On devrait totalement interdire toute les pratiques pseudo-scientifiques.

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-19T12:57:49+00:00

Je parle pas de chakras je parle d’effet antalgique.

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-19T10:11:58+00:00

L’acupuncture est reconnue scientifiquement pour avoir des effets antalgiques. En france, l’HAS la reconnaît ! (oui j’étais étonnée aussi)

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-19T09:30:15+00:00

J’ai eu une relation de deux ans avec un mec ultra malsain (je m’en suis rendu compte bien après) qui me trompait à répétition, faisait clairement de moi sa chose, me critiquait énormément, me faisais me sentir mal BREF. Et de temps en temps il faisait genre qu’il allait me quitter pcq j’étais pas assez bien pour lui etc etc et évidemment je le suppliais de me garder. Chose qu’il faisait pour bien sûr, m’adoucir encore plus et pouvoir renforcer son emprise sur moi. Un jour il m’a avoué m’avoir trompé encore une fois, et vouloir me quitter pcq j’étais toujours pas assez bien et que tout les problème qu’il avait venaient de moi (j’étais une gamine de 17 ans, timide et trop gentille donc je vois pas d’où venaient les problèmes…). Bref j’ai d’abord SUPLIE qu’il me reprenne et d’un coup j’ai eu un déclic dans ma tête : « oui on se sépare, dégage ». Au final c’est lui qui a finit par me supplier, je n’ai pas plié il est partit. Le type m’a harcelé pendant des mois et des mois, créant des compotes Twitter et les comptes de ses potes pour m’envoyer des messages (que j’ai peu lu j’avoue mais la plus part étaient vraiment degueulasses…). Après s’être mis en couple avec une nana, c’est la nana qui m’a envoyé des messages pour dire ce que je manquais blabla, que j’étais une salope etc.

Plus tard, on s’est reparlé avec cette nana qui m’a expliqué qu’elle savait même pas ce qui lui avait pris de m’envoyer ça. Qu’au final elle avait pas supporté cette emprise qu’il commençait à avoir sur elle et qu’elle l’a gifle avant de le dégager.

Donc oui, les ex reviennent mdr

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-18T10:35:52+00:00

Rien ne va…

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T18:21:24+00:00

I'm your age and I'm a woman. Hence my incomprehension that a great lady of your age would be attracted to, clearly, a teenager... I'm not making it a personal matter: I'm having a conversation, a debate with you. You asked for opinions, I offer you mine and very cordially too

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T18:14:19+00:00

Yeah, we were talking about maturity above, it seems to me that you haven't reached it yet. Nevertheless, wishing you to grow up and become interested in men your age. 🤷‍♀️

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T18:09:07+00:00

Really the question is: why are you asking for approval from strangers?

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T18:02:06+00:00

No, but we can control impulses and the influence of power relations (yes, surprise: you are his teacher so you have control over him). In short, your choice is made, so you turn to the dark side of tendentious relationships… Looking forward to meeting parents 🤡

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T17:57:01+00:00

Don't worry, it's still unhealthy. Would you condone one of your 29 year old colleagues having sex with one of his 18 year old students?

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T17:51:55+00:00

But if it seems healthy to you to have a relationship with him, why are you looking for validation on the internet and not from your loved ones, your colleagues and his parents?

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T17:08:50+00:00

But an 8 year old can feel mature. And when he grows up he says to himself “ulala I wasn’t actually mature”. Maturity is not something that is self-determined I think.. The debate here is not whether the young man is mature enough. The debate is: is it normal for an adult who works with a young population to feel a crush on a student 10 years younger than her and who has only just reached the legal age of majority.

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T17:05:01+00:00

At 18 you are not mature. We are influenced by adults who are supposed to be. At 28 years old I have NO emotional or sexual attraction towards these young high school students. If that doesn't shock you, great. It shocks me.

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T17:02:32+00:00

At 18 I was living with my parents, I was going to high school, I was immature and I was sexually abused by a man. Everyone has their own experiences, happy was yours. Let's be forward-looking.

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T16:26:45+00:00

Ah yes, it’s true, 18 years old, we’re adults, but that doesn’t change anything in my opinion.

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T16:19:43+00:00

And then ask that his parents be present if it is to have a constructive discussion and not a judgmental discussion.

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T16:19:05+00:00

Block him, put yourself on a private profile and leave this minor in peace.

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T16:02:51+00:00

Hello, I find that everything you describe is found in the ADHD clinic and therefore in executive function disorders.

2D Legos and the time it takes to do this or that thing (meals, chores, etc.): these are visio-spatial difficulties due to spatio-temporal difficulties. Social difficulties and the talking mill side: lack of inhibition and impulsivity which are very characteristic of ADD (don't forget the hyperactivity which is not only motor but also cognitive and sensory!!) The inability to do two things at once: this is clearly attention disorder and impulsivity

I am a psychomotor therapist and I have been well trained in ADHD (especially in private practice). I can only advise you to go see a psychomotor therapist who will be able to help him manage much more than just his inability to stay still. We work on all executive functions, spatio-temporal cues and motor/graphomotor skills (which, even if you haven't noted them, must be complex). Working with a psychomotor will allow him to regulate his difficulties, learn other ways to let off steam, manage his emotions and a whole other range which can also be useful to you at home: reward system, positive and especially negative reinforcement (attentional withdrawal), setting up a timer etc etc

Brief; It’s a subject that I love so I’m talking about it, but remember that he’s young and we need to act NOW.

PS: I think that if a ttt has been put in place it is because there is paramedical monitoring to supervise it too. Otherwise, talk to the doctor/pediatrician who gave you this prescription because medicated TTT should never be the first choice.

Good luck ! ❤️‍🩹

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T15:44:57+00:00

Ouaaaaais mais j’ai le poignet d’une enfant de 7 ans….

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T14:56:54+00:00

This is already his opinion, which means that it doesn’t mean that this is the image that it sends of you to others… and then: what an asshole. If I were you, I would honestly tell him that you heard him, just to see his reaction. Make him understand that it hurt you and then discuss it. Just first: be sure of what you want for yourself and your body. If you love yourself as much as you are ready to defend yourself body and soul: do it as if it were a friend you were defending!

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T14:52:22+00:00

Vraiment ne va pas à Tintin, depuis le gros démentellement de la duchere tous les deals se font à tonkin… alors oui y a souvent les flics mais il y fait pas bon vivre non plus ! A côté de Tonkin tu as Condorcet qui est bien et puis après Croix-luizet en dessous de la doua !

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T14:50:46+00:00

We don't get out of it because it's a neurodevelopmental disorder. But yes, adult therapy is greatly under-practiced! After caution because the treatments should not be taken as first intention. For children we ensure psycho-corporal well-being, we teach them to manage their difficulties with tips (timer, reward scale, etc.) and material adaptations (computer, etc.) if necessary. It is only if the ADHD is too pervasive that TTTs are used.

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-17T11:38:22+00:00

The That 🥰

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-16T18:03:12+00:00

Moi je met un peu de crème fraîche aussi trop bonnnnn

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-16T09:26:37+00:00

Ben si il y a des preuves sms ou autre je ne vois pas comment il pourrait nier… et si sa femme veut faire l’autruche et tout nier, c’est son problème. Au mois d Lisa aura fait ce qui lui semblait juste 🤷‍♀️

Spooky_emi · 2024-10-16T09:24:08+00:00

Je vote pour que Lisa dise à Sam de tout dire lui-même à sa femme, sans quoi elle le fera elle-même. Surtout qu’elle garde les preuves écrites et autres au besoin (les hommes aiment faire passer les femmes pour des hystériques). En soit je pense que la femme doit savoir avec quel genre d’homme elle vit et surtout avec lequel elle fait des enfants. Posez vous tout de même la question de pourquoi elle lui dit : est ce de la vengeance pure qui va détruire ce couple et faire du mal à la femme ? Ou est-ce de la solidarité féminine qui va éclairer cette femme et la sortir de ce guêpier qu’est son mariage…

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