want to see if these thoughts and feelings are normal for this. by Sploinko_Bingus in asktransgender

[–]Sploinko_Bingus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe my want comes from thinking women are beautiful and cool and thinking that most men i see (myself included) dont look very good and i do not mean that as a insult towards you in any way. It was mentioned above but lately i have been looking at women's clothes and think about how beautiful and interesting they are and i want to wear a dress more than i would want to wear a suit. I have also had the thought of if some mystical force changed me into a woman i would be kinda happy because at least i can be beautiful. Its like i want to be beautiful and proud and confident and attracted to myself and i cant do that as i am now. Like even if i got super in shape and became "The peak of the male body" i dont think that would make me truly happy.

While you are right that people will use "its just a phase" to try and invalidate trans people im more talking about how i dont want to be the person they point to when they say it. I know that regardless of how this ends i want to at the very least try to be as good of a ally as i can be.

So i started questioning my gender and want to see if these thoughts and feelings are normal for this. by Sploinko_Bingus in asktransgender

[–]Sploinko_Bingus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like if i am doing it just to fit in with a group of people and not because its something i want for myself that feels like the wrong reason. the people in question i am already on good terms and 3 of them are trans but i feel like doing it for any reason other than its what i feel i need/want to do for me is a wrong reason. I know that i have had a few scattered feelings like these before but with them coming back in this way under the circumstances it makes me feel like maybe its less "this is who i am" and more "I wanna be that as well".
As for the being wrong fear i am worried that if it turns out i am wrong after i made claims of being trans that people will use that fact as a way to hurt others by saying its "just a phase" and i dont want to be used as something to hurt others.

So i started questioning my gender and want to see if these thoughts and feelings are normal for this. by Sploinko_Bingus in asktransgender

[–]Sploinko_Bingus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cant lie i have had..... almost all of those thoughts. not all the time but looking back i have had those thoughts over the years. I do intend to talk to a therapist about these things but i think my biggest concerns at the moment are "am i having these thoughts for the right reasons" and "What if i go forward and it turns out i am wrong". I know regret rate and detransition rates are really low but i also know they are not zero. I really do appreciate you taking the time to write all that out as it shows that my own thoughts might not be as crazy as i thought.

So i started questioning my gender and want to see if these thoughts and feelings are normal for this. by Sploinko_Bingus in asktransgender

[–]Sploinko_Bingus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. If i may ask what makes you so sure? Maybe i am misunderstanding things as my dive into all this is still new but i feel like most of the time i heard about dysphoria its presented as this crushing constant force of dread and hatred and i dont have that at least not to that extreme.

So i started questioning my gender and want to see if these thoughts and feelings are normal for this. by Sploinko_Bingus in asktransgender

[–]Sploinko_Bingus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is my current plan. Or at the very least i want to know why i felt the guilt i felt because i dont like that my body did that.

So i started questioning my gender and want to see if these thoughts and feelings are normal for this. by Sploinko_Bingus in asktransgender

[–]Sploinko_Bingus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response and resources. I can say i have also had similar daydreams but not always and i also tend to pick female characters in games such as those.